And those who are taken in death among you and leave wives behind - they, [the wives, shall] wait four months and ten
[days]. And when they have fulfilled their term, then there is no blame upon you for
what they do with themselves in an acceptable manner. And Allah is [fully]
Acquainted with what you do.
Ayah 234
The Prophet (s.a.w) said
“It is not lawful for a woman who believes in Allah and the Last Day,
that she should mourn a dead person for more than three days
except in the case of her husband whom she should mourn for four
months and ten days.” [Muslim]
Prohibitions During Iddah
Use of Cosmetics
Dressing Up Nikah
Applying Perfume
Leaving Husband’s Home(without a dire need)
There is no blame upon you for that to which you [indirectly] allude concerning a proposal to women or for what you conceal within yourselves. Allah knows that you will have them in mind. But do not promise them secretly except for saying a proper saying. And do not determine to undertake a marriage contract until the decreed period reaches its end. And know
that Allah knows what is within yourselves, so beware of Him. And know that Allah is Forgiving and
Forbearing.
Ayah 235
No Hidden Promises
أ3ن إ9ال1 ا Fر س9 د/وه/ن1 ت/و3اع9 ال1ا Lوف ع-ر/ م1 Lو-ال ق3 ول/وا- ت3ق/
Indirectly Directly & Secretly
النSك3اح9 د3ة3 ع/ق- وا- ت3ع-ز9م/ و3ال3ل3ه/ أ3ج3 ال-ك9ت3اب/ ي3ب-ل/غ3 ت1ى3 ح3
No Nikah Before Four Lunar Months & Ten Days
ي3ع-ل3م/ الل1ه3 أ3ن1 - وا و3اع-ل3م/ك/م- س9 أ3نف/ ف9ي ا م3
وه/ ذ3ر/ اح- Watch your thoughts, forف3they become words.
Watch your words, for they become actions.
Reflection
• Nowadays no one even thinks of sending the widowed/divorced
woman a proposal because she’s seen as “used” or “baggage”
There is no blame upon you if you divorce women you have not touched nor specified for them an obligation. But give them [a gift
of] compensation - the wealthy according to his capability and the poor according to
his capability - a provision according to what is acceptable, a duty upon the doers
of good.
Ayah 236
ت/م/ ط3ل1ق- إ9ن ع3ل3ي-ك/م- ن3اح3 ج/ ال1و-
3 أ gوه/ن gت3م3س ل3م- ا م3 اء النSس3 Lة ر9يض3 ف3 ن1 ل3ه/ - وا ر9ض/ ت3ف-
Mahr is Not Decided
Marriage is not Consummated
&
Give What You Can
And if you divorce them before you have touched them and you have already specified for them
an obligation, then [give] half of what you specified - unless they forego the right or the one in whose hand is the marriage contract
foregoes it. And to forego it is nearer to righteousness. And do not forget graciousness
between you. Indeed Allah , of whatever you do, is Seeing.
Ayah 237
وه/ن1 gت3م3س أ3ن ب-ل9 ق3 م9ن ت/م/وه/ن1 ط3ل1ق- إ9ن و3ا م3 ن9ص-ف/ ف3 Lة ر9يض3 ف3 ن1 ل3ه/ ت/م- ض- ر3 ف3 د- و3ق3
ت/م- ض- ر3 ف3
Mahr is Decided
Marriage is not Consummated
&
Maintain with care the [obligatory] prayers and [in particular] the middle
prayer and stand before Allah , devoutly obedient.
Ayah 238
Imagine You are a Factory!
Damaged
BestDamaged
Rejected
You Produce DeedsYou are a Factory
Check the Quality of Your Salah!
ل3و3ات9 الص1 ع3ل3ى اف9ظ/وا- ح3
Fاف ح64 ظ1وا
Properly
Fulfilling All Pillars
Fulfilling All
Conditions
Sunnah Way
On Time
Regular
And if you fear [an enemy, then pray] on foot or riding. But when you are secure, then remember Allah [in prayer], as He has taught you that which you did not
[previously] know.
Ayah 239
Excuses We Make
I know I have to pray, but I am
too tired & lazy.
Allah is al-Ghafoor ar-Raheem. He
will forgive me.
I am SO busy at work, I don't have time to
pray
When Allaah guides me, i
will
I pray; I just delay it until it is convenient for me or I pray it
Qadaa
I pray the 4 prayers. I only
miss Fajr because I have to do
Ghusl
I want to pray but my children are so young I
can't leave them and pray
If I pray, I will be fired from my job!
I can't pray at my job/school/public place. I am too
embarrassed /they will think I am a TERRORIST!
I have made so many mistakes in
my life, it is no use for me to pray. Allah will never
forgive me.
If I pray, people will think that I show off. So I
don't pray
I don't pray, but I have a good
heart
Hadith
Prophet (s.a.w) mentioned prayer one day and said: "Whoever observes it regularly, it will be light and a proof
and salvation on the Day of Resurrection, and whoever does not observe it regularly, it will not be a light or a proof or salvation for him, and on the Day of Resurrection he
will be with Qaroon, Fir'aun, Hamaan and Ubayy ibn Khalaf." (Ahmad).
Ibn al Qayyim’s Explanation
These four people are mentioned because they are the leaders of kufr. This makes an important point
about the one who does not observe regular prayer, whether that is because he is distracted
by his wealth, his power, his position of leadership or his business. The one who is distracted from it by his wealth will be with
Qaroon; the one who is distracted by his power will be with Fir'aun; the one who is distracted by his position of leadership will be with Hamaan
and the one who is distracted by his business will be with Ubayy ibn Khalaf."
ا م1 ك/م ع3ل1م3 ا ك3م3 الل1ه3 - وا اذ-ك/ر/ت3ع-ل3م/ون3 - ت3ك/ون/وا ?So what should man do ل3م-
1. Acknowledge that this is a great blessing of Allah.2. Ask for more knowledge with humility.
Knowledge
Acknowledge! It is a
blessing
Ask Allah for more
Knowledge
And those who are taken in death among you and leave wives behind - for their wives is a bequest: maintenance for one year without
turning [them] out. But if they leave [of their own accord], then there is no blame upon
you for what they do with themselves in an acceptable way. And Allah is Exalted in Might
and Wise.
Ayah 240
And for divorced women is a provision according to what is acceptable - a duty
upon the righteous.
Ayah 241
Mataa’ Cases
Cases
Case One
Case Two
Case Three
Case Four
Nikah
Yes
Yes
Yes
Yes
Consummation
No
No
Yes
Yes
Mahr Fixed
?
No
Yes
Yes
No
Mataa’
Give What You Can
Give Half of Fixed Mahr
Give Full Mahr
Give What is ConventionalMuta’ Talaq
Before these ayahs, perhaps we had no idea about the importance
of ihsaan and gift giving even during times of divorce
REFLECTIONS
• To respond to the ayahs• What did you get out of it?• To make an assessment of the universe which
you experience• Your response to experiences, opinions,
events • Your thoughts & feelings
WHY REFLECT?
• A way of thinking to explore your learning• An opportunity to gain self-knowledge• A way to achieve clarity and better understanding
of what you are learning• A chance to develop and reinforce writing skills• A way of making meaning out of what you study• It’s a command of the Qu’ran!
EXAMPLES
• I learned that widowed women have to stay waiting for 4 months and 10 days
• IS THIS A FACT OR LESSON?• How to turn this into a lesson…• I learned that Allah SWT is so merciful to
women that He allows them to have time on their own after their husband passes away so that they are not bothered by advances of other people
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