Actions Speak
LOUDER Than Words
Communicating via Nonverbal CuesBody language impacts a great deal of how we communicate and can reflect quite accurately how we feel Nonverbal cues act as powerful supplements to verbal messagesHow body language adds to what we say: Shows emotions Illustrates verbal points Replaces verbal messages Signals changes in conversation
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So, How Does The Body Speak? Like any spoken language,
body language has words, sentences and punctuation
Each gesture is like a single word and one word may have several different meanings
Additionally, the tone of voice, the rate of speech and the pitch of the voice all add to the words that are being used
Types of Non-verbal Communication
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The Face vs. The BodyFacial expressions Offer the most nonverbal information Clearly indicate emotions and feelings Show how people react in response to information,
conversation or other actions Body Actions and Posture Orientation Position Posture Gestures Head Movements
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Do you know what you are saying?
People react to what you say and do
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What do our actions say about us?
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What do our actions say? (continued)
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Your words should match your actions
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EyesEye contact Encouraged in America, Canada, Europe Considered rude in some Asian/African countriesRaising eyebrows Means “Yes” in Thailand and some Asian countries Means “Hello” in the PhilippinesWinking eye Signals sharing secrets or a joke in America and Europe Considered a flirtatious gesture in other countriesClosed eyes Signals boredom or sleepiness in America “I’m listening and concentrating” in Japan, Thailand, China
Head Movements Tossing the head backward is “Yes” in Thailand, the Philippines,
India, Laos Rocking head slowly, back and forth is “Yes, I’m listening” in
most Asian cultures Nodding the head is “Yes” in most societies but means “No” in
some parts of Greece, Yugoslavia, Bulgaria and TurkeyNote: Nodding can have more than one meaning
Body PositioningBody orientation = angle at which speaker’s body turns toward/away from a listenerOpen Positions Elbows away from the body Hands apart Legs crossedClosed Positions Crossed arms or legsLeaning Forward, backward or sideways tilt of a person to
another person
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PosturePositioning of the upper body Relaxed posture has slightly drooping shoulders
and an arched back A neutral posture has a straight back A rigid posture has an unnaturally straight back
with the shoulders back
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Arms Some cultures use their arms freely For others, it is considered impolite to gesticulate with broad
movements of the arms Folded arms commonly interpreted as a form of excluding
yourself ● “I am taking a defensive posture” ● “I disagree with what I am hearing”
Arms akimbo stance signals aggression, resistance, impatience or even anger
Arms behind back and hands grasped interpreted as sign of ease and control
Arms in front and hands grasped viewed as a sign of mutual respect in some Asian countries
HandsOf all the body parts, the hands are probably used most for communicating non-verbally Hand waves are used for greetings, beckoning, or
farewells The Italian “good-bye” wave can be interpreted by Americans
as the gesture of “come here” The American “good-bye” wave can be interpreted in many
parts of Europe and Latin America as the signal for “no” Handshaking is a form of greeting in most Western
cultures In the Middle East, a gentle grip is appropriate In some Asian cultures, a gentle grip and an avoidance of direct
eye contact is appropriate
FingersThe “O.K.” signal means: “Fine,” or “O.K.” in most cultures “Zero” or “worthless” in some parts of Europe “Money” in Japan Considered an insult in Greece, Brazil, Italy, Turkey, Russia and some
other countries
“Thumb-up” means: “O.K.” “good job” or “fine” in most cultures “Up yours!” in Australia “Five” in Japan; “One” in Germany Avoid a thumb-up in these countries: Australia, New Zealand,
Greece, Turkey, Iran, Russia, and most African countries
Fingers (continued)
Pointing Pointing with the index
finger is common in North America and Europe
But it is considered impolite in Japan and China where they favor using the whole open hand
Malaysians prefer pointing with the thumb
Legs and FeetIn Asia and some European countries, putting feet up on a desk or any other piece of furniture is very disrespectfulSitting cross-legged, while common in North America and some European countries, is very impolite in other parts of the worldIn most Asian countries, a solid and balanced sitting posture is the prevailing custom and sitting cross-legged shows the sign of disrespectIn the Middle East and most parts of Asia, resting the ankle over the other knee risks pointing the sole of your shoe at another person, which is considered a rude gesture
How Close is Too Close?
Intimate Touching 6”-18”Personal Close: 1½ to 2½ feet Far: 2½ to 4 ½ feet
Social Close: 4-7 feet Far: 7-12 feetPublic Close: 12-25 feet Far: 25 feet or greater
What happens when you invade someone’s space?
Reactions to an invasion of personal space can vary Feel troubled Get defensive Become aggressive Retaliate
Effective Nonverbal Communication
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Maintain direct eye contact Direct eye contact shows openness and interest and
makes you look honest and trustworthyUse appropriate facial expressions for the subject matter you are discussingHave good posture and stanceUse appropriate gestures but don’t overdo itMake sure that the tone of your voice is appropriate for the conversationGive acknowledgment responses to show attentiveness and interest
Positive Nonverbal IndicatorsMeaning of Nonverbal Indicators
Examples
Openness, Confidence Opening hands with palms up, unbuttoning jacket, maintaining eye contact, smiling and leaning forward
Cooperation, Eagerness Smiling, maintaining eye contact, rubbing palms together, standing with hands on hips
Professionalism Sitting up straight, maintaining eye contact, leaning forward, taking notes
Evaluation, Interest Placing hand on cheek, stroking chin, leaning forward, tilting head slightly to one side, arching eyebrows
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Reading Nonverbal CuesRecognize that people communicate on many levels Become accustomed to watching body language and your
ability to read nonverbal cues will grow with practice Every gesture, facial expression, hand/feet and body
movement communicates something If a person’s words say one thing and their body language
says another, you are apt to listen to the nonverbal communication – and that is usually the correct decision
Body language may vary between individuals, and between different cultures and nationalities It is essential to verify and confirm signals you are reading
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Don’t Assume – You could be wrong
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Resources Skillsoft Skillbrief, Types of Nonverbal Cues (accessed via
http://www.Skillport.com on 04/06/2011) Body Language: Guide to Reading Body Language Signals (accessed via
http://www.businessballs.com on 04/13/2011) Skillsoft Skillbrief, Verbal and Nonverbal Communication with a Positive
Attitude, Communication Skills for Successful Management (accessed via http://www.Skillport.com on 04/06/2011)
Skillsoft Skillbrief, Cultural Differences in Nonverbal Communication (accessed via http://www.Skillport.com on 04/06/2011)
Rugsaken, Kris, The Body Speaks: The Importance of Body Language, National Academic Advising Association Conference (2005)
Murugan, Seema, Non-verbal Communication (accessed via http://www.hss.iitb.ac.in/courses/n-v.pdf on 04/13/2011)
Tyler, V. Lynn, Intercultural Interacting (1987)
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