Safer Internet Day 2019

Parent/carer eSafety Evening

Quick Quiz

• Which devices does your child have internet access on

• Which apps your child chats with friends on

• How many hours on average do your children use the internet

per week

Who are we?

• Gorsey Bank eCadets

• Mr Johnson– School Computing Lead

• Dr. Carl Windsor– Senior Director, Product Manager @ Internet Security Company,

Fortinet @tangallio

– Co-opted School Governor

Media Use

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Source: Ofcom Children and parents: media use and attitudes report 2018

Media Use

Source: Digital friendships: the role of technology in young people's friendships (2018)

The Internet Revolution

How the Internet is changing the world

Eighty per cent of jobs that will exist in 2025 don’t exist

today; we have to prepare our students and graduates for a

world that’s essentially not possible to prepare them for.

Professor Martin Boehm

Source: Times Higher Educational Supplement

How the Internet is changing the world

The internet is an extraordinary force for good.

Children can use it to do amazing things:

• Wealth of resources for learning

• Young people can celebrate their creativity and find their identity

• Families can communicate across the globe

• Make friends

• Learn about new places

• Learn new things – How to play the guitar, code, solve a Rubiks cube

How the Internet is changing the world

Andrew Sutherland

www.quizlet.com

Age 15

$10M year revenue

Catherine Cook

www.MyYearBook.com

Age 15

Sold for $100 M

www.missoandfriends.com

Age 16

Valued at $15M

Juliette Brindak Robert Nay

Bubble ball

Age 14

$2M in 2 weeks

GoDimensions

Age 10 & 12

Valued at $15M

GoDonate charity app

Shravan & Sanjay

Kumaran

The Internet Revolution

• …..but like most things, the internet was not designed with children in mind.

• Children can find the internet to be scary– I wonder what other people will think of me online

– I see, and sometimes receive, mean comments

– I worry about how my siblings use social media

– I don’t know who I can trust online

– I see things that weren’t meant for me to see

– I don’t understand why my parents need to post pictures of me

– I have to be on social media because everyone else is

– I get scared when I think about what could happen if I am not safe on social media

– I am different to the people I see online

– I don’t have anything good to post

– I feel jealous when I see what other people are doing and the things they have

– I sometimes don’t know what to do when bad things happen on social media

– I get lots of messages even when I don’t want to be on my phone

Source: Children's Commissioner - Growing up digital

Kids need parental support on the internet

The Tide Pod

challenge

The cinnamon

challenge

The banana and

Sprite challenge

Salt Ice

Challenge

The Internet Revolution

Source: Ofcom Children and parents: media use and attitudes report 2018

The Internet Revolution

The Internet Revolution

Source: Ofcom Children and parents: media use and attitudes report 2018

Social Media

Social Media

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Source: Ofcom Children and parents: media use and attitudes report 2018

Proportion with social media profile Main social media sites used among

12-15s with a social media profile

Social Media

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Source: Digital friendships: the role of technology in young people's friendships (2018)

Social Media

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Source: Ofcom Children and parents: media use and attitudes report 2018

Social Media

Source: Safer Internet Power of Image Report 2017

Social Media

Source: Digital friendships: the role of technology in young people's friendships (2018)

Best and the worst of Social Media

What are the potential positive effects of social media on health?

• Access to other people’s health experiences and expert

health information

• Emotional support and community building

• Self-expression and self-identity

• Making, maintaining and building upon relationships

Nearly seven in 10 teens report receiving support on

social media during tough or challenging times

Best and the worst of Social Media

• Fake news

– Reputable source (author, domain, website)?

– Is it sound too good to be true / unbelievable?

– Check

• http://www.snopes.com

• http://www.tineye.com

• Social Media filter bubble

– Algorithm driven news

– Confirmation bias

Best and the worst of Social Media

Source: Status of Mind: Social media and young people’s mental health

Best and the worst of Social Media

Source: Status of Mind: Social media and young people’s mental health

Impact of Social Media on Sleep - FoMO

Lenhart, Ling, Campbell & Purcell, 2010 86% of adolescents sleep with their phone in the bedroom –

often under their pillow or in their hand

Social media use may directly displace sleep or interfere with melatonin production via digital screen

exposure at bedtime Cain & Gradisar, 2010

Night time-specific social media use significantly predicted poorer sleep, whereas overall use did not.

Adolescents who are more emotionally connected to social media sites, feeling upset and disconnected

when they cannot use social media, may therefore struggle to relax at bedtime for fear of missing out

on new messages or content.

Woods, H. C. and Scott, H. (2016) #Sleepyteens: social media use in adolescence is associated with

poor sleep quality, anxiety, depression and low self-esteem. Journal of Adolescence, 51, pp. 41-49.

What can we do?

Building digital resilience

A person with resilience learns from things that go wrong

so that they can find a new way or ask for the help they

need to reach their goal

Source: Children's Commissioner - Growing up digital

Building digital resilience

• Fatalistic/passive or passive coping

– Hope the problem will go away by

itself

– Stop using the internet for a while

Communicative coping

– Talk to somebody about the problem

Proactive coping (problem-solving)

– Try to fix the problem

– Delete unwelcome messages

(online)

– Block sender (online) Source: How cope and build online resilience

Building digital resilience

Source: Digital friendships: the role of technology in young people's friendships (2018)

Building digital resilience

• Encourage open communication. Talking about the problem

can bring emotional relief, and is often the first step in

reaching a suitable solution if a child feels bothered by online

risks.

• Show children how to use proactive coping strategies (e.g.

delete messages, block contacts, report providers) from an

early age

• Parents who are frequent internet users themselves feel more

confident with the medium, and also feel more confident in

guiding their children on the internet.

Source: How cope and build online resilience

Be a better role model

• Put the phones down. Practice what we preach.

• Turn off notifications

• Stop sharenting– The average parent shares almost 1,500 images

of their child online before their fifth birthday

– 28%, said they never thought to ask their child if they minded uploading images of them online.

• Check your privacy settings– only 10% of parents reported to be ‘very

confident’ in managing privacy settings

• Think before posting – would you have been upset if your parents had posted this?

• Create smaller family groups or share via other methods (File Sharing, Whatsapp)

Source: Parentzone

Is there any evidence for the effects of screen harm?

• Minimal direct evidence but…….– Screen time displaces positive activity such as sleep,

time with family and exercise

– Evidence of less healthy diet and increased levels of obesity

– Some evidence of increased depressive symptoms for >2hours screen time per day, but some studies show some screen time is better for mental health than none at all.

• Recommended that no screen time 1 hour before bed time for all ages

– 72% of all children and 89% of adolescents have at least 1 device in their sleep environment, with most used near bedtime – JAMA Pediatrics

Source: Health impacts of screen time: a guide for clinicians and parents

Source: American Academy of Pediatrics

What can I do for my children?

• Agree tech use rules up front

– How much use per day

– When it must stop

– Homework

• Keep tech out of the childrensbedrooms

– Sleep is key

• Be part of their experience

– Talk about what they are playing / reading /chatting about

Don’t stop learning

Source: Vodafone Digital Parenting Magazine

Where to go for support

BBC OwnIt

– Cyber Bullying

– Online Terminology

– How do I report or block a

bully?

– What to do if……

Where to go for support

• Parental Controls

https://www.saferinternet.org.uk/advice-

centre/parents-and-carers/parental-controls-offered-

your-home-internet-provider

Where to go for support

• Where to go for support

https://www.net-aware.org.uk/

Where to go for support

• Application and Website

Suitability – https://www.betterinternetforkids.eu/web/porta

l/onlineservices

Where to go for support

https://www.saferinternet.org.uk/advice-

centre/social-media-guides

https://www.saferinternet.org.uk/advice-centre/parents-and-carers/safety-tools-social-networks-and-other-online-services

https://www.saferinternet.org.uk/advice-centre/parents-

and-carers/parents-guide-technology/gaming-devices

https://www.saferinternet.org.uk/advice-

centre/parents-and-carers/safety-tools-online-

services/web-browsers

Where to go for support

• Reviews

– Movies

– TV

– Games

– Apps

– Websites

https://www.commonsensemedia.org/

Our Family Online Agreement

…………......................................………agree(s) to:

• Ask before sharing photos of the children

• Check the security levels of my apps and

who can view shared photos.

• Understand what my children are doing and

become an active role model

• Be there to help when things go wrong

without judging or shouting.

We all agree to:

• Talk calmly to explain our concerns and work

together to help each other. If we don’t know

something, we will work together to find an

answer.

• Put down our devices around the dinner

table, in restaurants and communicate.

• Spend time doing things away from our tech.

• Stop taking our phones with us to bed, it is

not healthy.

• Learn that our tech can wait. We will not

miss anything if we ignore our devices for a

few minutes and speak.

…………......................................………agree(s) to:

• Limit online time so that it doesn’t interfere with other activities. We will not let tech take time away from homework, sports, face- to-face interactions or family time.

• Check before I install a new app and check the security of who can chat / view photos

• Never give out personal information e.g. last name, address or phone number.

• Never meet in real life, anyone I have met online without my parents permission

• Talk to my parents if I see something that makes me feel uncomfortable or do not understand.

• Tell my parents if anyone uses bad language or mentions things that make me uncomfortable.

• Always think “would I be happy for Mum, Dad, Gran, Grandad, Mrs Woolley to see this” before posting anything on the internet.

• Ask before sharing photos of myself.

• Switch off at night.

• Follow the rules to stay safe when away from home as well

Creating a family agreement is a great way to start conversations about online safety and discuss any worries you might have. Do this together,

edit this template and review regularly to keep up-to-date.

Adapted from O2 / NSPCC ShareAware

Family AgreementSigned……………………………………………………...… Signed………………………………………………………...

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