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What Are Emotions?
Made up of four components: Physiological Feelings Nonverbal Reactions Cognitive Interpretations Verbal Expressions
Physiological Feelings
Strong Emotions trigger bodily changes Increased heart rate Rise in BP Slowing of digestion
Physiological messages can offer clues to your emotions once you become aware of them
Nonverbal Reactions
Not all physical changes accompany emotions
Easy to tell when one experiences a strong emotion, but hard to determine the exact emotion being conveyed
Facial expressions mimic feelings
Cognitive Interpretations
Our minds play an important role in determining how we feel
What we think determines our particular feeling.
Verbal Expressions
We cannot always rely on perceptiveness to make sure the message is conveyed appropriately
Emotional intelligence
Emotional Intelligence
The ability to recognize which feelings are appropriate in which situations and the skill to communicate those feelings effectively.
Major Influences Personality Culture Biological Sex and Gender Power Social Conventions Social Roles Fear of Disclosure Emotional Contagion
Culture Universal expression of emotions
happiness sadness surprise anger disgust fear
Situational Differences Degree of Expression Differences
Culture Continued... Ethnicity
Blacks Asians Whites
Individualism vs. Collectivism external display internal experience Data from study
Biological Sex and Gender Women
more attuned better memories of emotional images more intense reactions larger range of emotions
Men Reveal positive emotions (NOT
negative ones) More likely to disclose to women
Power The less powerful individual is
more aware of emotions of the more powerful person Intimidation factor
Social Conventions direct expression of emotions
ex. United States indirect expression of emotions
ex. Japan Individualism-Collectivism
impacts??
Social Roles
Emotional usage is decreased due to acceptable social roles.
One loses the ability to show certain emotions when they are continually repressed.
Fear of Self-Disclosure
Example: It’s hard for a boss to admit when he/she is wrong
Those that disclose can be misunderstood Affection = romantic invitation Uncertainty = weakness
Honesty can cause discomfort Honesty can be used against you
Emotional Contagion
Definition: When one becomes influenced by the emotions of others around them.
Varying degrees Fast process with no verbal
communication needed.
Regardless of influences on emotions, there are healthy and unhealthy ways to express them.
The next section looks into the guidelines of healthy emotional expressions.
Effects of Emotional Expression
Emotional expression has a tremendous effect on health and well-being.
Physiological effects
Relational effects
Physiological Effects
Emotional suppression increases risk of physical problems such as, cancer, asthma, heart disease (DeAngelis, 1992).
Emotional inhibition also causes a increased risk for psychological problems, such as, anxiety or depression (Krause et al., 2003).
Overly aggressive expression can lead to high blood pressure and increased stress (Mayne, 1993).
A healthy balance is key.
Relational Effects
Pent-up emotions are harder to control and more likely to be expressed violently.
Lack of expression leads to relationship stagnation.
Healthy emotional expression increases intimacy, promotes relationship growth, and allows problems to be fixed before they escalate.
Steps to Healthy Emotional Expression
Recognize Your Feelings. Choose the Best Language. Share Multiple Feelings. Recognize the Difference Between
Feeling and Acting. Accept Responsibility for Your
Feelings. Choose the Best Time and Place.
Recognize Your Feelings
Pay attention to your body.
Know your “emotional triggers”.
Don’t underestimate the importance of feelings.
Watch your gestures.
Choose the Best Language “Wanting” isn’t the same thing as “feeling”.
Don’t rely on common adjectives.
Be specific.
Use metaphors or examples.
State the cause of the emotion when possible.
Share Multiple Feelings
Feelings are all related.
Same event can cause many different emotions.
Express as many emotions as possible.
Don’t be afraid to elaborate.
Recognize the Difference Between Feeling and Acting Don’t try to be a hero.
Don’t pretend to feel something you don’t.
Simply acting on feelings does not always alleviate them.
Feelings do not always have to lead to action.
Accept Responsibility for Your Feelings
Don’t blame others for your feelings in your expression, even if they are the cause.
Don’t try to hide or cover up your feelings to please someone else.
Choose the Best Time and Place Give yourself some time to prepare. Plan out what you are going to say;
write it down if you like. Don’t have an emotional discussion
when you are tired, sick, or under severe stress.
Devote the necessary time. Make sure the other person is
prepared to listen.
When Not to Express Emotions If you are sure you will have
difficulty controlling your emotions. If the other person is unable to
listen at that moment. If the consequences might be
worse than dealing with the emotions (authority figure).
Look for an indirect route. Enlist a third party or mediator.
Expressing Positive Emotions Most people associate emotional
expression with problems or difficulties. Happiness is also an emotion. Feel free to express happiness,
confidence, success and contentment. Praise and complement your significant
other when you are proud of them. Surround yourself with people who will
be happy for you. Must be aware of the time and place!
Summary Emotional expression is healthy and
necessary for good relationships. Know how you feel and why you feel
it. Express your emotions calmly and
specifically. “Acting out” isn’t necessary. Choose your time and place carefully. Don’t be afraid to express positive
emotions!
It is true that healthy emotional expression can be more difficult for certain emotions
The next section involves a wide range of feelings that affect our communication skills.
Facilitative and Debilitative Emotions Facilitative Emotions- emotions
that contribute to effective functioning
Debilitative Emotions- emotions that hinder or prevent effective performance
Irrational Thoughts That Can Lead to Debilitative Emotions Fallacy of Perfection- A
communicator should handle all situations well
Very inspiring, but unrealistic
Irrational Thoughts That Can Lead to Debilitative Emotions Fallacy of Approval- A
communicator has to constantly obtain everyone’s approval
Communicator sacrifices their own principles and/or happiness
Irrational Thoughts That Can Lead to Debilitative Emotions Fallacy of Should- A communicator
doesn’t distinguish between what is and what should be
Communicator often wants others to behave differently
Irrational Thoughts That Can Lead to Debilitative Emotions Fallacy of Overgeneralization- A
communicator doesn’t distinguish between what is and what should be
Communicator often wants others to behave differently
Irrational Thoughts That Can Lead to Debilitative Emotions Fallacy of Causation- A
communicator feels they shouldn’t do anything to hurt or inconvenience others
Often communicator’s needs are overlooked
Irrational Thoughts That Can Lead to Debilitative Emotions Fallacy of Helplessness- Forces
beyond a communicators control determine their satisfaction
Causes the communicator to feel like a victim
Irrational Thoughts That Can Lead to Debilitative Emotions Fallacy of Catastrophic
Expectations- A communicator believes if something bad can happen, it will
Causes ruminations of thoughts and feelings
How to Minimize Debilitative Emotions Monitor your emotional reactions Note activating/triggering events
Specific people Specific events
Dispute irrational events Why they are irrational events Why your have them
References Adler, R.B., Rosenfeld, L.B., & Proctor, R.F. (2004).
Interplay: The Process of InterpersonalCommunication (9th ed.). New York: Oxford
UniversityPress.
DeAngelis, T. (1992). Illness linked with repressive styleof coping. APA Monitor, pp. 14-15.
Krause, E.D., Mendelson, T. & Lynch, T.R. (2003).Childhood emotional invalidation and adultpsychological distress: The mediating role of
emotionalinhibition. Child Abuse and Neglect, 27(2), p 199-214.
Mayne, T.J. (1999). Negative affect and health: The importance of being earnest. Cognition and Emotion, 13(5), pp. 201-236.