STEP LADDER TO AUTHENTICITY

CHARACTERISTICS CORE BELIEFS

FEAR FEAR

Reactive Life is Painful/I’m not OK

Complaining It’s a jungle out there

“Have To” Motivation Can’t trust people

DUTY DUTY

Conforming/Struggling Don’t rock the boat

“Ought to” defined by others I’m OK if others like me

Governed by pleasing others Life is not always “safe”

Resigned (this is my lot in life) Others OK if they like me

Governed by circumstances

ACHIEVEMENT ACHIEVEMENT

Achieving I must perform well

“Ought to” defined by self I’m OK if successful

Proactive More is better

Hard-working Life is hard work

AUTHENTICITY AUTHENTICITY

Genuine/Real/Congruent I’m OK though imperfect

“Choose to” motivation People are trustworthy

Responsible for choices Life is what I make it

Governed by principles Experiences reflect beliefs