Turning off the self critic sylvia caldwell

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TURNING THE TIDE ON THE SELF-CRITIC Sylvia Caldwell

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How to grow your emotional intelligence to help take control of your thoughts. Coach yourself and move towards a more positive career and life.

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TURNING THE TIDE ON

THE SELF-CRITIC

Sylvia Caldwell

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About me

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Small changes

Consciously intercept negative thoughts

REFRAME

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Emotional Intelligence

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Increase your awareness

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Find yourself ‘Doing Right’

Leveraging your strengths has more impact

than focusing on your weaknesses

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60,000 THOUGHTS A DAY

Do you know what you’re

thinking?

Watch your thoughts…

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Toxic Thinking- Protect Yourself

Toxic Thought #1 Perfection = Success

Toxic Thought #2 I “Always” or “Never” do that

Toxic Thought #3Others are more clever/successful/good

looking/ happy/lucky than I am

Toxic Thought #4It’s too late

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Check your assumptions

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Mind your language…

Words

Thoughts

Actions

Behaviours

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Build positive relationships

Positive : Negative

3 : 1 OK

5 : 1 Flourishing

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Use your Influence

Be the change you want to see in the world

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Manage your gremlin

“I have the heebie jeebies”

X

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Coach yourself

What is the worst thing that could happen?

What else do I need to know in order to…

What is really important here?

What parts of this situation can I not see?

What are the positives in this?

What is stopping me?

What could I do differently next time?

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Sheroes

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What would happen..

If I stopped holding

myself back?

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Thank you!Reference made to

Maureen Gaffney- Flourishing Daniel Goleman- Emotional IntelligenceSheryl Sandberg- Lean InAlain de Botton- philosopher , writer and founder of the School of Life You can contact me 087 [email protected]@omtglobal.com

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