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    One of the responsibilities of worship leaders is to build and cultivate a community of fellow musicians tohelp serve the congregation in leading worship. You can call that community a worship team, worshipband, praise team, praise band, band or whatever term you come up with. Whatever you call it, it can bea great joy to lead this kind of community of fellow-musicians. It can also be really difficult.

    Musicians have the infamous artistic temperament that makes them not only opinionated, and not onlycomfortable sharing those opinions, but turns those opinions into rights. Musicians then want to protecttheir rights and their territories against anyone who would seek to invade. Plus, theyre sinners likeeveryone else.

    From time to time, if youre a worship leader attempting to lead a healthy worship team, you will befaced with difficult situations when youll need to bring correction to one of your fellow musicians, or inmore difficult situations, bring discipline. You will lose sleep over these situations, and you will want toavoid them. But sometimes it will be clear to you that you need to address an issue with a member ofyour team.

    Here are six mistakes Ive made, that you shouldnt make, when disciplining or correcting a worship teammember.

    1. Interact Primarily Over EmailIf at all possible, avoid the use of email from beginning to end. The more difficult the type of interaction,the more healthy it is. A face-to-face conversation is crucial. If thats impossible, then a phone call. Underno circumstances should you interact over email. Emails can be so much more easily misinterpreted,misread, forwarded, blind-copied and saved forever. Pretend youre handling this before the invention ofthe computer.

    2. Insist on Meeting on Your TurfDo not insist that the meeting take place on church property, or in your office. Thats your turf, not theirs,and it will immediately cause their defenses to go up. Not good. Find a neutral place, and a public place,for both of you. A coffee shop or a restaurant. This will level the playing field and increase the odds of arelaxed atmosphere.

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    3. Handle It All By YourselfYou have people over you. Take advantage of their covering. The single most stupid thing Ive done whenIve had to deal with a difficult issue is keep it from my pastor until it had blown up. Consult him, ask himwhat you should do, have your pastor in the meeting with you and keep him totally in the loop. Dont putyourself in a position to take all the bullets or do/say something unwise. Use the covering God has putover you.

    4. Let It SimmerSo a band member has a profanity-laced temper tantrum at rehearsal. The rest of the team is shocked.Youre shocked. Theyre all wondering if youre going to address it. Tension is building. Dont let it simmer.You might not think stopping rehearsal is wise, but address it before the guy goes home. It might beeasier in the short-term to let things slide, but in the long-term it will build tension and pressure in yourteam that will be unhealthy.

    5. Dont Know What Outcome You WantOn a scale of 1-5, 1 being minor correction (i.e., I can tell you didnt practice one single bit and thatswhy you ruined half of the songs) and 5 being major correction (i.e. ,I need to ask you to step down fromthe team for a while), you need to know what you want for the person. If you go into ameeting/conversation with the person without an acceptable outcome in mind, then you could very likelyget trampled on.

    6. Be Unwilling to ApologizeYoure not perfect. You dont communicate with your team as well as you could. You lead a rehearsal onan empty stomach and say something mean-spirited to your drummer. You ask a singer to sing a songyou know he or she cant pull off. It could be anything. Be the first to apologize, the first to showcontrition and humility, and genuinely ask forgiveness for things youve done wrong. Even if your apologyisnt reciprocated, youve done the right thing and will get a better nights sleep even if the meetingdoesnt end the way you hoped.

    Its a great joy to lead a worship team. Its also hard work. If youre faithful and consistent in the hardthings, then the joy, morale and unity on your team will increase. If you avoid the hard things, then noone will be happy.

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    Jamie Brown is the Director of Worship and Arts at Truro Anglican Church in Fairfax, VA. Before coming toTruro, he served at The Falls Church Anglican for ten years. Born into a ministry family and leadingworship since the age of twelve, Jamie is devoted to helping worship leaders lead well and seeingcongregations engaged in Spirit-filled, Jesus-centered worship. Hes currently pursuing a Master of Arts inReligion through Reformed Theological Seminary. He and his wife, Catherine, have three little girls. Jamieregularly blogs at WorthilyMagnify.com and has released three worship albums: A Thousand Amens,We Will Proclaim, and For Our Salvation.

    More from Jamie Brown or visit Jamie at http://worthilymagnify.com/

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