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November 5, 2011
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The purpose of today’s Day of Remembrance is to provide all Good Grief families the opportunity to come together as a community, to mourn and to remember. Though for some of you, every minute, hour and day is full of memories and feel-ings, our hope is that today provides a special time to do so with your Good Grief family.
If you have any thoughts or feedback about today’s gathering we invite you to share them with us. Thank you for being with us throughout the year, and on this day in particular.
Good Grief Staff, Board and Volunteers
Today’s GaTherinG
We are grateful for the many volunteers who facilitate Good Grief peer support groups throughout the year. Their contribution is invaluable.
Our sincere thanks to the many people who helped us coordinate this event, those who donated their goods and services, and those who have been a part of today’s gathering, especially:
acknowledGemenTs
• The Willis Foundation• TD Bank
• Harpist, Leslie Hansen• Vocalist, Tracey Haskell
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Good Grief’s mission is to normalize grief in our community through education, advocacy, and year-round support group programs for grieving children, teens and adults.
Good Grief is Northern New Jersey’s premier resource for grieving children and their families. Since opening its peer support program in 2007, Good Grief has grown over 300%, becoming the fastest growing children’s grieving center in the country. Good Grief serves over 75 communities throughout New Jersey in its state-of-the-art facility in Morristown.
Through the assistance of experienced and committed volunteer facilitators, Good Grief conducts peer support programs for children from 3-18 and young adults 18-30 who experience the death of a parent or sibling. Good Grief is also a resource for schools, businesses, and other community organizations with its Conversations on Grief™ workshops. Both as a direct service and education provider, Good Grief works to transform communities so that no child ever needs to grieve alone.
STAFFExecutive Director Marisa BologneseAssociate Executive Director Joe PrimoDirector of Family Services Dr. Mary FleckDirector of Education and Outreach Dr. Barbara ChabnerProgram Coordinator Rachel O’BrienFamily Coordinator Beth KarpowicProgram Assistant and Volunteer Recruiter Melissa StackpoleDirector of Development Warrie HowellDirector of Marketing and Communictions Doreen SmithData Specialist Moira Clarkin
who we are
Patrick Sullivan, ChairLes Hollander, Vice Chair Jim Topor, Vice ChairFrances Travisano, SecretarySal Gentile, Treasurer
Robert Anderson, Esq.Robin Bogan, Esq. Scott BradleyJim BucknamTrish Chobrda
Bill HectorRichard NoeckerRita PettifordJudy RomanIrene Weinberg
Board of TrusTees
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November 5, 201111:00 am—12:00 pm
Welcome: “Somewhere Over the Rainbow” Remembrance and Renewal Joe Primo, Assoc. Executive Director
Opening Song: “The Climb” Sung by Tracey Haskell
readinG of names
“The Remembrance” By Rabbis Sylvan Kamens & Jack Reimer
Reader: All those who have died and yet still live within us todaySanti Abut
Luis Aldazabal
Maurice Lamont Barksdale
Michael Bateman
Rick Beitle
Eric Berlin
Charles Bertiger
Brian David Bouren
Kelley Bradley
Marc Bruno
Alan Burns
Donna Byrne
Sebastiano Caltabiano
Pierre Camille
All: We Remember Them
ProGram iTinerary
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ProGram iTinerary
Reader: At the rising of the sun and at its going downAnthony CarluccioJeff Chiaramonte
Lewis ChurchJohn Clark
Eva Genelle ClearfieldLeRoy M. Colligan
Warren CoopermanMary Jane Costello
Kevin CoughlinAnthony Criscuolo
Jacqueline Davidson-ChinCecilia Davies
Laura-Dawn DealFranklin DeLaRosaMartin DeMarzo
All: We Remember Them
Reader: At the blowing of the wind and in the chill of winterKathy A. DeNaro
Michael Roger DennisDeborah Lynn DiFerdinando
Geraldine DillahuntJoyce Elise Dinsmore Hutchinson
Keith DolanDana Donahue
Annette Kelly DrakeScott Duffy
Lance Joseph EsbinArthur Falgione, Jr.
James FarleyRobert D. Franks
All: We Remember Them
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ProGram iTinerary
Reader: At the opening of the buds and in the birth of springGlenn Fredericks
Mathew Ernest GallagherDesirae Marie Gallart
Michael GodwinLawrence Robert Goerg
Nathan GouldCorey Graney
Melissa GreinerJudah GubbayNoah Harris
Tom HempsteadPhillips Heathcote
Robin HolsteinMichael HuetterFrank Hulsman
All: We Remember Them
Reader: At the blueness of the skies and in the warmth of summer Marek Ilkow
Zoe Gina JacksonPaul JacobelloYau-Fung Jang
John JanuszanisRenee Johansen
Carl Anthony JohnsonIrene Johnson
William J Johnson, SrScott Franklin Jones
Robert JulianoCarrie Katz
Darlene Keller
All: We Remember Them
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ProGram iTinerary
Reader: At the rustling of the leaves and in the beauty of autumnFred Kelly
John Becker KellyCarlyse Kennedy
Taewan “Ted” KimScott Kopen
Richard KoscoMatt Sedat Koseoglu
William KrauseAlan Krauss
Holly G. KrugerRoberta Kyle
Anthony LanzaMarc Lasoff
Melissa Lewis
All: We Remember Them
Reader: At the beginning of the year and when it endsLaura Lockatell
Vincent LombardoGordon Lucas
John LypBrad Mackie
John David MalinPatricia Manganiello
Shelley MannJordan Mapp
Robert MarcellianoDavid Mark
Landa MartinLLoyd Mathieson
Joan Matotta
All: We Remember Them
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ProGram iTinerary
Reader: As long as we live, they too will love, for they are now a part of us
Frederick W McCoy, IIJim McElroy
Jaqueline McKensieThomas Morabito
Mark MovitzRandall Muckenthaler
Casey MurphyLen MuscarellaBrad Nussbaum
Michele A. O’ConeWilliam O’Donnell
Douglas O’NeillMarcela Palacios
Nicholas V Peter
All: We Remember Them
Reader: When we are weary and in need of strengthRonald Eric PiersonKathleen Pinckney
Carol PlaskonJay Poda
Mark PolakowskiJose Prieto
Christopher PurguyNicole Ramsden
Gerald ReillyRobert RiveraDonald RoeserKate Russell
Marcus Gregory RutaAdam Sackett
Al Sanczyk
All: We Remember Them
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ProGram iTinerary
Reader: When we are lost and sick at heartRichard Schellhorn
Keisha SeowAnthony SepeJoseph Sesta
Alice SheaJanice Sheldon
Ing-ie ShenCourtney C. Smith, II
Jeff SmithMaria SmithPaul SmithPeter Smith
Margaret Smizaski
Mark Sonenblick
All: We Remember Them
Reader: When we have joy we long to share Thomas Speckin
Anne SpinaStephen Stamler
Janet StoneKathryn Jean Stoppello
Stephen Roy StoutThomsa Sullivan
Juan TamayoJohn TarangeloElise ten Berge
Brian TomsaFatima TranquilliBrian Turner, Jr.
Dana Uhler
James Vadas
All: We Remember Them
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ProGram iTinerary
Reader: When we have decisions that are difficult to make Jakob Joseph Vail
Lyndon Valenzuela
Michael Veron
Enav Vitenson
Jonathan Walsweer
Peter C Wendt, V
Alice Williams
Sunshine Nicole Williams
All: We Remember Them
Reader: As long as we live, they too will live, for they are part of us
Tricia Woods-Jones
Vesta Woodson
Ainsworth Wright
Joseph Wright
Kelli Wynne
Anne Zabler
Mark John Zakosky
All: As We Remember Them
Musical Int erlude—Harp Melodies Played by Leslie Hansen
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ProGram iTinerary
Reading: Wild Geese
You do not have to be good.
You do not have to walk on your knees
for a hundred miles through the desert, repenting.
You only have to let the soft animal of your body
love what it loves.
Tell me about despair, yours, and I will tell you mine.
Meanwhile the world goes on.
Meanwhile the sun and the clear pebbles of the rain
are moving across the landscapes,
over the prairies and the deep trees,
the mountains and the rivers.
Meanwhile the wild geese, high in the clean blue air,
are heading home again.
Whoever you are, no matter how lonely,
the world offers itself to your imagination,
calls to you like the wild geese, harsh and exciting-
over and over announcing your place
in the family of things.
–By Mary Oliver
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ProGram iTinerary
Commemorative ActivityWe invite each person to remember the special person who has died and to make a commitment to self renewal through these two symbolic activities.
For Remembrance—An Origami GeeseFrom the geese we learn the importance of teamwork, community, and encour-agement. Those who have died are forever a part of this community. Remember him/her by making an origami geese in their honor. First, write a message of remembrance on the paper, then follow the directions for folding it. These geese will be prominently hung in the main house of Good Grief.
For Renewal—A Ribbon of RenewalFrom the geese we learn that it’s important to keep up with the flock, or to form a new flock. We encourage each person to make a commitment to take care of themselves in order to keep moving forward and to be able to support the other people in their lives. Select a fabric, and write on the white piece a promise for how you will take care of yourself – for example, take a walk every day; join a yoga class; do a good deed. These ribbons of renewal will be displayed in the tree on the front lawn of Good Grief as a reminder of your commitment to take care of yourself.
Closing Remarks Mary Fleck, Director of Family Services
Closing Song “The Rising” by Bruce Springsteen Sung by Tracey Haskell
Please join us for Lunch and Fellowship
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our wall of rememBerance
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We Remember
Them...
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Life is a journey so each day must
be treasured, things to embrace
are the lord, family, friends, dreams, change, hope, love and
most of all keep the faith.
Jacqueline
Davidson-Chin
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Chris Purguy 12-6-56 to 5-3-11
You came to visit at your own leisure, but it was always
great to see you. Although we didn't like going to your house very much, we still went just to be with you.
You saw our costumes we make ourselves every year. Sometimes you couldn't even
recognize us, we looked so good. This year we were gothic and gangster.
You went to our church with us on Easter Sunday, the last
Sunday we ever spent together.
We love you Dad, but we miss you too much!
Love, Madison, Brandon & Karen! <3
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Kathy A. DeNaro
Timeline of
Love
Born July 1, 1969 Brooklyn, NY
Died April 16, 2011
Fairleigh Dickinson combined masters/
bachelors in accounting
1992
Saint Savior High School, Brooklyn,
NY, graduation 1987 Met and fell in
love, Easter Weekend
1993
Engaged on front steps, Steve’s
parent’s house, Hoptcong, NJ
Fall 1994
Married July 20th, 1996
At St. Lawrence church in Chester, NJ. Recep-tion at the Ramada in in East Hanover, NJ
Spent months
apart while Steve pursued law de-
gree from Widener University Law
School 1995-1998
Bought first house together in Hopatcong NJ
May, 1995
I’m pregnant!—revealed in Kitch-
en Aug/Sept 2004
Bought house in Long Valley, NJ In May 2003
Jacqueline Grace DeNaro born March 29th,
2005
Many beautiful family memories
made
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Noah Sweet Love
Noah Sweet Love
We adore, celebrate, and intensely miss you, darling Noah. You alwaysgive us smiles and hope, you Prince of Love. ~ Mommy, Zaky, Ella & Lily
We adore, celebrate, and intensely miss you, darling Noah. You alwaysgive us smiles and hope, you Prince of Love. ~ Mommy, Zaky, Ella & Lily
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Zoë Gina JacksonFebruary 22, 2010 - April 9, 2011
Zoe was such a special baby. She was loved by everyone. Zoe and her brother Ameer had such a close and loving relationship even though they were eight years apart. She had a special bond with all of us. Zoe
passed away from complications from being hit by a car. Before we left her with her aunt, Zoe kept coming back and forth to our car and playing with her brother. I believe that was her way of telling us good-bye. There isn’t a day that goes by that I don’t miss her smile or her
hugs or her not so subtle way of busting into the bathroom, shower or wherever I was that I tried to go without her.
Zoe, we love you and miss you so much.
XOXO my Gigi….. until we are together again.
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Scott
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Keisha,
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John Becker kelly
June 28, 1965 – October 12, 2010
John we miss your infectious laughYou were taken too early – led down a different path.
Our children are growing, doing amazing things.With the skill and knowledge a Dad only brings.
We’ve laughed and cried remembering youAnd often I’ve thought what will I do.
Then I realize your watching from aboveThe music, sports, and our children you so love.
As our angel in Heaven we believe in youAnd will reunite again when it’s our time too.
We love and miss you forever and always.Sally, Robbie, Willie, and Helena
ONE YEAR AGO
One year ago I cried in disbelief.One year ago I leaned on a friend.
One year ago one person stood out.One year ago my phone rang.One year ago I got an email.
One year ago a neighbor said “I’m so sorry”.One year ago I missed a week of school.
One year ago In Memory of John Becker Kelly was started.One year ago I felt a pain in my heart.
One year ago I thought my Mom was kidding.One year ago I said “Bye Dad”.
One year ago I had a Dad who was still here and I wish he still was.
By Robbie Kelly...age 11
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John Becker kelly
June 28, 1965 – October 12, 2010
I loved it when you read in my bed
And when you laughed your cheeks got red
Your eyes were blue.
Dad I really miss you!
By Willie Kelly...age 10
Daddy-O, Daddy-O I’m growing big!
In fact I’m larger than a huge twig.
I hope you are proud of me everyday.
Make sure you catch my kisses when I blow them your way!
By Helena Kelly...age 7
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In Memory of Brad C. Mackie
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For John:
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Frederick Wayne McCoy, Sr.August 13, 1951 – June 2, 2010
Man of God, Husband and Dad.You loved me.
You loved ALL of your children.Each of us think of you in some way everyday.
We love you….we always did…we always will until the end of time.Janet, Samantha, David, Frederick, Matthew,
Izzy, Ivy, Robby and Tink
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DaDDy
I Love You I Remember When You Used To Play Golf.I Miss Playing Hide And Seek With You.
I Miss Going To Shul With You.I Miss It When You Used To Drive Us Back From School.
Love,Rebecca(8 1/2)
I Love You Abba!!
Love,Nathan (5 1/2)
The nussBaum Family
We Miss You!!!
Love, Susie And Liora(1 1/2)
We Miss You!!!
Love, Susie And Liora(1 1/2)
We Miss You!!!
Love, Susie And Liora(1 1/2)
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Sweet Dreams, Dad!
Say Hi to Everyone in Heaven
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In Loving Memory
richard a. schellhornApril 2, 1954—February 16, 2008
A Beautiful LifeA beautiful life that came to an end,He lived as he lived, everyone’s friend.
In our hearts a memory will always be kept, of one we loved, and will never forget.
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