Why Can’t We All Just Why Can’t We All Just Get Along?Get Along?

How to Create Cohesive Teams Through Understanding Personalities

Matt Stephen, Ed.D.

35 years in public education

Teacher, Counselor, Asst. Principal, Principal, Director, Asst. Supt., Asst. Professor, Consultant, Storyteller, and Papa

Constructing and articulating a leadership style called “Whole-hearted Leadership.”

◦ Mission to Serve◦ Building Meaningful

Relationships◦ Helping Others Develop and

Grow

We Are All DifferentWe Are All Different

“Why can’t everyone be like me?”

“Do I really want everyone to be like me?”

Sometimes it is hard to get along

with others

Discord Fear in the WorkplaceInhibits ProductionTurnoverLaw Suits

Why Get Along?Why Get Along?

More Positive Relationship-Building

Leads to:Consistent BehaviorIncreased MoralePositive CultureIncreased ProductionHappier Customers

Let’s look at little Matt Jeffrey Let’s look at little Matt Jeffrey through the eyes of....through the eyes of....

So why is it important that we understand different personalities?

We perceive people differently

Mrs. Abercrombie and Mrs. PierceMrs. Abercrombie and Mrs. Pierce

Building RelationshipsBuilding Relationships

To move from Awareness to To move from Awareness to Tolerance takes:Tolerance takes:

Awareness of Self

Awareness of Others

Desire to Change Thinking

◦Here is where we lose those who are anti-social

Building RelationshipsBuilding Relationships

To move from Tolerance to To move from Tolerance to Acceptance takes:Acceptance takes:

Desire to Change Thinking

Desire to Change Personal Action

Building RelationshipsBuilding Relationships

To move from Acceptance to To move from Acceptance to Celebration takes:Celebration takes:

Desire to Change Organizational Action

◦ Embrace diversity as a team

Relationships in Our LivesRelationships in Our Lives

Personality InventoriesPersonality InventoriesPersonality Types:

Lion, Golden Retriever, and Beaver Dr. Gary Smalley and Dr. John Trent

Personality Color

Myers-Briggs Personality Types

True Colors Personality Inventory

Strengths– Visionary, practical, productive, strong-willed, independent, decisive, leader

Weaknesses– Cold, domineering, unemotional self-sufficient, unforgiving, sarcastic, cruel

Strengths– Outgoing, responsive, warm, friendly, talkative, enthusiastic, compassionate

Weaknesses– Undisciplined, unproductive, exaggerates, egocentric, unstable

Strengths– Calm, easy-going, dependable, quiet, objective, diplomatic, humorous

Weaknesses– Selfish, stingy, procrastinator, unmotivated, indecisive, fearful, worrier

Strengths– Analytical, self-disciplined, industrious, organized, aesthetic, sacrificing

Weaknesses– Moody, self-centered, touchy, negative, unsociable, critical, revengeful

Your Personality Color Your Personality Color http://www.empower-yourself-with-color-psychology.com/personality-color.htmlhttp://www.empower-yourself-with-color-psychology.com/personality-color.html

If your favorite color is If your favorite color is red, you are action oriented with a deep need , you are action oriented with a deep need for physical fulfillment and to experience life through the five for physical fulfillment and to experience life through the five sensessenses..

If If orange is your favorite color, you have a great need to be with is your favorite color, you have a great need to be with people, to socialize with them, and be accepted and respected as people, to socialize with them, and be accepted and respected as part of a group. You also have a need for challenges in your life, part of a group. You also have a need for challenges in your life, whether it is physical or social challenges.whether it is physical or social challenges.

Choosing Choosing yellow as your favorite means you have a deep need for as your favorite means you have a deep need for logical order in your everyday life and to be able to express your logical order in your everyday life and to be able to express your individuality by using your logical mind to inspire and create new individuality by using your logical mind to inspire and create new ideas.ideas.

If If greengreen is your favorite, you have a deep need to belong, to love is your favorite, you have a deep need to belong, to love and be loved, and to feel safe and secure. You need acceptance and be loved, and to feel safe and secure. You need acceptance and acknowledgment for the everyday things you do for others - just and acknowledgment for the everyday things you do for others - just a 'thank you' is sufficient.a 'thank you' is sufficient.

Lovers of Lovers of blueblue have a deep need to find inner peace and truth, to have a deep need to find inner peace and truth, to live their life according to their ideals and beliefs without having to live their life according to their ideals and beliefs without having to change their inflexible viewpoint of life to satisfy others.change their inflexible viewpoint of life to satisfy others.

IndigoIndigo lovers have a need to feel in harmony and at one lovers have a need to feel in harmony and at one with the Universe and to be accepted by others as the with the Universe and to be accepted by others as the aware and intuitive spiritual beings that they are.aware and intuitive spiritual beings that they are.

If If purple or violetpurple or violet is your favorite color, you have a is your favorite color, you have a deep need for emotional security and to create order and deep need for emotional security and to create order and perfection in all areas of your life, including your spiritual perfection in all areas of your life, including your spiritual life. You also have a deep need to initiate and participate life. You also have a deep need to initiate and participate in humanitarian projects, helping others in need.in humanitarian projects, helping others in need.

If your personality color is If your personality color is pinkpink you have a deep need to you have a deep need to be accepted and loved unconditionally.be accepted and loved unconditionally.

If If turquoiseturquoise is your favorite color your deepest need is is your favorite color your deepest need is to create emotional balance in your life, to be able to to create emotional balance in your life, to be able to express your hopes and dreams no matter how idealistic express your hopes and dreams no matter how idealistic they may be and to make your own way in the world they may be and to make your own way in the world under your own terms.under your own terms.

If If your favorite color is your favorite color is magenta,magenta, you are a non- you are a non-conformist who sees life from a different point of view.conformist who sees life from a different point of view.

Myers-Briggs Personality TypesMyers-Briggs Personality Typeshttp://www.personalitypathways.com/type_inventory.htmlhttp://www.personalitypathways.com/type_inventory.html

Extraverted – Introverted

Sensing – Intuitive (Practical) (imaginative)

Thinking – Feeling (task-oriented) (relationship-oriented)

Judging – Perceiving(Plan) (Spontaneous)

ISTJ, ISFJ, INFJ,  INTJ, ISTP, ISFP, INFP, INTP, ESTP, ESFP, ENFP, ENTP, ESTJ, ESFJ, ENFJ, ENTJ

True Colors True Colors Personality Inventory Personality Inventory https://truecolorsintl.com/https://truecolorsintl.com/

Gold Blue Green Orange

Who am I?How am I perceived by others?Who are my team members?

Gold Organizer

Blue People-Person

Green Thinker/Visionary

Orange Creative /Spontaneous

Gold Gold

Prepared Loves to Plan Detail Oriented Punctual Strong Sense of Duty Belief in Policies and Rules Values Family Traditions Conscientious Conservative and Stable Well-Organized Most Comfortable with Structured Environment

BlueBlue

Caretaker Optimistic Passionate Enthusiastic Imaginative Cause Oriented True Romantic Needs to be Unique Cooperative rather than Competitive Strong Sense of Spirituality People Oriented Peacemaker

GreenGreen

Problem Solver “Why” Mentality Very Complex Standard Setter Cool, Calm, Collected Intellectual Work is Play and Play is Work Need for Independence and Private Time Driven by Competence Perfectionist Analytical Approaches Interpersonal Relationships in a Logical Manner

Orange Orange

Energetic Desires Change Playful Master Negotiator Natural Entertainer Pushes Boundaries Accepts Challenges Impulsive and Spontaneous “Just Do It” Attitude Appreciates Immediate Feedback Most Productive in Non-structured Environments Self-Confident

Let’s Plan a Party!!

Golds?Blues?

Greens?Oranges?

Is there a need for diversity on a team?Is there a need for diversity on a team?

Let’s Plan a Staff Development Activity

Golds?Blues?

Greens?Oranges?

I once knew a principal….I once knew a principal….

Building Cohesive Teams

Realize the need for tolerance – acceptance – celebration

Realize importance of interdependence

Hold conversations to achieve celebration level

Ask me about my wife, Martha….Ask me about my wife, Martha….

What about Social Life?

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Building cohesive teams through understanding personalities really works.

But…If you don’t want to try it,

there are always alternative methods….

Matt Stephen, Ed.D.Matt Stephen, Ed.D.mstephen@atu.edumstephen@atu.edu

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