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Unspoken Needs
Ms. Krisna MuthusamySRN. SCM.NICU.FP. FTC. Bsc. MA
Penang Hospice
Palliative Care Association of Johore Bahru June 2012
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Sexuality Human sexuality is how people experience and
express themselves as sexual beings.
Human sexual activity has biological, physical and
emotional aspects
There are other ways of expressing feelings eg
Close friendship love, holding hands, hugging,
kissing, caressing
People facing a lifethreatening illness feel they arerobbed of past joy & often wish to discuss issues of
sexuality with a trusted health professional
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Barrier in communication
Medical professional often feel
They have no time
The dont know how to begin the conversation Knew little about sexuality
Dont have the right answer
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Age?
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Age and CultureCase Ca breast
Family separated couple
She was moved and nursed in a
separate room
Daughters moved in/slept in
Husband used their own room
Seldom went near wife/ busy
Daughters fussed around her
He was pushed out /was shy
Patient depressed
Did not want to talk or eat
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Ca.Lung with bone mets
Had a girl friend
Wife moved out
Depressed/scolded girl friend
Wife asked to come home
Pain , cough controlled
Breathlessness became lessNo B/T morphine needed
Became cheerful and happy
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How to handle this?
2 CASESFamily members counselledTo accept their friendship and let thembe together
One family
Tell all visitors the other man was ahelper who comes and does thedressing and bathing etc
Another familyClaimed they were childhood friend andhence they are closeHence friend came to be with him as hewas dying
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Ca colon with local spread
Young couple with 3 girls I love her very much
I cant bear to think about the
emptiness without her
I left my job to look after her
I cannot imagine life without her
I wont be able to face the empty
house/our empty bedShe is not just a wife but my friend
Soon all will be gone
I will be alone!
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AstrocytomaYoung couple . No children
Had 3 surgery. He had been with her
all the time main carer
Last op-became bedbound/semicoma
Mother moved in
She is my baby and I am her babyWe love each other very much. I took
care of her and she liked it.
Now the disease is advancing so fast.
I cannot bear to be without her. I
dont know how to care for her now.
She wants me to attend to her. She
will not vomit or fit when I feed or
wash her.
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Family taking over
Ca. stomach with localspread
Young lady--- married less than ayear---no childrenMoved in with mother upondiagnosisFamily took over the careHusband visitsFamily persuaded her to go for
chemotherapyDid not respond to treatmentIn and out of hospitalFamily very caringNo quality of life
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Looking over picture
Very breathless and in pain
1st wedding anniversary spent inhospital
No opportunity to counseled or talkto her
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I want my wife
Rt. ant. Mediastinal teratoma
Young man-divorcedno children. LivesaloneMoved in with mother when sickSisters came from abroad to nurse himWanted wife to be with himMother wanted him to marry someoneelseBrought in a new girl and introducedAngry , annoyed , banged the doors,Refused analgesicSister informed wife
Wife wanted to remarry and renew theirmarriage vows
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MND.Young man, married 3 times . Wives live in Ipohsexuality ignored by
medical carers. Started to have fantasies and looked for sexual partners
amongst maid and carers
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70yrs old lady diagnosed as ca lung with mets to liver and spinegiven 4 month to live. Came home to Penang to die
Husband demanding. Does not understand she is in pain
Husband will be sued for messing with children in the condo
Niece-in law dresses up in an inappropriate manner does not respectthe elders
Quarrels and upsets sisters family
Private nurse inappropriate behavior with husband
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Ca Cervix WithBone Mets
Happy. Lived with daughter and her familyHusband main carerTalked freely about her illnessShared same bed
On CBDWanted to have good daysAgendasons marriageAdvised son to be a good husband like fatherTo have children and be loving and caring just likedaddy
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Ca. scalp
Married with 2 boysMain carerwife(only 49 yearsold)Asked if disease is
contagious?Can they share the sameroom?Used less analgesia when wifedid the dressing
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Ca. Lung
Married with 2 childrenWife main carer
Didnt want hospital bed
Didnt want to stay with in-laws
Asked to be brought back home
Wanted his wife to be near
Wanted his wife to sleep in the
same bed
Had a night nurse oncesent her
back.
Said he did not need a nurse!
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Ca breast with sternal mass
Carer maid.Children did not stay with themHusband had strokeCannot accept diagnosis
Patient wanted to stay away fromhimScared his illness would hinderher recoveryHusband wanted to be near her
He became agitatedHe would cry and hit the bedsideBrought up to be next to his wifeHe became quiet
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Ca. Cervix with bone metastasis
Husband has a strokeMiserable and lonelyDid not want to talkDaughter came from aboardDaughter tried to brighten up the room
Grand daughter drew pictures and pin it on the wallStill quietHusband ex stroke patient .Everyone forgot him and concentrate on patient
Husband brought into the room and leftDaughter closed the door and left them alone
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Next visit
the patient
was such adifferent
person
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My husband is a good man
Wife was the carer.She attended to all his needsEye toilet ,mouth toiletEar toiletNgt feeding--- all done by herHusband enjoyed the care given by his loving wife
He never exhibited any pain or discomfort, although his eyes were red anddischargingHe was unable to open his mouthHe had NPC with brain metastasis
Wife commented that
He may look different now but he was the same loving man she married
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Dont tell I
have a stoma
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Stoma belt Stoma studs
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Crotch less panties
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Papa had been looking after you for so long .He is tired and need a breakI am here now and I will take care of you
I want yourpapa to batheand attend tome
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How to handle this?
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What a kind daughter
You are rightYou help now