Why Teenage Marriage Fails

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Why Teenage marriage fails. Teen marriage was not a big issue in the old times. Life expectancy was shorter then and most of our economy was depended on agriculture and farming. People were less educated and large number of children was considered a boon as it meant more hands to work and greater prosperity. But times have changed now. Boys and girls both are opting for higher education and a good financial position before they marry. They have become more conscious about their health, birth control and know more about sex and how to avoid unplanned pregnancy. Trying to achieve ambitions before taking on the responsibility of marriage results in delay of marriage and child bearing. Thus, support systems for these very young couples have diminished and even become non-existent and they have become an exception in the society. Teenage marriage has become a challenge in the modern age. The first reason that comes to our minds about a teenage marriage is an unplanned pregnancy, and rightly so. Most of the adolescents who decide to have an early marriage do so because they are faced with an unplanned pregnancy and they feel that they need to bear the responsibility of the child, even though they are not settled in their own lives. While abortions and adoptions are an option, they think that they have done something wrong and it is their duty to bear the consequences too. It is a very wrong approach to marriage, to start with. Most teens are still not educated or mature enough or have enough financial responsibilities to shoulder a family or parenthood. In such cases, adoption is an opportunity where the teens may place their child in loving hands and give them a secure life while they can work to become more stable themselves. They may also consider open adoption, so that they can meet their child when they are ready and see how the child is doing in his or her life. Some of the challenges that teenage couples may have to face include not having the privilege to sign for even the most basic of services such as renting or car purchasing. Though, in some countries they may attain the ‘adult’ status by

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Why Teenage marriage fails.

Teen marriage was not a big issue in the old times. Life expectancy was shorter then and most of our economy was depended on agriculture and farming. People were less educated and large number of children was considered a boon as it meant more hands to work and greater prosperity. But times have changed now. Boys and girls both are opting for higher education and a good financial position before they marry. They have become more conscious about their health, birth control and know more about sex and how to avoid unplanned pregnancy. Trying to achieve ambitions before taking on the responsibility of marriage results in delay of marriage and child bearing.

Thus, support systems for these very young couples have diminished and even become non-existent and they have become an exception in the society. Teenage marriage has become a challenge in the modern age. The first reason that comes to our minds about a teenage marriage is an unplanned pregnancy, and rightly so. Most of the adolescents who decide to have an early marriage do so because they are faced with an unplanned pregnancy and they feel that they need to bear the responsibility of the child, even though they are not settled in their own lives. While abortions and adoptions are an option, they think that they have done something wrong and it is their duty to bear the consequences too. It is a very wrong approach to marriage, to start with.

Most teens are still not educated or mature enough or have enough financial responsibilities to shoulder a family or parenthood. In such cases, adoption is an opportunity where the teens may place their child in loving hands and give them a secure life while they can work to become more stable themselves. They may also consider open adoption, so that they can meet their child when they are ready and see how the child is doing in his or her life. Some of the challenges that teenage couples may have to face include not having the privilege to sign for even the most basic of services such as renting or car purchasing.

Though, in some countries they may attain the ‘adult’ status by marriage if not by age, in most places it is not so. The other challenges may include that married teenagers may not get admissions to some public school systems easily and they can miss the educational opportunities. They may not be able to buy insurance for themselves, especially if they do not have parent’s financial support. Many insurance policies do not allow married teens with separate households to be covered by their parents’ insurance, regardless of their ages.

There may be financial aid programs available for married teens at some places where they do not have to reveal parental sources of income and can attain educational assistance. Then, there are normal problems associated with ‘growing up’ that can get much more complicated and difficult with family responsibilities to bear and the couple may miss the critical time for learning and development. Thus, it is better to avoid teenage marriages and wait until the couple attains the status of ‘adult’ before starting a family life.

Importance of Marriage

Marriage is a huge deal to many in society. This is an institution where you are supposed to spend the rest of your life in. Marriage preparation therefore becomes very necessary. Couples need to prepare for marriage. This is because they are entering an unfamiliar territory. There is so much to learn about on what a marriage entails. Many spend a lot of time preparing for a wedding but, often neglect the most important aspect of the union; the marriage. There are so many people who also recognize that they must prepare for marriage. But what exactly goes into preparing for a marriage? There are many things that couples who are preparing to get married can do to prepare. I'm talking about premarital counseling. Also, there are courses tailored for couples for marriage preparation. They simply play the role of informing and advising young or old people who want to get married, what to do when they get into marital union. The following is a layout of a course for marriage preparation that will be helpful to you as you prepare. It is a course that will help your explore all your strengths and weaknesses in regard to marriage.

Feelings about Teenage Pregnancy.

Teenage pregnancy is one of the most important and alarming issues in today's world. A teenage pregnancy, also referred to as teen pregnancy, comes to be when a girl attains motherhood before she becomes a major or adult, as laid down by the law of the land.

Why teenage pregnancies occur depend on a plethora of causes. Many ethnic groups and societies actually celebrate teenage pregnancies, as they give enough proof of the fact that the girl is fertile and is capable of bearing children. But in most developed nations, such pregnancies are looked down upon as a social stigma.

No matter what others' reaction might be to a teenager becoming pregnant, this event is often dangerous for both the mother and child concerned. The teenager is usually vulnerable and is only growing into a woman. The teenage mother's body is still fragile and the reproductive system is just starting to function properly. At this point of time, bearing a child to term and giving birth to it can be both mentally and physically stressful for her.

Why do teenage pregnancies occur?

There are many reasons for teenage pregnancies today. While it is common culture in some societies, most pregnancies occur due to the following reasons:

Consequence of raging hormones!

Most teenagers experience sudden and hitherto unknown emotions and feelings during their early puberty. They feel a natural sense of rebelling against the set norms as well. All this, coupled with a sudden sense of new-found freedom and sexuality, results in many of them giving vent to their feelings through sexual expressions and experiences. Of course, most countries stress on

sex education in schools, but yet, some teenagers involve themselves in unsafe sex, which could lead to unwanted pregnancies. This is one of the most vital reasons for teenage pregnancies at this time.

Pressure from the peer group

A lot of teenagers indulge in early sexual behavior due to peer pressure. Teenagers growing in largely promiscuous societies tend to date far earlier than others in slightly more conventional setups. This is due to the fact that they feel the great need to be 'hip' and 'accepted' by their circle of friends. The only way they could probably achieve that would be by having a boyfriend or girlfriend or at least by dating and indulging in sexual acts often. This kind of rash behavior could lead to unintended pregnancies.

Contraceptive failure

This is yet another very fundamental reason for teenage pregnancies today. Though there are many types and brands of contraceptives and emergency birth control pills easily available in the market, these are never a guarantee for complete safety. Only Mother Nature knows when she might want to get into action, so no form of birth control is going to be completely foolproof! Sometimes, not knowing how to use a contraceptive properly can lead to unwanted teenage pregnancy.

Conclusion

Educating your teenager about the consequences of promiscuous behavior and giving him/her a loving, balanced home atmosphere, can actually go a long way in curbing unwanted teenage pregnancy in the future. This, along with stern steps taken by both the school and the government will surely help nip this problem in the bud.