Working With Your Children So They Can Be Their Best

WORKING WITH YOUR

CHILDREN SO THEY CAN BE

THEIR BEST

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Working With Your Children So They Can Be Their Best

• IM

• Self determination theory

• Collaborative Problem Solving

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I Just Want My Child to be Happy


Happiness is a Side Effect of Other Factors

• Skills/competence

• Internal motivation/autonomy

• Connection to others

• Meaning


What Are You Hoping For?

• Obedience

• Compliance


• Responsibility

• Caring

• Competence and

• Moral behaviour

Aim for IM

Internal motivation: your child does

something because he is inner

directed and not to avoid

punishment.


Law of the Harvest


Self Motivation and Healthy Psychological Development are Natural Processes


Self Determination Theory



Relatedness, Competence and

Autonomy are three innate

psychological needs. When met, they

lead to enhanced self-motivation and

mental health.


Relatedness to Others

• Deep, meaningful, attachment to

others starting at birth.


NOT THIS


Celebrate Your Child’s Life


Communicate Often, Face to Face

• Dinner table discussion

• Face to face

• Share feelings

• Remember details


Competence or Mastery is Achieved When a Child is Given Success Experiences


Behavioural Guidance


Completing a Project


Self Determination Continuum


Autonomy Means the Childs Opinion is Valued


CPS: Collaborative Problem Solving

• Allow your child to be part of the

solution.

• Ask questions.

• Think things through together.


The formulation of a problem is often

more essential than its solution.

- Albert Einstein


Kids Do Well If They Can

Doing well is always preferable to

not doing well (if a kid has the skills

to do well in the first place).



This, of course, is a dramatic departure

from the view of challenging kids as

attention-seeking, manipulative,

coercive, limit-testing, and poorly

motivated.



The single most important thing a

care-giver can do to help a

behaviourally challenging child is to

be the person who, at long last,

identifies the lagging skills and

unsolved problems that have been

contributing to challenging

episodes.

- Dr Ross W Greene


Problem Solving Plan

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These ARE Different Lenses!


Identifying Problems and Solutions Without Words


Good parenting means being

responsive to the hand you’ve been

dealt.

- Dr Ross W Greene


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Working With Your Children So They Can Be Their Best

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