WHYPEOPLECHEAT?

CHEATING or INFI-DELITY

It happens because of problems in their relationship. Something is missing, pas-sion has faded, partners feel lonely. A partner finds someone who treats them better or who appreciates them more than their current partner, and so on.

Three primary types of reasons for cheating

Individual reasonsRelationship reasonsSituational reasons

Individual ReasonsThe phrase “once a cheater, always a cheater” refers to individual reasons for cheating---qualities about the per-son that make him or her more prone to commit infidelity.

• Gender• Personality• Religiosity and Political Orientation

Relationship Rea-sons

Researchers find that partnerships characterized by dissatisfac-tion, unfulfilling sex, and high conflict are at higher risk for infi-delity.

Dissimilar partners are—in terms of personality, educational level, and other factors—the more likely they are to experi-ence infidelity

Situational ReasonsSomething about their environment puts them at risk to commit cheating

o Spending time in settings with many attractive people can make cheating more likely

o Work involves touching other people, having per-sonal discussions, or a great deal of one-on-one time

reasons why people cheat

on their partners even

when everything seems

perfect …

They’re not ready to settle down

They have fear of being vulnerable enough to stay with a person long term

They’re insecureMany people are insecure with themselves, and having a side fling makes them feel wanted, sexually desired , and as if they sill have what it takes to play the dating field

They’re a habitual liar

Sometimes, no matter how much someone says they care about you, deep down, they’re so good at lying they don’t even know the truth anymore

They’re unhappy with their lifePeople who are unhappy with their lives will make poor decisions because they’re not thinking clearly from the start

They don’t love the other per-son

You should never be with someone just to have a partner, and you deserve someone that will truly love you where cheating won’t be part of the picture

They enjoy the playing field

Some people actually just like having multiple things on the side and appear-ing as if they’re a one-relationship type of person for their friends, family, co-workers, etc

They can’t confide in their partnerIf a person in a relationship can’t confide in their partner, they will ultimately end up finding someone else, usually of the opposite sex, to talk about things

THINGS EVERYONE CAN DO IN ORDER TO MINIMIZE THE RISK OF INFIDELITY:

Do the work it takes to know yourself as a sexual person Communicate to your partner who are sexuallyAsk questions and listen to who they are as a sexual person Keep an open mind and heart. Be willing to try new things to-gether Instead of distracting yourself and avoiding the problem, try to remain present and engagedBe honest: Honest with yourself and honest with your partner

CHEATING IS WRONG, NO MATTER WHAT THE

REASON IS.

REFERENCE

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/more-chemistry/201403/why-people-cheat

http://psychologytomorrowmagazine.com/popuartic-alyssa-siegel-my-cheating-heart/

http://love.allwomenstalk.com/reasons-why-people-cheat-on-their-partners-even-when-everything-seems-perfect