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Why Does My Child Behave Like That?
Practical Strategies for Parents of Kids on the Asperger/Autism
Spectrum
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Our Kids
Flexible Thinking
GeneralizationMain Idea
OrganizationProblem-solving
PerspectiveTaking
UnwrittenSocial Rules
SocialCommunication
Self AwarenessSelf Advocacy
AttentionImpulse Control
Regulation of Emotions and Anxiety
SensoryRegulation
Looking through an Asperger’s/Autism
Lens
© Asperger/Autism Network www.aane.org
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Ever feel this way?
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Building Positive InteractionsAvoid “Four Cardinal Sins”
Thomas Phelan (2004)
• Nagging
• Lecturing
• Arguing
• Offering unscheduled, spontaneous advice
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Building Positive InteractionsWhat to do Instead
• Talk less or keep silent
• Make an appointment to discuss the issue
• Seek to understand their point of view
• Car
• Use humor
• Enjoy each other!
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Learning About EmotionsMeltdown Cycle
Teachable
Moment
Rumbling Meltdown Recovery Teachable Moment
Learn early signs of stress
Nothing is worth the explosion!
Brenda Smith Myles
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Learning About Emotions
• Pictures in books• Special interests• Cartoons/Comics• TV/Movies• Apps • Video-replay• Charades/Drama• “Talking out loud”• Hi-Low
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Self-RegulationThe Incredible 5 Point Scale by Kari Dunn Buron & Mitzi Curtis
Level Person, Place or Thing
Makes me feel like this
5 This could make me lose control!
4 (Find a quiet place)
This can really upset me!
3 This can make me feel nervous
2 (Use calming sequence)
This sometimes bothers me
1 This never bothers me
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Self-Regulation Strategies The Incredible 5 Point Scale by Kari Dunn Buron & Mitzi Curtis
Rating Size of Problem Responses
5 Catastrophe
(Fire)
“I have to follow directions and move fast.”
4 Big
(Mom in Hospital)
“Lots of people can help us.”
3 Medium
(Friend can’t play today)
“I can call someone else.”
2 Small
(Lost homework)
“I can talk to the teacher.”
1 Glitch
(Don’t like my lunch)
“Maybe dinner will be better.”
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Self-Regulation StrategiesThe Incredible 5 Point Scale by Kari Dunn Buron & Mitzi Curtis
Rating Type of Word Example What will happen
5 Threatening Swearing at teacher
Get in trouble
Detention
4 Angry “Get out of my face”
Detention and stern lecture
3 Hurtful “I don’t care what you think”
Nobody wants to be with you.
2 Just fine “Could I take a break?”
You might get what you need!
1 Sweet “Thanks for your help.”
People want to be with and help you.
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Fostering FlexibilityCleaning Your Room
Not Necessary
Not Allowed
Great OK
Cleaning every day
10 minutes every other day
Dirty laundry in basket
Never cleaning
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Fostering FlexibilityI’m frustrated—what will help?
Doesn’t Last
Lasts a long time
Helps a little
Eating Treats Board or Card Games
Library
iPod
Video Games
Reading
Friend
Bike
Walk
Dog
Talking about it
Helps more
Feel much better
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© Asperger/Autism Network www.aane.org
Fostering Flexibility: Solving Problems
Option 1 Option 2 Option 3
Difficulty Concern
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Fighting
Playing
Helping
Plotting against parents
Perspective TakingWhat Siblings Do
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Executive FunctioningVisual Schedules
3:30 Snack and Screen Time
4:30 Piano
5:30 Homework
6:00 Set Table and Dinner
6:30 Free Time
8:00 Get Ready for Bed and Read
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Executive FunctioningWaiting Plan
• Brainstorm list
• Visual
• Timer
• Point
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Executive FunctioningRoutines
Sarah Ward
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What does the future hold?
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Recommended Resources
• Asperger Syndrome and Difficult Moments, Brenda Smith Myles/Jack Southwick.
• The Incredible 5-Point Scale, Kari Dunn Buron/Mitzi Curtis.
• The Hidden Curriculum, Brenda Smith Myles, et.al.
• Navigating the Social World, Jeanette McAfee.• The Explosive Child, Ross Greene.• ADHD: Living Without Brakes, Martin Kutscher.• www.aane.org• www.cognitveconnections.com
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• www.brendadater.com• Parenting without Panic Facebook Page• AANE Facebook Page
• Contact AANE (617) 393-3824 or [email protected]