why do we get shy

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WHY DO WE GET SHY?

(BUSINESS COMMUNICATION)

WHAT IS SHYNESS

?

Shyness is the difficulty to deal with or being worried and afraid that something unpleasant may happen which some people feel

when approaching or being approached by other

people. It’s seen that shy people often desperately

want to connect with others, but don’t know how or can’t tolerate the anxiety

that comes with human interaction. Shyness is also

called diffidence.

FACTS ABOUT

SHYNESS:

Initial cause of shyness vary from person to person.

Scientists believe that they have located genetic data supporting the hypothesis that shyness is at least partially genetic.

There is also evidence that suggests the environment in which a person is raised can also be responsible for shyness. This may be a result of child abuse or emotional abuse such as ridicule.

HOW A PERSON DISPLAYS SHYNESS!

Shyness may originate when a person has experienced a physical anxiety (displeasing feeling of fear and concern) reaction.

Otherwise it has also been seen, that shyness is the reason behind anxiety reactions.

The stronger degree of shyness is social anxiety or social phobia.

WHY DO WE

FEEL SHY?

• Excessive self consciousness: Self consciousness is that ‘everyone is watching me’ feeling.

•Excessive negative self evaluation: The thoughts that there is something wrong with you, you say and do the wrong things. Basically you see yourself in a negative light.

•Excessive negative self-preoccupation: You are overly aware of what you are doing, and see it in a negative light.

Shyness may come from genetic traits or can be a personal personality trait.

It can be entrenched by the environment in which a person is raised.

It can be based on personal experience while going through stages of development in children.

TYPES OF SHYNESS

The reclusePeople under this category do not have any outside interest. These people may experience extreme unease even while interacting with relatives, other his parents or siblings. Fear and resignation are the key words here.

The shy optimistBeing the most open minded and likely to seek solutions, the shy optimist is very keen to improve his situation and has the greatest chance of success.

The shy pessimistPeople under this category have friends but they are few in number. If male, he has basically resigned himself to the misery of having continuously poor track record with women. The shy pessimist usually has difficulty talking to most woman, even those he is not romantically interested in.

HOW A SHY PERSON MISSES OUT THE MOST

IMPORTANT OPPORTUNITIES OF

LIFE!

WAYS TO OVER COME

SHYNESS:

Start with very, very small talk and simple actions: Getting your feet wet.

Develop conversation skills: How to keep talking.

Rehearse what you are going to say: Practice makes perfect.

Perform social graces: Give (kindness) and you shall receive (kindness).

Reduce your sense of self-consciousness: The whole world is not looking at you.

Focus on your social successes: Stop whipping yourself.

Avoid overgeneralizations: It may not be your fault.

Avoid perfectionism: Nobody's perfect.

Learn to take rejection: No one is liked by everyone.

Find your comfort zone: Do what fits you.

THANK YOU! By:

ASHWARYA CHAUDHARY

SUDIPTA SABHARWAL

TANISHKA SHARMA

SHIVANI SINGHAL

SHUBHAM SHRIVASTAVA