Post on 12-May-2015
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From Description To Solution
Using A Problem Against Itself
By
Andy Hunt
© Andy Hunt, Practical Wellbeing, 2013
What to expect
How descriptions cause problems
and
How to use descriptions to find creative solutions
Would you like an apple?
Would you like a delicious apple?
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Would you like a rotten apple?
Image courtesy of Alison E Dunn
The label tells you how to respond to the object
Labels
● Description – What 'it' is like
Labels
● Description – What 'it' is like● Prescription – How we should think and feel
The Power Of The Label
● Housework is easy
The Power Of The Label
● Housework is easy● Housework is a struggle
The Power Of The Label
● Housework is easy● Housework is a struggle
● I am upset
The Power Of The Label
● Housework is easy● Housework is a struggle
● I am upset● I am devastated
The Power Of The Label
● Housework is easy● Housework is a struggle
● I am upset● I am devastated
● Work is interesting
The Power Of The Label
● Housework is easy● Housework is a struggle
● I am upset● I am devastated
● Work is interesting● Work is boring
The Problem With Labels
How we label the problem contributes to how we think and feel about it.
Problem Goggles
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How can we use these labels to help us?
The Nobel Art Of Label Jitsu
Step 1: Find The Labels
Step 1: Find The Labels
This situation/problem is:● …● …● …● …● ...
Step 1: Find The Labels
This situation/problem is:● hard● …● …● …● ...
Step 1: Find The Labels
This situation/problem is:● hard● painful● …● …● ...
Step 1: Find The Labels
This situation/problem is:● hard● painful● a struggle● …● ...
Step 1: Find The Labels
This situation/problem is:● hard● painful● a struggle● unfair● ...
Step 2: Find The Strongest Label
This situation/problem is:● hard● painful● a struggle● unfair● ...
Step 3: Defuse the label
If the emotional charge on the label is high, this needs to be softened before moving on.
Step 3: Defuse the label
If the emotional charge on the label is high, this needs to be softened before moving on.
Use regular tapping: “Even though … etc”. to bring down the charge.
How do you go from problem to solution?
● Problem state
How do you go from problem to solution?
● Neutral state
How do you go from problem to solution?
● What's next?
?
Why not use the Choices Method?
Pat Carrington's Choices Method:
“Even though I [problem], I choose to [solution]”
Why not use the Choices Method?
Pat Carrington's Choices Method:
“Even though I [problem], I choose to [solution]”
Two disadvantages:
Why not use the Choices Method?
Pat Carrington's Choices Method:
“Even though I [problem], I choose to [solution]”
Two disadvantages:● The choice is made by your conscious mind
Why not use the Choices Method?
Pat Carrington's Choices Method:
“Even though I [problem], I choose to [solution]”
Two disadvantages:● The choice is made by your conscious mind● The choice is just one choice.
What's an alternative?
Paradoxical Tapping
What's an alternative?
Paradoxical Tapping● Creates many alternative solutions
What's an alternative?
Paradoxical Tapping● Creates many alternative solutions● Engages the creative unconscious mind
What's an alternative?
Paradoxical Tapping● Creates many alternative solutions● Engages the creative unconscious mind● Side steps the doubting conscious mind
What's an alternative?
Paradoxical Tapping● Creates many alternative solutions● Engages the creative unconscious mind● Side steps the doubting conscious mind● Taps out any problems with the solutions
Step 4: Paradoxical Tapping
Part 1: Find The Opposite
Step 4: Paradoxical Tapping
Part 1: Find The Opposite
a struggle ...
Step 4: Paradoxical Tapping
Part 1: Find The Opposite
a struggle … a delight
Step 4: Paradoxical Tapping
Part 2: Create the paradoxical tapping statement
Step 4: Paradoxical Tapping
Part 2: Create the paradoxical tapping statement
I [label], and in how many different ways could I [opposite]?
Step 4: Paradoxical Tapping
Part 2: Create the paradoxical tapping statement
I [label], and in how many different ways could I [opposite]?
It is [label], and in how many different ways could it [opposite]?
Step 4: Paradoxical Tapping
Part 2: Create the paradoxical tapping statement
I am discouraged, and in how many different ways could I be enthusiastic?
Step 4: Paradoxical Tapping
Part 2: Create the paradoxical tapping statement
It is a struggle, and in how many different ways could it be a delight?
Step 4: Paradoxical Tapping
Part 3: The setup statement
Even though it is a struggle, I accept myself and how I feel. x 3
Step 4: Paradoxical Tapping
Part 4: Alternate tapping the paradoxical phrase● EB: It is a struggle,
Step 4: Paradoxical Tapping
Part 4: Alternate tapping the paradoxical phrase● EB: It is a struggle,● SE: and in how many different ways could it be
a delight?
Step 4: Paradoxical Tapping
Part 4: Alternate tapping the paradoxical phrase● EB: It is a struggle,● SE: and in how many different ways could it be
a delight?● UE: It is a struggle,
Step 4: Paradoxical Tapping
Part 4: Alternate tapping the paradoxical phrase● EB: It is a struggle,● SE: and in how many different ways could it be
a delight?● UE: It is a struggle, ● UN: and in how many different ways could it be
a delight?
Step 4: Paradoxical Tapping
Part 4: Alternate tapping the paradoxical phrase● EB: It is a struggle,● SE: and in how many different ways could it be
a delight?● UE: It is a struggle, ● UN: and in how many different ways could it be
a delight?● repeat through the tapping points
Step 5. Test
● Test how you think and feel about the problem now.
● Rinse and repeat as necessary
Paradoxical Tapping Results
● Original problem eased
Paradoxical Tapping Results
● Original problem eased● Thinking and feeling about the problem
situation becomes more resourceful and flexible.
Paradoxical Tapping Tips
● It works best on negative thoughts and emotions to help you be more resourceful.
Paradoxical Tapping Tips
● It works best on negative thoughts and emotions to help you be more resourceful.
● It doesn't work on external factors
Paradoxical Tapping Tips
● It works best on negative thoughts and emotions to help you be more resourceful.
● It doesn't work on external factors● It is a tactic not a strategy, best for
dissolving/resolving components of bigger problems.
Next webinar: What Works For Me
How I approach using EFT to work on everyday issues and challenges.
Some of the strategies and tactics I've developed over the past 10 years tapping
Thursday, December 19th, 3pm GMT