Chapter 8: HELP

advice

ADVICE

This is a word that is welcomed warmly by some people but not by everybody all the time.

ADVICE

It helps in achieving goals in a better way, some advice really do make life for somebody, it encourages, corrects, teaches a lot of things to us as well as in every path of our career, but at the same time this at times acts a tool for discouragement, distracting, hurting somebody’s feeling and ego that brings down people towards disappointment.

FACTORS TO CONSIDER IN GIVING ADVICE

Give advice who welcomes it

Be particular rendering advice on certain matters

Respect the feeling of every person

Give advice who welcomes it

When advice is given, it should be short, to the point without compelling others to follow your advice. It is also essential that while giving advice, one should be fair and not being biased.

Be particular rendering advice on certain matters

If a friend of yours wants to buy a car and requests for your advice in the matter, our aim should be to give him details and recommendations about things to be purchased but we need not to say to go for some particular brand or item.

Respect the feeling of every person

“It is all about how you express your suggestion" or you want to enforce the suggestion to somebody, you express ‘order’ in your words or you understand the need of the other person and look for the convenient time so that the piece of advice you give to the person is taken in a positive way that would help the person to apply it and acquire success in that particular field or as he likes.

FRAMEWORK IN ASKING AND GIVING ADVICE

Example of Askingand Giving Advice

Andrew: I'm a terrible at English and I should do something about it. What do you suggest?Karen: You should try this blog. It is a fantastic blog.Andrew: I've heard about it, but, what do you think I should start with?Karen: You'd better start with the lessons. Then, try the activities.

Things to remember: You use should and ought to when you are trying

to say something is advisable. For example: You should buy a pen. or You ought to buy a pen. (It would be good if you buy a pen, but not urgent)

You use had better when you are giving urgent, strong advise.For example: You had better buy a pen.

Use: What do you think I should do? What do you suggest?What would you do (in this situation)

TAKING ADVICE

Six things to consider the next time someone says, “Well, if I were you..

A- Accept advice graciously.D- Don’t get defensive.V- View the advice-giver from the eyes of Christ. I- Inquire in prayer if the advice is applicable to your life.C- Consider the value of the relationship first. E- Evaluate with your spouse the best way to handle offensive advice. 

IN SOME CASE, LISTENING ADVICE TAKES YOU FROM THIS..

To this….