Tzedakah Tools And Tips For Parents
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Jewish Communal Fund
Family Philanthropy:
Tzedakah Tools and Tips for Parents
The Parents’ RoleThe Parents’ Role
• MODEL
• SHARE
• REFLECT
• LISTEN
• RESPECT
• SUPPORT
• STRUCTURE
• REINFORCE
Actions speak louder than words
so model the engagement you would like to see – Let your kids see what you do for charities, show
them the satisfaction you derive from your philanthropy.
Connect with Tradition
During Shabbat or
dinner conversations,
share family memories
and history of earlier
generations and their
chesed and charitable work.
Family traditions of tzedakah
Share and ReflectShare and ReflectDiscuss your motivation for supporting your charities.
Talk about why you give!
Independence TraditionMaot Chitim
“All Israel is responsible one for another”
Chesed Equality Justice
Find the teachable moments
and uncover the values behind your giving.
Connecting values with actions helps
kids understand the significance of your philanthropy.
Listen to your children
and learn about their
interests and concerns.
Nurture these interests
even if they are
different than yours.
Learn from your teenLearn from your teenExplain how you choose your charities.
Ask your teen how they make funding decisions.
What are their priorities?
Let them educate you.
Respect Their Ideas• Don’t dismiss your
child’s idea even if you don’t see the value.
• Look for the shared values behind their choices and yours.
• Praise their interests and compassion.
Support Your Teen’s EffortSupport Your Teen’s EffortShow interest and ask
questions.
Set aside a portion of your philanthropic dollars to support your child’s charities.
Offer matching gifts
Acknowledge Accomplishments
Making a contribution
in your child’s honor
to their favorite charity
is a great way to recognize:
Bar & Bat Mitzvahs
Awards
Graduations
and other achievements
Interweave Tzedakah into daily life
Holidays are filled
with giving traditions
and opportunities, so
incorporate tzedakah
into your celebration.
Make a gift in honor of your children.
Celebrate Jewish holidays, Mother’s Day, Father’s Day andbirthdays by asking your child to make a donation in your honor.
Use a formal structure
Form a Family Tzedakah CircleForm a Family Tzedakah Circle
Everyone is responsible for researching an issue or a charity.
Everyone has a voice and gets to vote on where to make the contributions.
Set Goals
• Discuss a giving goal that can help focus your family on tzedakah.
• Ask your teen to help the family decide how much to give each year.
• Create a timetable
for when donations will be given.
• Include an action plan detailing the steps necessary to reach the goal, and list who is responsible.
What’s Next: Reinforce the Experience
Help teens find engagement opportunities that can utilize their new skills and support their interest in philanthropy.
Seek service opportunities for teens as well as families.
Establish an independent charitable fund for your teen.