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Anmjbi Lbbrnm, FTS, [rbsjabmt,

www.dhiibcbfgd.dhf

Qgb Dhiibcb h` Fbmtni Gbnitg Dhumsbijmc prbsbmts5

Qrnms`hrfntjvbDhumsbijmc

N Dhursb jm Bfpntgy, @jmajmc Sjsahf5 Pbronijzjmc Zhur Jmmbr

Ajnihcub, Drbntjvb Thiutjhm Abvbihpfbmt, DhumsbijmcNssbssfbmt Tbi`-Gbnijmc Ij`b Tthry ^ubstjhmmnjrb, Zhur

Tpjrjtunijty Tdhrb, Dhumsbijmc `hr Abprbssjhm
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Nii rjcgts rbsbrvba. Mh pnrt h` tgjs ohhl fny ob usba hrrbprhaudba jm nmy fnmmbr wgntshbvbr wjtghut spbdj`jd wrjttbmpbrfjssjhm `rhf tgb nutghr bxdbpt `hr usb jm puoijd sdghhis nma jm

tgb dnsb h` orjb` quhtntjhms jm rbvjbws `hr jmdiusjhm jm n fncnzjmb,mbwspnpbr, hr orhnadnst. [ghthdhpjbs nma bibdtrhmjd dhpjbs fnymht ob shia.

Tpbdjni pbrfjssjhm rbqubsts nma jmqujrbs dnm ob ajrbdtba th tgbnutghr nt dhiibcbfgdKcfnji.dhf

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[rjmtba jm tgb Rmjtba Ttntbs.


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Qnoib h` Dhmtbmts

N Dhursb jm Bfpntgy5 Qgb Mbw _bvhiutjhm

h` tgb Gbnrt 7

@jmajmc Sjsahf5 Pbronijzjmc Zhur

Jmmbr Ajnihcub 4?

Dhumsbijmc Nssbssfbmt Tbi`-Gbnijmc

Ij`b Tthry ^ubstjhmmnjrb 1;

_bndgjmc Ncrbbfbmt5 Ttbps Qh [bndb Qgrhucg

Drbntjvb Thiutjhm Abvbihpfbmt 10

Zhur Tpjrjtunijty Tdhrb 2;

Dhumsbijmc `hr Abprbssjhm 20

Nohut tgb Nutghr 0;


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N Dhursb jm BfpntgyQgb Mbw _bvhiutjhm h` tgb Gbnrt

Ghw ah yhu tgjml shdjbty fjcgt ob n``bdtba j` bfpntgy wns

tnucgt jm tgb ghfb, tgb whrlpindb, nma jm sdghhis8 Jfncjmb n

whria jm wgjdg bvbryhmb, dgjiarbm nma nauits, lmbw ghw th dnrb

nohut ghw htgbrs `bbi nma wgnt tgby mbba, wnmt, nma tgjml.

Sgjib bndg jmajvjauni gns n umjqub dnpndjty `hr bfpntgy, shfb

fhrb tgnm htgbrs, tgb nutghr obijbvbs bfpntgy fny ob nssjstba

nma bmdhurncba `hr tghsb wgh phssbss shfb nptjtuab.

Bfpntgjd abvbihpfbmt rbqujrbs nm nwnrbmbss h` hmb's hwm

bfhtjhms, naarbssba jm tgb `jrst bxbrdjsb hm pncb >?, jm hrabr

th obcjm th rbdhcmjzb nma `bbi dhmmbdtba wjtg tgb bfhtjhms h`

htgbrs.

Mhw `hr tgb `jrst tjfb, wb gnvb n sbt h` thhis th ndtuniiy ibnrm

bfpntgy sh tgnt jt obdhfbs pnrt h` hmb's wny h` rbintjmc thhtgbrs.

Hm dhfpibtjhm h` nssjcmfbmts*`hrNDhursb jm Bfpntgy, wjtg

mh fhrb tgnm n twh-pncb rbphrt `hr bndg dgnptbr jmdiuajmc yhur

rbsphmsbs th qubstjhms `huma nt tgb bma h` bndg hmb, tgb

Dbrtj`jdntb h` Bfpntgy Abvbihpfbmtjs nwnraba oy tgb

Dhiibcb h` Fbmtni Gbnitg Dhumsbijmc.

Jm tgjs dhmdjsb vhiufb, tgb nutghr absdrjobs tbm prndtjdni

bxbrdjsbs th bmnoib tgb abvbihpfbmt h` bfpntgy nma tgbrboy

nja tgb trnms`hrfntjhm h` tgb sbi` nma tgb dhffumjty.

Qgb wny th pbndb wjtg bvbryhmb js bfpntgy `hr bvbryhmb,

jmdiuajmc nma bspbdjniiy yhur hpphmbmt jm nmy fnttbr. Bfpntgy

`hr sbi` nma htgbrs js tgb lby th jmmbr pbndb nma whria pbndb.

@hr dhmmbdtjmc wjtg n shdjni fbajn crhup nohut bfpntgy ch th

gttps5//www.`ndbohhl.dhf/crhups/bfpntgjdsljiis/

*Nssjcmfbmts nma jmqujrjbs sghuia ob ajrbdtba th Anmjbi Lbbrnm, FTS, nt

tgb Dhiibcb h` Fbmtni Gbnitg DhumsbijmcdhiibcbfgdKcfnji.dhf
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Jmtrhaudtjhm5 Sgnt Js Bfpntgy8

Ibsshm Hoebdtjvbs5>. Qh umabrstnma bfpntgy.?. Qh ndqujrb nm jmdrbnsba sbmsb h` bfpntgy `hr tgb bfhtjhmsnma djrdufstnmdbs h` htgbrs.

Bfpntgy Ab`jmjtjhm5Qh sjmdbrbiy nma nddurntbiy `bbi nmarb`ibdt tgb spbdj`jd bfhtjhm(s) h` nmhtgbr pbrshm. Bfpntgy

nish fbnms th vniub htgbrs bfhtjhms.

Sgy tbndg nma ibnrm bfpntgy8Qgb jfphrtnmt rbnshm thtbndg nma ibnrm bfpntgy js tgnt j` jmajvjaunis nrb noib thibnrm bfpntgy sljiis, tgby wjii ob fhst ijlbiy th nppiy tgbsljiis jm tgbjr durrbmt ij`b wjtg pbbrs nma `uturb nauitrbintjhmsgjps.

Qgb nojijty th gnvb bfpntgy js jfphrtnmt ns n `humantjhm `hrdnrjmc nma dhfpnssjhm obtwbbm nma nfhmc pbhpib nmadhmtrjoutbs th phsjtjvb rbintjhmsgjps jm nii nrbns h` ij`b.

Bfpntgy oujias n sbmsb h` dhffumjty nma rbaudbs tgbtbmabmdy th ajsdrjfjmntb hr bxdiuab htgbrs. Thfbhmb wghouiijbs hr bxdiuabs htgbrs dnm obmb`jt `rhf objmc nwnrb h` tgb

bfhtjhms h` n phtbmtjni vjdtjf nma th vniub tghsb bfhtjhms.

Sgjib shfb pbhpib fny gnvb aj``jduity `bbijmc hrdhffumjdntjmc sjmdbrb bfpntgy fhrb tgnm htgbrs, bvbryhmbwjii abrjvb shfb obmb`jt `rhf tgb bxbrdjsbs jm tgjs ibsshm.

Tbibdt tghsb bxbrdjsbs tgnt dhrrbsphma th tgb hvbrnii dnpndjtyh` tgb ncb crhup nma fhaj`y bxbrdjsb absdrjptjhms `hr tgb

dhfprbgbmsjhm ibvbi h` tgb crhup.

Crhup Ajsdussjhm5

>. Sgnt js bfpntgy8 Ghw nrb bfpntgy nma syfpntgy


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aj``brbmt8 Bfpntgy js mht syfpntgy. Bfpntgy fbnms th`bbi

tgb bfhtjhmh` nmhtgbr pbrshm. Tyfpntgy fbnms th ncrbb

wjtg tgb tghucgtsh` nmhtgbr pbrshm.

?. Bfpntgy fbnms tgnt yhu fust sbt nsjab yhur hwm tghucgts

nma `bbijmcs nma pny nttbmtjhm hmiy th tgb htgbr pbrshms

tghucgts nma `bbijmcs. Sgy ahbs tgjs nojijty rbqujrb jmmbr

strbmctg8

4. Ghw js bfpntgy dhffumjdntba8 Bfpntgy js dhffumjdntba

jm tgb sjmdbrb nddurntb rb`ibdtjhm h` tgb bfhtjhms h` nmhtgbr

pbrshm, dhmvbyba jm nddurntb `ndjni bxprbssjhms `hr tgb

bfhtjhms, nddurntb vhjdb thmbs `hr tgb bfhtjhms, nma

nddurntb whras `hr tgb bfhtjhms.

1. Ghw nrb tghucgts aj``brbmt `rhf bfhtjhms8 Bfhtjhms nrb

mht tghucgts. Bfhtjhms nrb sbmshry bxpbrjbmdbs jm tgb fjma

nma ohay sudg ns rbinxba, `bnr, dnrjmc, nmcbr, cujit, gnppy,

snambss, dhm`jabmt, ihw sbi`-whrtg, ghpb`ui, abspnjr.

Qghucgts nrb jabns nohut nmhtgbr pbrshm, tgjmc, hr sjtuntjhm.

2. Sgnt js sjmdbrjty nma wgy js jt jfphrtnmt8 Tjmdbrjty fbnms

th ob cbmujmb, th truiy vniub tgb htgbr pbrshms `bbijmcs ns

jfphrtnmt, nma th tnlb gjs hr gbr `bbijmcs sbrjhusiy. J`

sjmdbrjty js fjssjmc, tgbm bfpntgy wjii mht ob dhffumjdntba.

0. Nrb bfhtjhms HL8 Zbs. Bfhtjhms nrb mbjtgbr chha mhr ona.Gnvjmc bfhtjhms js nm jfphrtnmt pnrt h` objmc gufnm.

Obijbvjmc tgjs js mbdbssnry jm hrabr th gnvb sjmdbrb bfpntgy

`hr nmhtgbr pbrshms `bbijmcs. Sgnt yhu ahwjtg nm bfhtjhm

dnm ob gbnitgy hr umgbnitgy.


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Bxbrdjsbs @hr Bfpntgy Qrnjmjmc

Bxbrdjsb Hmb5 Oujiajmc Zhur Bfhtjhm Phdnouinry

Absdrjptjhm5 Qgb ibnabr jmtrhaudbs tgb bxbrdjsb oy snyjmc tgnt

gnvjmc n vhdnouinry h` whras `hr aj``brbmt bfhtjhms, js gbipùi

`hr fnljmc sbmtbmdbs tgnt dhffumjdntb bfpntgy. Fnmy

`bbijmc hr bfhtjhm ijsts dnm ob `huma hm tgb jmtbrmbt.

Bfhtjhms dnm ob sbpnrntba jmth dntbchrjbs h` pibnsnmt nma

pnjmùi `bbijmcs. @hr bxnfpib, pibnsnmt bfhtjhms nrb5 gnppy,

bxdjtba, pbndbùi, rbinxba, dnif, ghpbùi.

Bxnfpibs h` pnjmùi bfhtjhms nrb5 `bnr, nmcbr, cujit, sna,

bfpty, ihw sbi`-whrtg, nma abspnjr.

Nm ndrhmyf dnm ob usba th gbip rbfbfobr n ijst h` whras. @hrbxnfpib, tgb ndrhmyf @NCTBIA js n wny th rbfbfobr tgb

pnjmùi bfhtjhms ijstba nohvb.

Jmvjtb crhup fbfobrs (jm crhup hr ns nm nssjcmfbmt) th fnlb

n ijst h` bfhtjhms hr `bbijmcs tgby gnvb nohut aj``brbmt

bxpbrjbmdbs aurjmc tgb any. Bxnfpibs5 wnljmc up, cbttjmc

arbssba, sfbiijmc orbnl`nst, cbttjmc hm tgb ous, gbnrjmc

pbhpib nrcujmc, gbnrjmc pbhpib inucgjmc, bmtbrjmc tgb rhhf,

sjttjmc nt tgb absl, ijstbmjmc th tgb tbndgbr, chjmc th rbdbss,

tnljmc n tbst, gnvjmc iumdg, ahjmc ghfbwhrl, sbbjmc pnrbmts,

pinyjmc wjtg `rjbmas, sjttjmc ahwm th ajmmbr, chjmc th oba.

Fhrb jm`hrfntjhm5 [njmùi `bbijmcs dnm ob ajvjaba jmth

gnra nma sh`t bfhtjhms. Bxnfpibs h` gnra pnjmùi `bbijmcs

nrb nmcbr, `rustrntjhm, jrrjtntjhm, nma nmmhyba, wgjib

bxnfpibs h` sh`t pnjmùi `bbijmcs nrb `bnr, snambss, cujit,bfptjmbss, ihw sbi`-whrtg, nma abspnjr.


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[hst-Bxbrdjsb Ajsdussjhm5

>. Sgnt ah yhu rbnijzb nohut bfhtjhms nma bxpbrjbmdbs8

?. Sgy js jt jfphrtnmt th ob nwnrb h` yhur bfhtjhms ns yhu

`bbi tgbf jm tgb fhfbmt8

4. Ghw ahbs objmc nwnrb h` yhur hwm bfhtjhms n``bdt tgb wny

yhu umabrstnma htgbr pbhpib nma tgjmcs tgnt gnppbm jm tgbjr

ijvbs8

Nssjcmfbmt5Fnlb n ijst h` yhur bxpbrjbmdbs obtwbbm tgb bma

h` crhup thany nma tgb mbxt crhup fbbtjmc nma tgbm wrjtb tgb

bfhtjhms rbintba th bndg bxpbrjbmdb.


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Bxbrdjsb Qwh5 Ajstjmcujsgjmc Bfhtjhms nma Qghucgts

Absdrjptjhm5 Jm tgjs bxbrdjsb, crhup fbfobrs nrb nslba th

fnlb tgrbb sbmtbmdbs obcjmmjmc wjtg J `bbi `hiihwba oy n

`bbijmc whrasudg ns gnppy, sna, `rustrntba, hr htgbr

bfhtjhm.

Bxnfpibs5 J `bbi gnppy wgbm jts tjfb th piny.

J `bbi bxdjtba wgbm J cbt th ah fntg.

J `bbi sna wgbm fy `rjbmas gnvb th ch ghfb

n`tbr vjsjtjmc.


Sgnt js tgb aj``brbmdb obtwbbm n tghucgt nma n `bbijmc8 N

tghucgt js nm jabn. N `bbijmc js nm bfhtjhm.

Fhrb jm`hrfntjhm5 _bfbfobr tgnt n tghucgt, jmstbna h`

nm bfhtjhm, js bxprbssba j` J `bbi js `hiihwba oy tgb

whra tgnt rntgbr tgnm n `bbijmc whra. Qgb pgrnsb J

`bbi tgnt...., rbniiy fbnms J tgjml hr J obijbvb.

J` yhu obcjm n sbmtbmdb wjtg J tgjml `hiihwba oy nm jabn

sudg ns J tgjml tgjs suoebdt js jmtbrbstjmc hr J tgjml tgjs

crhup js `um, yhu nrb dhffumjdntjmc n tghucgt jmstbna h`

nm bfhtjhm.


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Bxbrdjsb Qgrbb5 Fnljmc Tbmtbmdbs `hr Bfpntgy

Absdrjptjhm5 [rndtjdb fnljmc sbmtbmdbs tgnt dhffumjdntbbfpntgy usjmc tgjs `hrf nma whras `rhf tgb `bbijmc ijst. @jii jm

tgb oinmls, `hiihwba oy dgbdljmc th sbb j` yhu nrb nddurntb5

Zhu `bbiXXXXXXXXXXXX obdnusb XXXXXXXXXXX. Js tgnt

nddurntb8

Tdbmnrjh bxnfpibs5 Gbrb nrb bxnfpibs h` twh sdbmnrjhs

`hiihwba oy bxnfpibs h` sbmtbmdbs tgnt sghw bfpntgy nma

dgbdljmc `hr nddurndy.

>. Ejii gns n `rhwm hm gbr `ndb nma snys gbr obst `rjbma eust

fhvba nwny.

Bfpntgjd rbìbdtjhm5 Ejii, yhu `bbi sna obdnusb yhu obst

`rjbma eust fhvba nwny. Js tgnt wgnt yhu `bbi8

?. Ana js vbry qujbt wgbm gb dhfbs ghfb `rhf whrl nma snys

gb eust ihst gjs eho.

Bfpntgjd rbìbdtjhm5 Ana, yhu `bbi whrrjba obdnusb yhu ihst

yhur eho. Js tgnt wgnt yhu `bbi8

[rndtjdb Tdbmnrjhs5N`tbr bndg sdbmnrjh obihw, wrjtb nsbmtbmdb tgnt sghws bfpntgy `hiihwba oy dgbdljmc th sbb j`

yhu nrb nddurntb.

>. Zhur orhtgbr dhfbs ghfb dryjmc nma tgbm snys gb wns

dniiba gurtùi mnfbs nt sdghhi.

?. Qgb ohy nt sdghhi tgnt htgbrs eust dniiba gurtùi mnfbs, js

sjttjmc qujbtiy nma ihhljmc ahwm.

4. Zhur `rjbma snys gb ahbs mht wnmt th ch ghfb obdnusb gb

rbdbjvba ihw sdhrbs hm gjs rbphrt dnra.


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1. Zhur `rjbma snys sgb dnmt jmvjtb yhu hvbr obdnusb gbr Fhf

ahbsmt `bbi wbii.

2. N pbrshm nt sdghhi js sjttjmc nihmb nt iumdg tjfb nma mht

bntjmc gjs iumdg.


>. Sgnt qubstjhms ah yhu gnvb nohut wrjtjmc n sbmtbmdb tgnt

sghws bfpntgy8

?. Sgy js jt jfphrtnmt th dgbdl th sbb j` yhu nrb nddurntb8


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Bxbrdjsb @hur5 _hib _bvbrsni

Absdrjptjhm5 Jm tgb _hib _bvbrsni bxbrdjsb, bfpntgy sljiis nrbjmdrbnsba wgbm jmajvjaunis nrb nslba th jfncjmb gb hr sgb js

shfbhmb bisb wgh wjii ob jmtbrvjbwba jm pnjrs. Qgb crhup js

ajvjaba jmth pnjrs, nma bndg pbrshm tnlbs turms tbiijmc tgb

htgbr pbrshm onsjd pbrshmni jm`hrfntjhm jm nmswbr th n orjb`

sbt h` qubstjhms. Qgbm bndg pbrshm jfncjmbs gb hr sgb js tgb

htgbr pbrshm nma spbnls th tgb crhup jm tgb `jrst pbrshm ns j`

gb hr sgb js tgb htgbr pbrshm. Fnry jmtbrvjbws _hsjb nma tgbm

prbsbmts gbrsbi` ns j` sgb js _hsjb oy snyjmc, Fy mnfb js

_hsjb. J nf >? ybnrs hia, btd. Qgbm _hsjb ahbs tgb snfb oy

snyjmc, Fy mnfb js Fnry. J nf >? ybnrs hia, btd.

Nddurndy js jfphrtnmt `hr oujiajmc bfpntgy sljiis jm tgjs

bxbrdjsb.

Qgb `hiihwjmc js n ijst h` onsjd qubstjhms `hr dhiibdtjmc onsjd

pbrshmni jm`hrfntjhm5

>. Sgnt js yhur mnfb8

?. Sgnt js yhur ncb8

4. Sgnt js yhur `nvhrjtb dhihr8

1. Ghw fnmy orhtgbrs nma sjstbrs ah yhu gnvb82. Sgbrb aja yhu ch hm vndntjhm8

0. Sgnt ah yhu ijlb th ah fhst8

Abfhmstrntb th tgb crhup5

Mhw J mbba n vhiumtbbr th sghw yhu wgnt rhib rbvbrsni ihhlsijlb. Sgh whuia ijlb th vhiumtbbr8 Qgb ibnabr nsls tgb nohvb

qubstjhms th tgb vhiumtbbr ns yhu sjt thcbtgbr jm `rhmt h` tgbcrhup. Qgbm tgb ibnabr prbsbmts gbrsbi` ns tgb stuabmtspbnljmc jm tgb `jrst pbrshm nma rbintjmc tgb jm`hrfntjhmdhiibdtba jm tgb jmtbrvjbw usjmc tgb qubstjhms nohvb.


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Qgbm tgb ibnabr snys, Sgnt qubstjhms ah yhu gnvb nohut

wgnt yhu wjii ob ahjmc8

Jmstrudtjhms th tgb crhup5

Mhw J wnmt yhu th ajvjab jmth pnjrs nma jmtbrvjbw bndg htgbr

usjmc tgbsb qubstjhms (wrjttbm hm tgb ohnra hr cjvbm ns n

prjmtba gnmahut). _bfbfobr wgnt tgb htgbr pbrshm snys, nma

tgbm yhu wjii prbsbmt yhursbi` ns j` yhu nrb tgb htgbr pbrshm

stnrtjmc wjtg tgb mnfb nma sh hm. Zhu wjii gnvb th ijstbm vbry

dnrb`uiiy nma rbfbfobr wgnt tgb htgbr pbrshm snja. Sgnt

qubstjhms ah yhu gnvb nohut wgnt J nf nsljmc yhu th ah8

[hst-Bxbrdjsb ajsdussjhm5

>. Sgnt wns jt ijlb gbnrjmc yhur pnrtmbr spbnl ns j` gb hr sgb

wns yhu8 Sns gb hr sgb nddurntb8

?. Sgnt wns jt ijlb objmc yhur pnrtmbr8 Sgnt aja yhu `bbi hr

tgjml wgbm yhu wbrb objmc shfbhmb aj``brbmt tgnm yhursbi`8


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Bxbrdjsb @jvb5 Ahuoijmc

Absdrjptjhm5 Jm tgb Ahuoijmc bxbrdjsb, sjfjinr th tgb _hib_bvbrsni bxbrdjsb, tgb jmajvjaunis oujia bfpntgy sljiis oy

obdhfjmc n ahuoib hr nitbr bch `hr nmhtgbr pbrshm. Qgjs js

ahmb oy jmvjtjmc stuabmts th wnil nrhuma tgb rhhf jm pnjrs (hr

th sjt jm dgnjrs jm pnrniibi phsjtjhm) wgjib hmb spbnls ns tgb

htgbr ahuoibs.

Qgb spbnlbr tnils nohut n gnppy fbfhry hr bxpbdtba `uturb

bvbmt. Ns tgb spbnlbr js tniljmc, tgb Ahuoib nish tnils jm tgb

`jrst pbrshm ns j` gb hr sgb js nish tgb spbnlbr nma rbnas

obtwbbm tgb ijmbs oy jmsbrtjmc `bbijmc whras.

Bxnfpib5

Tpbnlbr5 J nf chjmc th vjsjt fy crnmapnrbmts mbxt wbbl.

Ahuoib5 Nma J `bbi gnppy.

Tpbnlbr5 Fy crnmafn fnlbs tgb obst dhhljbs.

Ahuoib5 J nf bxdjtba th bnt tgb dhhljbs.

Qgb spbnlbr dnm ibt tgb Ahuoib lmhw j` sgb hr gb js nddurntb

hr mht oy snyjmc wgnt tgb nddurntb `bbijmc js.


Mhw J mbba n vhiumtbbr th sghw yhu wgnt Ahuoijmc ihhls ijlb.

Dhfb gbrb nma sjt wjtg fb (dgnjrs jm pnrniibi phsjtjhm `ndjmc

tgb crhup). Qnil nohut n gnppy fbfhry hr shfbtgjmc yhu ihhl

`hrwnra th jm tgb `uturb.

Ns tgb vhiumtbbr tnils, tgb ibnabr spbnls jm tgb `jrst pbrshm ns

j` sgb hr gb js tgb stuabmt nma `jiis jm `bbijmcs hr bfhtjhms mht

sphlbm oy tgb vhiumtbbr.


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N`tbr n orjb` wgjib, tgb ibnabr turms th tgb crhup nma snys,

Sgnt qubstjhms ah yhu gnvb nohut wgnt J nf nsljmc yhu th

ah8

Jmstrudtjhms `hr tgb crhup bxbrdjsb5

Ajvjab tgb crhup jmth pnjrs, nma ns tgby nrb bmcncba jm tgb

bxbrdjsb, ibt tgbf lmhw wgbm th swjtdg rhibs wjtg hmb ns tgb

spbnlbr nma tgb htgbr ns tgb Ahuoib.


N`tbr bndg pbrshm gns gna nm hpphrtumjty th bxpbrjbmdb ohtg

rhibs (spbnlbr nma Ahuoib)5

>. Sgnt wns jt ijlb objmc tgb spbnlbr nma gbnrjmc tgb Ahuoib

spbnljmc ns yhursbi`8

?. Sgnt wns jt ijlb objmc tgb Ahuoib8 Sgnt wns tgb gnrabst

pnrt8

4. Ghw aja tgb bxbrdjsb h` Ahuoijmc gbip yhu umabrstnma tgb

htgbr pbrshm8


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Bxbrdjsb Tjx5 Ijstbmjmc wjtg Bfpntgy

Absdrjptjhm5 [rndtjdb ijstbmjmc th nmhtgbr pbrshm tnil nohutshfbtgjmc tgnt js pbrshmniiy jfphrtnmt, nma fnlb sbmtbmdbs

`hr bfpntgy tgnt rbìbdt gjs hr gbr bfhtjhms. _bfbfobr tgnt

bfpntgy fbnms th sbt nsjab yhur hwm tghucgts nma `bbijmcs

nma th pny nttbmtjhm th wgnt tgb htgbr pbrshm tgjmls nma

`bbis.


Mhw J mbba n vhiumtbbr sh tgnt J dnm sghw tgb crhup wgnt n

sbmtbmdb `hr bfpntgy shumas ijlb. Qgjml h` shfbtgjmc yhu dnm

sny nohut wgnt js jfphrtnmt th yhu hr shfbtgjmc tgnt

gnppbmba hr yhu ghpb wjii gnppbm jm tgb ùturb. Sgh whuia

ijlb th vhiumtbbr8

N`tbr n orjb` abfhmstrntjhm, tgnml tgb vhiumtbbr nma nsl tgbcrhup, Sgnt qubstjhms ah yhu gnvb nohut wgnt yhu wjii ob

ahjmc8

Jmstrudtjhms `hr tgb crhup bxbrdjsb5

Mhw wb wjii prndtjdb fnljmc sbmtbmdbs `hr bfpntgy. J wnmt

yhu ajvjab jmth pnjrs. Hmb h` yhu wjii spbnl `hr n ijttib wgjib

nma tgb htgbr wjii ijstbm. Qgb spbnlbr dnm tnil nohut

shfbtgjmc tgnt gnppbmba inst mjcgt hr thany hr shfbtgjmc jm

tgb ùturb. Qgb ijstbmbr wjii fnlb n sbmtbmdb `hr bfpntgy nma

dgbdl th sbb j` jt js nddurntb. Qgbm J wjii tbii yhu wgbm th

swjtdg, wjtg tgb spbnlbr obdhfjmc tgb ijstbmbr, nma tgb

ijstbmbr obdhfjmc tgb spbnlbr. _bfbfobr tgnt bfpntgy

fbnms th sbt nsjab yhur hwm tghucgts nma `bbijmcs nma th pnynttbmtjhm th wgnt tgb htgbr pbrshm tgjmls nma `bbis.

N`tbr cjvjmc jmstrudtjhms, nsl tgb crhup, Sgnt qubstjhms ah

yhu gnvb nohut wgnt yhu wjii ob ahjmc8


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>. Sgnt wns jt ijlb objmc tgb spbnlbr nma gbnrjmc tgb ijstbmbr

fnlb sbmtbmdbs `hr bfpntgy (rbìbdtjhms)8

?. Sgnt wns jt ijlb objmc tgb ijstbmbr8 Sgnt wns tgb gnrabstpnrt nohut jt8

Fhrb jm`hrfntjhm5 Jm fnljmc nm bfpntgjd rbìbdtjhm, nm

hvbrstntbfbmt h` tgb htgbr pbrshms tghucgts nma `bbijmcs

dnm cjvb naaba supphrt wgbm tgb rbìbdtjhm js nddurntb nma

sjmdbrb. Qgjs jmvhivbs sbbjmc jfpijdntjhms h` wgnt tgb

spbnlbr snys nma jmdiuajmc tgbsb jfpijdntjhms jm tgb sjmdbrb

rbìbdtjhm wgjib objmc dnrbùi th dgbdl `hr nddurndy. J` tgb

bfpntgjd rbìbdtjhm js nm umabrstntbfbmt nma ibnvbs hut

nddurntb onsjd jm`hrfntjhm cjvbm oy tgb spbnlbr, tgb

spbnlbr wjii `bbi n indl h` bfpntgy nma supphrt.

Naajtjhmni bxbrdjsbs dnm ob drbntba th nssjst crhup fbfobrs

th rbdhcmjzb nma rbìbdt bfpntgy `hr aj``brbmt spbdj`jdbfhtjhms sudg ns `bnr, nmcbr, cujit, snambss, dbiborntjhm,

gufjijntjhm, nma htgbrs. Tbb nm bxbrdjsb `hr bfpntgjzjmc

wjtg nmcbr obihw.


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Bxbrdjsb Tbvbm5 Obdhfjmc Nmhtgbr Dgnrndtbr

Absdrjptjhm5Jm tgjs bxbrdjsb, fbfobrs nrb nslba th orbnljmth crhups h` tgrbb th ah tgb `hiihwjmc5

>. Srjtb tgb ajnihcub `hr nma tgbm bmndt n sdbmnrjh `hr tgrbb

pbhpib5 n vjdtjf, n ouiiy, nma nm hosbrvbr.

?. Bndg crhup bmndts tgb sdbmnrjh tgrbb tjfbs. Bndg tjfb tgb

sdbmnrjh js bmndtba, bndg pbrshm rhtntbs th tnlb hm tgb rhib h`

n aj``brbmt dgnrndtbr.

4. N`tbr nii sdbmnrjhs nrb bmndtba wjtg bndg pbrshm rhtntjmc th

bndg rhib, bndg pbrshm tgbm ajsdussbs wgnt jt wns ijlb th tnlb

hm tgb rhib h` bndg dgnrndtbr, wgnt bfhtjhms wbrb `bit, nma

wgnt tghucgts dnfb up jm bndg rhib.

[hst-Bxbrdjsb Ajsdussjhm5>. Sgnt bfhtjhms aja yhu `bbi ns tgb ouiiy8

?. Sgnt bfhtjhms aja yhu `bbi ns tgb vjdtjf8

4. Sgnt bfhtjhms aja yhu `bbi ns tgb hosbrvbr8

1. Sgnt abdjsjhms gnvb yhu fnab n`tbr ahjmc tgjs bxbrdjsb8


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Bxbrdjsb Bjcgt5 Rmabrstnmajmc tgb Tthry

Absdrjptjhm5 Qgjs bxbrdjsb js nohut umabrstnmajmc tgb sthry h`nmhtgbr pbrshm. Nm bmbfy js shfbhmb wghsb sthry yhu gnvb

mht gbnra.

>. Nsl fbfobrs h` tgb crhup th tgjml (nma wrjtb) nohut

shfbhmb tgby nrb n`rnja h` hr shfbhmb wjtg wghf tgby ah

mht wnmt th ob `rjbmas nma th cjvb n rbnshm.

?. Nsl crhup fbfobrs th jfncjmb tgby `huma hut rbnshms wgytgb pbrshm obgnvbs jm n mbcntjvb wny nma th wrjtb tgb rbnshms

ahwm.

4. Nsl crhup fbfobrs th sgnrb ghw tgby `bbi nohut tgb

pbrshm n`tbr rbnijzjmc tgbrb fny ob n sthry tgnt bxpinjms tgb

mbcntjvb obgnvjhr h` tgb pbrshm.

Bxnfpib5 (dhrrbsphmajmc th tgb tgrbb phjmts nohvb)

>. J ah mht wnmt th ob `rjbmas wjtg _hsjb obdnusb sgb mbvbr

tnils th fb.

?. J `huma hut tgnt _hsjb js umgnppy nma ihmbiy nt ghfb, nma

sgb js n`rnja gbr Fhf fny mht ob noib th pny tgb rbmt.

4. Mhw tgnt J lmhw tgjs fny ob trub, J wnmt th ob `rjbmas wjtg

_hsjb obdnusb gbr mht tniljmc js mht nohut fb out nohut gbr

`bbijmcs nohut wgnt js gnppbmjmc nt ghfb.


>. Ghw gns tgjs bxbrdjsb dgnmcba tgb wny yhu tgjml nohut

pbhpib yhu nrb n`rnja h` hr wjtg wghf yhu ah mht wnmt th ob

`rjbmas8

?. Jfncjmb ghw umabrstnmajmc tgb sthry h` tgb htgbr pbrshm

dhuia n``bdt tgb wny pbhpib `bbi nma tgjml nohut tgbjr

pbrdbjvba bmbfjbs, mntjhms jm dhm`ijdt, nma crhups h` pbhpib

tgnt yhu hr pbrgnps htgbrs ajsijlb.


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Bxbrdjsb Mjmb5 Jfncjmb tgb Bfhtjhms h` n

Gjsthrjdni Dgnrndtbr

Absdrjptjhm5 Qgjs bxbrdjsb js nohut umabrstnmajmc tgb

bfhtjhms h` n gjsthrjdni dgnrndtbr. Qgb ibnabr nsls crhup

fbfobrs th fnlb n ijst h` `jvb pbhpib `rhf gjsthry nma

djrdufstnmdbs. Qgbm wrjtb bfhtjhms tgnt bndg pbrshm fny

gnvb `bit nohut wgnt wns gnppbmjmc jm gjsthry hr jm tgb ij`b h`

tgb pbrshm wgbm tgby wbrb bxpbrjbmdjmc tgb bfhtjhms.

Nitbrmntjvbiy, tgb ibnabr dnm fnlb n ijst h` gjsthrjdni pbhpib,

absdrjob tgbjr djrdufstnmdbs, nma tgbm jmvjtb crhup fbfobrs

th ijst bfhtjhms tgb pbrshm fjcgt gnvb gna.

Bxnfpib5 Norngnf Ijmdhim sbbs sinvbs objmc shia jm tgb thwm

squnrb, nma jm tgnt fhfbmt gb `bbis sna tgnt tgby gnvb mh

`nfjijbs h` tgbjr hwm, nmcry tgnt fbm whuia trbnt htgbr fbmns prhpbrty, nma ghpbibss tgnt gb dhuia ah mhtgjmc nohut jt.


>.Sgh whuia ijlb th sgnrb yhur ijst h` gjsthrjdni pbhpib nma

djrdufstnmdbs wjtg tgb crhup8

?. Sgnt bfhtjhms aja yhu dhfb up wjtg nma wgnt nrb tgb

bfhtjhms nohut8


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Bxbrdjsb Qbm5 Gnvjmc Bfpntgy `hr Nmcbr

Absdrjptjhm5Qgjs bxbrdjsb nssjsts tgb abvbihpfbmt h` wnys thdhpb wjtg tgb nmcbr h` nmhtgbr pbrshm oy usjmc bfpntgjd

rbìbdtjhm. Bfpntgy `hr nmcbr dnm shfbtjfbs gnvb tgb b``bdt

h` rbaudjmc tgb nmcbr h` n pbrshm.

N sdbmnrjh js abfhmstrntba oy tgb ibnabr wgh fnlbs n

rbìbdtjvb bfpntgjd stntbfbmt wgbm shfbhmb js vbry nmcry.

N`tbr hosbrvjmc tgjs, crhup fbfobrs nrb nslba th `hrf pnjrs

nma th prndtjdb fnljmc n rbìbdtjvb bfpntgjd stntbfbmt th

tgb htgbr pbrshm wgh fnlbs nm nmcry stntbfbmt.

Bxnfpib5 (abfhmstrntba)

Nmcry [brshm5 Zhu mbvbr ah wgnt yhurb thia, nma sh mhw J

gnvb th ah jt `hr yhu.

Bfpntgjd Ijstbmbr5 Zhu `bbi nmcry obdnusb J ajamt ah fy

whrl, nma tgnt fnlbs fhrb whrl `hr yhu. Js tgnt wgnt yhu nrb

`bbijmc8

@hiihwjmc tgjs abfhmstrntjhm, nsl crhup fbfobrs th bmndt tgb

snfb sdbmnrjh jm pnjrs wjtg bndg pbrshm tnljmc turms objmc tgb

nmcry pbrshm, tgbm tgb bfpntgjd ijstbmbr. Rsb tgb stntbfbmtsprhvjaba jm tgb nohvb bxnfpib nma rbpbntba tgbf th gbip yhu

`bbi fhrb h` tgb bfhtjhm nma wgnt jt js ijlb th sny nma gbnr

tgb whras.


>. Sgnt wns jt ijlb fnljmc tgb nmcry stntbfbmt8

?. Sgnt wns jt ijlb fnljmc tgb bfpntgjd rbìbdtjvb stntbfbmt8

4. Sgnt wns jt ijlb ns tgb nmcry pbrshm gbnrjmc tgb bfpntgjd

rbìbdtjvb stntbfbmt h` tgb ijstbmbr8


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1. Jfncjmb ghw bfpntgjd rb`ibdtjhm dhuia ob usba obtwbbm

mntjhms th rbaudb ghstjijty. Ghw dhuia jt whrl8


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@jmajmc SjsahfPbronijzjmc Zhur Jmmbr Ajnihcub

Mbw cbmbrntjhm psydghihcjdni tbdgmhihcy dnm jfprhvb

dhmajtjhms jm pbrshms wjtg mhrfni hr nvbrncb dhcmjtjvb

ùmdtjhmjmc. Qgb dhcmjtjvb fbmtni ùmdtjhms cjvb gufnms n

pnrtjduinr navnmtncb jm tbrfs h` drbntjvb shiutjhm abvbihpfbmt.

Gufnms nrb dhmstnmtiy bmcncjmc jm n prhdbss h` jmtbrmni

ajnihcub ndrhss n vnrjbty h` suoebdt nrbns. Fbmtni ajstrbss fny

ob nt ibnst pnrtiy rbfbajba oy vbronijzjmc, umabrstnmajmc, nmapbrgnps fhaj`yjmc tgb jmtbrmni ajnihcub.

@hr pbrshms su``brjmc `rhf dgrhmjd abpbmabmdy ns wbii ns

nmxjbty, abprbssjhm, nma rbintjhmsgjp jssubs, tgb `hiihwjmc

tbdgmjqub fny ob usbùi5

>. Jmvjtb tgb dijbmt th tnil nohut wgnt tgby lmhw wjii jfprhvb

tgbjr sjtuntjhm nma wgnt dhuia whrsbm tgbjr sjtuntjhm.

?. Jabmtj`y tgb pnrts h` tgb sbi` ns tgb lmhwjmc dhm`jabmt sbi`nma

tgb umlmhwjmc mbcntjvb sbi`.

4. Nsl tgb dijbmt th vbronijzb bndg pnrt h` tgb sbi` jm rbsphmsb th

tgb htgbr (ijlb Chiuf jm Ihra h` tgb _jmcs).

1. Ajsduss wnys th strbmctgbm tgb lmhwjmc dhm`jabmt pnrt h` tgb

sbi`. Qgjs js nish tgb hosbrvbr wjiipnrt h` tgb sbi` tgnt js noib thbvniuntb nma fhaj`y tgb ajnihcub nma arnw n dhmdiusjhm tgnt

whrls obst.

Qgb nohvb tbdgmjqub dnm ob bnsjiy ibnrmba, rbdhraba tgrhucg

ehurmnijmc, nma rbpbntba ns n dhrb prhdbss jm tgbrnpy jm hrabr

th fnlb tgb jmmbr ajnihcub fhst dhmsdjhus nma usbùi th tgb

dijbmt. Qgjs psydghihcjdni tbdgmhihcy dnm jfprhvb dhmajtjhms jm

pbrshms wjtg mhrfni hr nvbrncb dhcmjtjvb ùmdtjhmjmc.

Qgb tgbrnpbutjd usb h` jmmbr ajnihcub dnm `hdus hm n spbdj`jd

jssub hr nrbn h` fbmtni ajstrbss nma jmvjtb tgb dijbmt th gnvb n


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dhmvbrsntjhm obtwbbm tgb lmhwjmc dhm`jabmt pnrt nma tgb

mbcntjvb sbi`-ahuotjmc hr umgbnitgy pnrt.

Gbrb js nm bxnfpib h` nm bxdgnmcb usjmc tgjs jmmbr ajnihcub

npprhndg5

Dijbmt5J `bbi sh jmnabquntb nma indljmc jm sbi`-dhm`jabmdb.

Dhumsbihr5Th, pnrt h` yhu `bbis jmnabquntb nma indljmc jm

sbi`-dhm`jabmdb. J whmabr j` tgbrb js nmhtgbr pnrt h` yhu, n

lmhwjmc pnrt, bvbm n sfnii pnrt, tgnt `bbis nabquntb nma

dhm`jabmt nohut shfb tgjmcs.

Dijbmt5Zbs, tgbrb js. J fhvba hut gbrb hm fy hwm. J gnvb n ehonma pny fy rbmt (dijbmt sfjibs).

Dhumsbihr5Zhu nrb vbry rbshurdb`ui, dnpnoib, nma

jmabpbmabmt. Zhu dnm strbmctgbm tgb phsjtjvb, dnpnoib pnrt h`

yhursbi` eust oy tniljmc fhrb nohut jt. Qbii fb fhrb.

Jm tgjs bxnfpib tgb dhumsbihr `urtgbr supphrts tgb lmhwjmc

supphrtjvb sbi` oy naajmc th tgb ajnihcub. Qgb dhumsbihr dnm

nish jmvjtb tgb dijbmt th vbronijzb tgb jmmbr ajnihcub obtwbbm tgb

phsjtjvb lmhwjmc pnrt nma tgb mbcntjvb ahuotjmc pnrt.

Dhumsbihr5Mhw J wnmt yhu th spbnl yhur mbcntjvb tghucgts

nma nish yhur phsjtjvb tghucgts.

Nm bxdgnmcb wjtg shfbhmb su``brjmc `rhf

abprbssjhm

Dhumsbihr5 J` tgbrbs n dhmvbrsntjhm jmsjab yhu nohut tgb

abprbssjhm, ghw ahbs jt ch8 Tpbnl tgb dhmvbrsntjhm hut ihua.

Dijbmt5J nf n `njiurb. Mhtgjmc J ah js chha bmhucg.

Dhumsbihr5Th tgnt js tgb mbcntjvb pnrt h` yhu tgnt `bbas tgb

abprbssjhm. Qgbrb js nmhtgbr pnrt h` yhu, bvbm j` jt js n sfnii

pnrt, tgnt lmhws fhrb nma tgnt dnm sbb tgb ojc pjdturb. Sgntahbs tgnt pnrt sny8


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Dijbmt5J gnvb obbm rbshurdbùi, jmabpbmabmt, nma sbi`-rbijnmt. J

pny fy hwm rbmt, ouy fy hwm `hha, ghia n eho, fhvba `nr `rhf

ghfb, nma gnvb trnvbiiba th Burhpb hm fy hwm.

Dhumsbihr5Zbs. Sgjdg pnrt h` yhu `bbis obttbr tgnm tgb htgbr

pnrt h` yhu5 tgb mbcntjvb pnrt hr tgb htgbr pnrt8

Shrljmc wjtg aj``brbmt pbrshmnijty ajshrabrs

Qgb obcjmmjmc h` tgb prhdbss js th jabmtj`y tgb dbmtrni jssub

ab`jmjmc tgb pbrshmnijty ajshrabr.

[brshmnijty ajshrabrs nrb umabrsthha ns n pnttbrm h` obgnvjhur

obcjmmjmc jm dgjiaghha, dnusjmc suoebdtjvb ajstrbss nman``bdtjmc shdjni nma hddupntjhmni ùmdtjhmjmc.

Qgb dbmtrni jssubh` bndg ajshrabr js ndtuniiy tgb vhjdb h` tgb

mbcntjvb umgbnitgy sbi` tgnt js inrcbr hr strhmcbr tgnm tgb

phsjtjvb dhm`jabmt sbi`. Qgb chni h` tgbrnpy js th strbmctgbm tgb

phsjtjvb dhm`jabmt sbi` nma tgbrboy rbijbvb fbmtni ajstrbss. Qgjs

hddurs oy orjmcjmc tgb jmmbr ajnihcub jmth dhmsdjhus nwnrbmbss

nma oy `hdusjmc nttbmtjhm hm tgb phsjtjvb gbnitgy dhm`jabmt sbiòy tniljmc nohut, binohrntjmc, nma n``jrfjmc jt.

Qgb mbcntjvb umgbnitgy sbi` js sjcmj`jdnmtiy `ba oy mbcntjvb

umdnrjmc bxpbrjbmdbs aurjmc dgjiaghha, usuniiy tgb pnrbmtni

rbintjhmsgjp. N wny th strbmctgbm tgb phsjtjvb sbi` js th sny,

Sgnt whuia yhu sny hr ah j` wgntgnppbmba th yhu gnppbmba

th yhur hwm dgjia8 nma J` yhu wbrb tgb gbnitgy dnrjmc nauit hr

pnrbmt jm tgb sjtuntjhm yhu absdrjob, wgnt whuia yhu sny hr ah

`hr yhu, tgb dgjia8

Qgjs npprhndg utjijzbs tgb pbrshms hwm dhcmjtjvb nojijty nma

sbmsb h` bfpntgy th drbntb nma ab`jmb gbnitgy dghjdbs.

Nmhtgbr npprhndg js th sny, J` yhu gna phwbr th dgnmcb nmy

tgrbb tgjmcs nohut yhur dgjiaghha hr `nfjiy wgbm yhu wbrb

crhwjmc up, wgnt whuia tgby ob8 nma, J whmabr j` yhu dnmjfncjmb ghw yhu fjcgt ob aj``brbmt thany jm shfb wnys j`

tgjmcs gna obbm aj``brbmt ns yhu absdrjob.


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Qgjs npprhndg gbips tgb pbrshm usb fbfhry th jabmtj`y

sjcmj`jdnmt umrbshivba jssubs `rhf dgjiaghha tgnt rbqujrb

gbnijmc ns wbii ns vjsunijzntjhm jm hrabr th jabmtj`y nma

strbmctgbm tgb phsjtjvb gbnitgy sbi`. N lby th fhvjmc `hrwnra js

th ghia twh hpphsjtb rbnijtjbs sjfuitnmbhusiy, tgb rbnijty h` ihssh` pnrbmtni dnrjmc hr htgbr ihss nma nish hmbs phwbr th fnlb

gbnitgy dghjdbs jm tghucgt nma ndtjhm mhw5 Fnyob yhu dhuia

mht dghhsb wgnt gnppbmba jm yhur dgjiaghha, nma yhu dnm

dghhsb wgnt yhu ah mhw.

[nrnmhja [brshmnijty Ajshrabr

Dbmtrni jssub5Mh hmb dnm ob trustba obdnusb tgby wnmt thgnrf fb jm shfb wny.

Dhffhm nsshdjntba fnehr mbcntjvb ij`b bxpbrjbmdb5 Ihss h`

dnrjmc nma dihsbmbss jm tgb pnrbmtni rbintjhmsgjp aurjmc

dgjiaghha. [hssjoiy pgysjdni hr vbroni nousb.

Qgbrnpbutjd stntbfbmts supphrtjmc tgb gbnitgy sbi`5

Sgnt gnppbmba jm yhur dgjiaghha hr yhur pnst tgnt yhu tgjmlgns dhmtrjoutba fhst th yhur ajstrust h` htgbrs8

J whmabr j` pnrt h` yhu lmhws wgnt shfbhmb whuia ob ijlb j`

tgby dhuia ob trustba.

Ghw fudg js yhur `bnr nma ajstrust onsba hm wgnt yhu tgjml

nohut htgbr pbhpib8 J` yhu dhuia niihw yhursbi` th tgjml

aj``brbmtiy nohut htgbrs, ghw fjcgt yhur `bnr ob n``bdtba8

Ghw whuia yhu `bbi thwnra htgbrs j` yhu dhuia obijbvb tgnt

pbhpib nrb cbmbrniiy sjmdbrb nma wbii-jmtbmtjhmba8

Tdgjzhja [brshmnijty Ajshrabr

Dbmtrni jssub5Mh hmb umabrstnmas fb obdnusb J nf aj``brbmt.

J prb`br th ob nihmb.

Dhffhm nsshdjntba fnehr mbcntjvb ij`b bxpbrjbmdb5

Dgjiaghha nousb, ihss h` pnrbmtni dnrjmc, ouiiyjmc.


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Sgbm jm yhur ij`b aja yhu `jrst stnrt `bbijmc nihmb hr h` objmc

ihmbiy8

Sgnt gnppbmba jm yhur dgjiaghha hr yhur pnst tgnt yhu tgjmlgns dhmtrjoutba fhst th yhur absjrb th ob nihmb8

J whmabr ghw yhu fjcgt ob aj``brbmt thany j` tgbrb gna obbm

shfbtgjmc aj``brbmt jm yhur ij`b wgbm yhu wbrb crhwjmc up.

Sgnt js yhur jfncb h` tgb pbrshm yhu wnmt th ob8 Absdrjob tgjs

pbrshm `hr fb.

[nrt h` yhu prb`brs th ob nihmb. Nmhtgbr pnrt h` yhu gns n

aj``brbmt mbba hr aj``brbmt jabn nohut pbhpib. Sgnt ahbs tgnt

pnrt sny8

Tdgjzhtypni [brshmnijty Ajshrabr

Dbmtrni jssub5J gnvb haa hr abiusjhmni tghucgts out J fny mht

rbdhcmjzb tgbf ns haa hr abiusjhmni< mh hmb dnm ob trustba.

[hssjoib nousb hr nonmahmfbmt bxpbrjbmdb jm dgjiaghha.

Dhffhm nsshdjntba fnehr mbcntjvb ij`b bxpbrjbmdb5 Ihss h`

pnrbmtni dnrjmc< indl h` shdjni sljii abvbihpfbmt jm dgjiaghha.


[nrt h` yhu tgjmls wgnt yhu absdrjoba (tgb haa tghucgt) js trub,

nma fnyob yhu mbba th gnvb tghsb tghucgts `hr mhw.

[nrt h` yhu obijbvbs mh hmb dnm ob trustba, nma bvbryhmb

wnmts th gnrf yhu jm shfb wny.

Qgbrb js nmhtgbr pnrt h` yhu tgnt fny gnvb n aj``brbmt jabn

nohut yhur tghucgts nma lmhws wgnt yhu mbba nma wgh yhu

dnm ob. Sgnt ahbs tgnt pnrt h` yhu sny8

Nmtjshdjni [brshmnijty Ajshrabr

Dbmtrni jssub5J nf wjiijmc th vjhintb tgb rjcgts h` htgbrs th

sbrvb fy hwm prh`jt nma pibnsurb.


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Dhffhm nsshdjntba fnehr mbcntjvb ij`b bxpbrjbmdb5 Indl h`

pnrbmtni ajsdjpijmb aurjmc dgjiaghha< ihss h` pnrbmtni dnrjmc.


[nrt h` yhu js usb th survjvjmc hm yhur hwm, obijbvbs shfbtjfbsyhu fust tnlb navnmtncb h` htgbr pbhpib th ihhl n`tbr yhur hwm

jmtbrbst, nma tgnt tgb bma eustj`jbs tgb fbnms. Js tgnt nddurntb8

Qgbrb js nmhtgbr pnrt h` yhu tgnt `bbis n ijttib cujity nohut tnljmc

navnmtncb h` htgbrs th fbbt yhur hwm mbbas. Sgnt ahbs tgnt

pnrt h` yhu sny8

Ohrabrijmb [brshmnijty AjshrabrDbmtrni jssub5J ahmt gnvb dhmtrhi hvbr fy bfhtjhms. J gntb

yhu, ahmt ibnvb fb. J nf n`rnja h` nonmahmfbmt.

Dhffhm nsshdjntba fnehr mbcntjvb ij`b bxpbrjbmdb5Nousb

nma/hr nonmahmfbmt aurjmc dgjiaghha.


[nrt h` yhu gntbs pbhpib, `bbis bfhtjhmniiy mbcntjvb thwnra

htgbrs, nma nish `bnrs objmc ib`t nihmb oy htgbrs. Sgh wns tgb

`jrst jfphrtnmt pbrshm jm yhur ij`b wgh gurt hr ib`t yhu8

Nmhtgbr pnrt h` yhu, pbrgnps n sfnii pnrt, obijbvbs tgnt yhu nrb

dnpnoib h` objmc HL nma survjvjmc bvbm j` pbhpib ibnvb yhu.

Sgnt bisb ahbs tgnt pnrt lmhw8 Fnyob tgnt yhu dnm fnmncb

yhur bfhtjhms, bspbdjniiy yhur nmcbr8

Gjstrjhmjd [brshmnijty Ajshrabr

Dbmtrni jssub5J mbba tgb nttbmtjhm nma npprhvni h` htgbrs jm

hrabr th ob gnppy. Fy whrtg abpbmas hm fy pgysjdni

nttrndtjvbmbss.


Dgjiaghha nousb nma ibnrmjmc th obijbvb tgnt vniub js

nsshdjntba wjtg sbxunijty hr bxtbrmni nppbnrnmdb. Indl h`

trnjmjmc jm gbnitgy vniubs nma obijb`s aurjmc dgjiaghha.


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[nrt h` yhu obijbvbs yhur whrtg abpbmas uphm yhur sbx nppbni

nma pgysjdni nppbnrnmdb.

Qgbrb js nmhtgbr wjsbr pnrt, bvbm j` jt js n sfnii pnrt h` yhu, tgntlmhws fhrb nohut yhu nma yhur whrtg ns n pbrshm. Sgnt ahbs

tgnt pnrt sny8

Mnrdjssjstjd [brshmnijty Ajshrabr

Dbmtrni jssub5 Fy jabns nma nojijtjbs nrb supbrjhr th tghsb h`

htgbrs.

Dhffhm nsshdjntba fnehr mbcntjvb ij`b bxpbrjbmdb5[nrbmtni nonmahmfbmt hr rbebdtjhm oy tgb `ntgbr.


[nrt h` yhu tgjmls yhur jabns nma nojijtjbs nrb supbrjhr, pbrgnps

`nr supbrjhr, th tghsb h` htgbrs.

Nmhtgbr pnrt h` yhu tgjmls yhu fny ob nm jfphstbr hr `bbis vbryjm`brjhr th htgbrs. Sgnt ahbs tgnt pnrt sny8

Nma pnrt h` yhu tgjmls htgbrs nrb dnpnoib h` gnvjmc jfphrtnmt

jabns nma nojijtjbs. Sgnt ahbs tgnt pnrt sny8

Nvhjanmt [brshmnijty Ajshrabr

Dbmtrni jssub5 J nf n`rnja tgnt htgbrs wjii drjtjdjzb fb jm shdjni

sjtuntjhms.

Dhffhm nsshdjntba fnehr mbcntjvb ij`b bxpbrjbmdb5 Drjtjdni

pnrbmtjmc aurjmc dgjiaghha hr ouiiyjmc oy pbbrs hr sjoijmcs.


Qgbrb js pnrt h` yhu tgnt js n`rnja h` drjtjdjsf jm shdjni sjtuntjhms.

Nmhtgbr pnrt h` yhu js noib th rbnssurb yhu hr bmdhurncb yhu.Sgnt ahbs tgnt pnrt sny8


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Abpbmabmt [brshmnijty Ajshrabr

Dbmtrni jssub5 J `bnr objmc nihmb nma fust suohrajmntb fy

hwm mbbas nma `bbijmcs th tghsb hm wghf J rbiy.

Dhffhm nsshdjntba fnehr mbcntjvb ij`b bxpbrjbmdb5Ahfjmntjmc pnrbmtjmc tgnt fnlbs hobajbmdb nma suosbrvjbmdb

n dhmajtjhm h` dnrjmc.


[nrt h` yhu obijbvbs yhu fust sbrvb htgbrs jm hrabr th ob

nddbptba oy tgbf, nma yhu fust ob nddbptba oy tgbf jm hrabr

th ob gnppy.Nmhtgbr, lmhwjmc pnrt h` yhu obijbvbs yhu nrb whrtgwgjib bvbm

j` htgbrs ah mht nddbpt yhu. Qgjs pnrt wnmts yhu th ob trub th

yhursbi` nma th nssbrt yhur hwm mbbas nma `bbijmcs bvbm j`

htgbrs nrb ajspibnsba. Sgnt bisb ahbs jt sny8

Hosbssjvb-Dhfpuisjvb [brshmnijty Ajshrabr

Dbmtrni jssub5 J fust dhmtrhi fy bmvjrhmfbmt nma `jmnmdbs,

obdnusb h` fy `bnr h` dgnhs, ajshrabr, hr phvbrty. Qgjmcs,

whrljmc, nma `jmnmdjni sbdurjty nrb fhrb jfphrtnmt tgnm pbhpib.


[hvbrty hr `jmnmdjni strbss hr `jmnmdjni ihss aurjmc dgjiaghha.


[nrt h` yhu tgjmls yhu fust ndgjbvb nma fnjmtnjm `jmnmdjni

sbdurjty bvbm j` yhu fust sndrj`jdb dihsbmbss nma dnrjmc jm yhur

rbintjhmsgjps wjtg htgbrs. J` tgnt sbbfs nddurntb, binohrntb hm

tgjs n ijttib.

Nmhtgbr pnrt h` yhu obijbvbs pbhpib nma tgb qunijty h` yhur

rbintjhmsgjps nrb fhrb jfphrtnmt tgnm tgjmcs hr bvbm tgnm

lbbpjmc hrabr.


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Dhumsbijmc NssbssfbmtTbi`-Gbnijmc Ij`b Tthry ^ubstjhmmnjrb

Jmtrhaudb Zhursbi`

>. Sgnt js yhur `jrst mnfb8?. Sgnt js yhur ncb nma cbmabr8

4. Sgnt js yhur fnrjtni stntus8 Tjmcib, fnrrjba, sbpnrntba,

hr ajvhrdba8 Ghw ihmc8 Bxpinjm tgb rbnshms `hr

sbpnrntjhm(s) hr ajvhrdb(s). Sgnt gnppbmba8

1. Sgnt js yhur rndb, btgmjd, hr duiturni ondlcrhuma8

Dnudnsjnm, Dgjmbsb, Bnst Jmajnm, Nohrjcjmni, Htgbr8

2. Sgnt nrb yhur dgjiarbm's cbmabrs nma ncbs8 J` tgby nrb

nauits, cjvb tgbjr hddupntjhms nma fnrjtni sjtuntjhm.

0. Ah yhu ijvb nihmb hr wjtg shfbhmb8 Ghw ihmc8

Sgnt Gnppbmba83. Sgnt prhoibfs nma dhmdbrms ah yhu gnvb mhw8

7. Sgnt bfhtjhms gnvb yhu obbm gnvjmc nma wgnt js bndghmb nohut8 @bnr, nmcbr, `rustrntjhm, cujit, snambss, ihw

sbi`-whrtg, abspnjr, htgbr `bbijmcs8

:. Ghw ihmc gnvb yhu obbm `bbijmc tgjs wny8 (`hr bndg

`bbijmc hr prhoibf)

>;. Sgnt gnppbmba nt tgb tjfb yhu obcnm `bbijmc tgjs wny8

>>. Sgbm gnvb yhu `bit ijlb tgjs jm tgb pnst nma wgnt

gnppbmba8

>?. Nmy gbnitg prhoibfs8 B.c. bpjibpsy, ajnobtbs, btd.

>4. Nmy dhumsbijmc hr ghspjtnijzba hr bfhtjhmni rbnshms8

Ghw hia wbrb yhu8 [ibnsb cjvb tgb rbnshms.

Jmstrudtjhms5Hmiy sny ns fudg ns yhu wnmt th. Tljp qubstjhms tgnt

nrb thh umdhf`hrtnoib, out tgjml nohut wgy tgby nrb. Tjfpiy

dhfpibtjmc tgjs qubstjhmmnjrb dnm ob n gbnijmc bxpbrjbmdbjm jtsbi`.

Qh umabrstnma tgb abbpbr fbnmjmc h` tgb qubstjhms nma yhur

nmswbrs, dhmsjabr tgjs jfphrtnmt rbshurdbB``bdtjvb Dhumsbijmc Tljiis.
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Qgb @nfjiy Zhu Crbw Rp Jm nma Zhur

Dgjiaghha>1. Ghw fnmy orhtgbrs nma sjstbrs ah yhu gnvb8 Cjvb bndg

pbrshm's cbmabr, ncb, hddupntjhm, nma fnrjtni sjtuntjhm.>2. Sgjdg hmb nrb yhu jm tgb ijmb h` ojrtg8 @jrst, inst, sbdhma

hr tgjra, btd. Ghw fnmy ybnrs sbpnrntb yhu `rhf tgb

htgbrs mbnrbst yhu8

>0. Sgh wbrb yhu dihsbst th wgbm crhwjmc up8

>3. Nrb yhur pnrbmts stjii ijvjmc8 Sgnt wns yhur ncb nt tgbjr

abntg8

>7. Gnvb yhur bxpbrjbmdba nmy htgbr abntgs h` `nfjiyfbfobrs hr `rjbmas8 Sgnt wns yhur ncb8

>:. Absdrjob yhur `ntgbr's (nma stbp-`ntgbr's) pbrshmnijty nma

yhur rbintjhmsgjp th gjf wgbm yhu wbrb crhwjmc up.

Sbrb yhu dihsb, mht sh dihsb, ajstnmt, n``bdtjhmntb8 Cjvb

nm bxnfpib h` shfbtgjmc tgnt gnppbmba tgnt sghws tgjs

nma ghw hia yhu wbrb.

?;. Qnil nohut ghw yhur rbintjhmsgjp wjtg yhur `ntgbr (hr

`ntgbr `jcurb) aurjmc dgjiaghha fny gnvb n``bdtba yhu jm

ohtg phsjtjvb nma mbcntjvb wnys.

?>. Ghw gnvb tgb mbcntjvb bxpbrjbmdbs wjtg yhur `ntgbr

`jcurb(s), dhfb up ncnjm jm yhur rbintjhmsgjps wjtg htgbr

pbhpib up th mhw8

??. Absdrjob yhur fhtgbr's (nma stbp-fhtgbr's) pbrshmnijty

nma yhur rbintjhmsgjp th gbr wgbm yhu wbrb crhwjmc up.

Sbrb yhu dihsb, mht sh dihsb, ajstnmt, n``bdtjhmntb8 Cjvb

nm bxnfpib h` shfbtgjmc tgnt gnppbmba tgnt sghws tgjs

nma ghw hia yhu wbrb.

?4. Qnil nohut ghw yhur rbintjhmsgjp wjtg yhur fhtgbr (hr

fhtgbr `jcurb) aurjmc dgjiaghha fny gnvb n``bdtba yhu

jm ohtg phsjtjvb nma mbcntjvb wnys.?1. Ghw gnvb tgb mbcntjvb bxpbrjbmdbs wjtg yhur fhtgbr

`jcurb(s), dhfb up ncnjm jm yhur rbintjhmsgjps wjtg htgbr

pbhpib up th mhw8


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?2. Sgnt wbrb yhur spjrjtuni hr rbijcjhus obijb`s ob`hrb ncb

>; nma ghw gnvb yhur obijb`s dgnmcba sjmdb tgbm8

?0. Sgnt wns yhur rhib jm tgb `nfjiy wgbm yhu wbrb crhwjmc

up8 Qgjml h` n whra, b.c. pbndbfnlbr, oindl sgbbp,

vjdtjf, hutsjabr, nssjstnmt pnrbmt, jmvjsjoib, onoy, btd.8Cjvb nm bxnfpib h` wgnt gnppbmba.

?3. Absdrjob yhur pnrbmts' rbintjhmsgjp. Sbrb tgby

n``bdtjhmntb8 Ghw aja tgby abni wjtg dhm`ijdt8 Cjvb nm

bxnfpib h` wgnt gnppbmba.

?7. Sns nmyhmb jm tgb `nfjiy hr bxtbmaba `nfjiy bvbr

ghspjtnijzba `hr bfhtjhmni rbnshms hr dhffjt sujdjab8

Nmy fbmtni rbtnrantjhm8?:. Ghw aja `nfjiy fbfobrs rbintb th bndg htgbr wgbm yhu

wbrb crhwjmc up8 Cjvb nm bxnfpib.

4;. Ghw wbrb `bbijmcs h` nmcbr, snambss, `bnr, nma cujit

bxprbssba8 Cjvb nm bxnfpib.

4>. Absdrjob n tjfb wgbm yhu wbrb ajsdjpijmba tgnt wns

fhst pnjm`ui `hr yhu. Ghw hia wbrb yhu8 Sgnt

gnppbmba8

4?. Sgnt pbrshmnijty `bnturbs ah yhu gnvb wgjdg yhur

pnrbmts nish gnvb8

44. Sgh wns tgbrb `hr yhu wgbm yhu wbrb gurt ns n dgjia8

41. Sgnt fbssncbs nohut yhur whrtg nma tgb whrtg h`

htgbrs, wns dhffumjdntba oy bndg pnrbmt ohtg vbroniiy

nma mhmvbroniiy8

42. Ghw hia wbrb yhu wgbm yhu ib`t ghfb, nma wgy aja yhu

ibnvb8

40. J` yhu gna phwbr th dgnmcb yhur `nfjiy wgbm yhu wbrb

crhwjmc up nma yhur dgjiaghha jm nmy tgrbb wnys, wgnt

whuia yhu dghhsb8

43. J` yhur `nfjiy bxpbrjbmdb gna obbm aj``brbmt jm tgb wnys

yhu fbmtjhmba nohvb, ghw ah yhu jfncjmb yhur ij`bfjcgt ob aj``brbmt thany8

47. Ah yhu lmhw j` yhur fhtgbr gna nmy prhoibfs wjtg yhur

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Zhur Tdghhi Bxpbrjbmdb nma @rjbmas4:. Sgnt wns tgb `jrst any h` sdghhi ijlb8

1;. Ghw fnmy fhvbs nma sdghhi dgnmcbs hddurrba aurjmc

sdghhi ybnrs8 Ghw hia wbrb yhu, wgnt crnabs aja yhu

fhvb nma wgy8

1>. Absdrjob yhur rbintjhmsgjps wjtg tbndgbrs.

1?. Absdrjob yhur rbintjhmsgjps wjtg pbbrs.

14. Ah yhu obijbvb yhu ndgjbvba yhur obst jm sdghhi8 Sgy8

Sgnt crnab hr baudntjhm ibvbi aja yhu dhfpibtb8 Sgnt

gnppbmba8

11. Aja yhu gnvb n crhup h` `rjbmas aurjmc tgb `jrst sjxcrnabs8 J` mht, wgy8

12. Aja yhu gnvb hmb hr twh vbry dihsb `rjbmas ns n

tbbmncbr8 J` mht, wgy8

10. Aja yhu tbma th ob n `hiihwbr hr n ibnabr wjtg `rjbmas ns

n tbbmncbr8

13. Ghw hia wbrb yhu wgbm yhu `jrst stnrtba ch hut wjtg

shfbhmb (hr antba)817. Ah yhu gnvb n sntjs`ndthry mbtwhrl h` `rjbmas, `nfjiy,

crhups8 Absdrjob tgbsb orjb`iy.

1:. Ghw whuia yhu absdrjob tgb typbs h` pbhpib yhu

nsshdjntb wjtg8 (Sgnt js yhur rhib wjtg `rjbmas nma

ndqunjmtnmdbs8 Gbipbr, vjdtjf, htgbr8)

Zhur Shrl Bxpbrjbmdbs2;. Ghw hia wbrb yhu wgbm yhu `jrst wbmt th whrl8

2>. Sgnt typbs h` ehos gnvb yhu gna nma ghw fnmy8 Sgy

aja yhu ibnvb bndg eho8

2?. Sgnt gns obbm yhur rhib nt whrl8 Gbipbr, jmvjsjoib,

rbsphmsjoib, vjdtjf, htgbr8 Nma ghw gnvb yhu chttbm

nihmc wjtg ohssbs8

Zhur Thdjni Ij`b nma _bintjhmsgjps24. Sgnt wns yhur `jrst antb ijlb `hr yhu8


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21. Ghw hia wbrb yhu wjtg yhur `jrst sbxuni bxpbrjbmdb8 Nma

`jrst jmtbrdhursb8

22. Ghw fnmy sbxuni pnrtmbrs gnvb yhu gna hvbr tjfb8 Nma

wgnt js yhur sbxuni prb`brbmdb hr hrjbmtntjhm8

(gbtbrhsbxuni, ghfhsbxuni, ojsbxuni)20.Absdrjob yhur pnrtmbrs pbrshmnijty nma yhur

rbintjhmsgjp. Nccrbssjvb, pnssjvb, nousjvb, dnrjmc,

htgbr8 Nma absdrjob prbvjhus fbnmjmc`ui rbintjhmsgjps,

tgbjr pbrshmnijtjbs, nma wgy tgby bmaba.

Zhur Ibcnijtjbs, Rsb h` Tuostnmdbs,

@jmnmdjni Tjtuntjhm23. Gnvb yhu gna nmy pnst nrrbsts, wnrrnmts, dgnrcbs, sujts

ncnjmst yhu8 Ghw hia wbrb yhu nma wgnt wbrb tgby

nohut8

27. Sgnt nfhumt h` abot ah yhu gnvb8

2:. Nmy aruc hr nidhghi usb8 Sgy ah yhu usb jt8 Gns

nmyhmb dhfpinjmba tgnt yhu usb thh fudg hr thh h`tbm8

Zhur Fhha0;. Gnvb yhu bvbr gna sujdjani tghucgts nt nmy tjfb jm yhur

ij`b8 Ghw hia wbrb yhu8 Sgnt gnppbmba8

0>. Sgnt js yhur fhha rjcgt mhw hm n sdnib h` zbrh (;) th >;,

wjtg zbrh fbnmjmc ij`b js mht whrtg ijvjmc nma >;fbnmjmc yhu nrb vbry hptjfjstjd nma ij`b js whmabr`ui8

Sgnt mufobr ah yhu cjvb yhur fhha8

0?. Nmy tghucgt h` wnmtjmc th gnrf yhursbi` hr nmyhmb bisb8

Zhur @jmni Qghucgts nma Rmabrstnmajmcs

04. Sgnt nrb yhur crbntbst strbmctgs8 Nma wgnt sljiis hrnojijtjbs ah yhu durrbmtiy gnvb tgb fhst dhm`jabmdb jm8


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_bndgjmc NcrbbfbmtTtbps Qh [bndb Qgrhucg Drbntjvb Thiutjhm Abvbihpfbmt*

Qgb prhdbss dnm jmvhivb n sjmcib jmajvjauni, n dhupib, twh hrfhrb pnrtjbs gnvjmc jssubs, hr n inrcb crhup, nma fhvbsobyhma dhmtrhi th futuni ncrbbfbmt hr fnehrjty abdjsjhm.Bxpinjm tgnt tgb prhdbss abpbmas uphm nddbptnmdb h` tgb`hiihwjmc cujabijmbs oy nii pnrtjdjpnmts5

>. Ah mht euacb, drjtjdjzb, hr bvniuntb nmy jabns ns yhu bmcncbjm tgb shiutjhm abvbihpfbmt prhdbss.

?. Ah mht usb nttbfpts th bxbrdjsb phwbr hr dhmtrhi h` nmy ljma5sudg ns nmcbr, ybiijmc, mnfb-dniijmc, put-ahwms, tgrbnts hrjmtjfjantjhm hr fnmjpuintjhm.

Ttbp Hmb5 Jabmtj`yjmc Jssubs

>. Qgb `ndjijtnthr jmvjtbs pnrtjdjpnmts th sny wgnt jssubs nmadgniibmcbs mbba th ob naarbssba.

?. Qgb `ndjijtnthr wrjtbs tgbsb jssubs jm n mufobrba ijst hm ndgnil ohnra hr ìjp dgnrt.

(Ns tgb jssubs nrb objmc stntba, tgb `ndjijtnthr usbs rbìbdtjvb

ijstbmjmc ns mbbaba jm hrabr th dinrj`y fbnmjmc. Jm tgb bvbmt nstrhmc bfhtjhm js bxprbssba hr n pnrtjdjpnmt obdhfbs thhvbroni, tgb `ndjijtnthr usbs rbìbdtjvb stntbfbmts, dgbdls j` tgbpbrshm `bbis umabrsthha, tgbm ajrbdts tgb pnrtjdjpnmts ondl thtgb jssub.)

4. Qgb `ndjijtnthr tgbm nsls fbfobrs th sny tgb mufobr h` hmbh` tgb ijstba jssubs tgnt gb tgjmls mbbas th ob naarbssba `jrst.

1. Qgb `ndjijtnthr fnlbs n tjdl oy tgb mufobr h` bndg ijstbajssub sbibdtba oy pnrtjdjpnmts, tgbm djrdibs tgb hmb wjtg tgbfhst tjdls< tgjs obdhfbs tgb `jrst jssub `hr shiutjhmabvbihpfbmt.


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Ttbp Qwh5 Drbntjmc Thiutjhms

>. Srjtjmc tgb jssub hm tgb dgnilohnra hr `ijpdgnrt, tgb `ndjijtnthrfnlbs n mufobrba ijst obihw jt nma snys, Mhw J whuia ijlb us

th ornjmsthrf ns fnmy shiutjhms `hr tgjs jssub ns yhu dnm tgjmlh`, nma ns yhu stntb tgbf J wjii wrjtb tgbf ahwm hm tgjs ijstwjtghut euacfbmt, drjtjdjsf hr ajsdussjhm.

?. Qh jmdrbnsb tgb mufobr h` jabns nma wjtg wrjtjmc fntbrjni,inrcb crhups dnm orbnl jmth sfnii crhups hr aynas nmaornjmsthrf usjmc tgb `hiihwjmc stntbfbmts prbsbmtba oy tgb`ndjijtnthr5

n. Ibts wrjtb ahwm wgnts gnppbmjmc mhw, obdnusb tgnt jsniwnys n dghjdb.

o. Sgnts tgb hpphsjtb h` wgnts gnppbmjmc mhw8

d. Sgnt js n `nmtnsy h` wgnt yhu fjcgt ijlb th sbb gnppbmout yhu ahmt tgjml js phssjoib8

a. Qgjml h` nm npprhndg tgnt sbbfs sjiiy hr rjajduihus.

b. Jfncjmb wgnt shfbhmb yhu rbspbdt (n rbintjvb hr htgbrwjsb pbrshm) fjcgt sny ns n shiutjhm.

`. J dnm tgjml h` n phssjoib shiutjhm tgnt whuia whrl wbiinma tgnt mh hmb gns fbmtjhmba. Dnm nmyhmb qubss wgntjt js8 (tgb `ndjijtnthr wrjtbs ahwm jabns tgb pnrtjdjpnmtscubss)

c. Fy jabn js ...... (`ndjijtnthr naas gjs hr gbr shiutjhm th tgb

mufobrba ijst)

Ttbp Qgrbb5 _bndgjmc N Drbntjvb Ncrbbfbmt

>. Qgb `ndjijtnthr snys5 Mhw usjmc yhur wrjtjmc fntbrjni, J whuiaijlb bndg h` yhu th tnlb n sbpnrntb sgbbt h` pnpbr nma prjvntbiy

wrjtb ahwm tgb mufobr h` up th tgrbb h` tgb ijstba phssjoibshiutjhms hr npprhndgbs tgnt yhu tgjml whuia ob fhst prndtjdnihr whrlnoib th naarbss tgb dgniibmcb hr jssub.


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?. Qgb `ndjijtnthr snys5 Mhw tbii fb tgb mufobr h` tgb ijstbashiutjhms yhu gnvb dghsbm, nma J wjii fnlb n tjdl oy bndg h` tgbshiutjhms.

4. Qgb tgrbb shiutjhms fhst sbibdtba oy tgb pnrtjdjpnmts

obdhfb tgb drbntjvb ncrbbfbmt hr shiutjhm strntbcy `hr tgbjssub naarbssba.

1. Abpbmajmc hm tgb jssub, vhiumtbbrs dnm ob jmvjtba nma n tjfbdnm ob abtbrfjmba th jfpibfbmt tgb strntbcy hr ndtjhm pinm.

2. _bpbnt Ttbp Qwhnma Ttbp Qgrbb`hr tgb sbdhma, tgjra,`hurtg, btd. jssub sbibdtba fhst h`tbm oy tgb pnrtjdjpnmts.

*J` tgb dhm`ijdt js rbintba th aj``brbmdbs jm pgjihshpgy, rbijcjhm,

pbrshmni tnstb, hr j` ncrbbfbmt dnmmht ob rbndgba, tgb`hiihwjmc npprhndgbs fny prhvjab n shiutjhm5 ncrbb thajsncrbb, `ijp n dhjm, tnlb turms hr ncrbb th sbpnrntb hrnitbrmntjmc ndtjhm pinms, jfpibfbmt trjni tjfb pbrjhas th tryaj``brbmt pinms, hr rbturm th tgb nohvb prhdbss.

Naajtjhmni jm`hrfntjhm js `huma jm tgb prndtjdni fnmuni Ghw QhAh [rh`bssjhmni Fbmtni Gbnitg Dhumsbijmc.


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Zhur Tpjrjtunijty Tdhrb

Tpjrjtunijty prhvjabs vniubs nma obijb`s `hr fnljmc gbnitgy

dghjdbs, n `humantjhm h` ghpb nma fbnmjmc `hr ajrbdtjhm nma

hptjfjsf, nma supphrt nma bmdhurncbfbmt th `ndb fnehr ij`b

aj``jduitjbs.

Ttrbmctgbmjmc yhur spjrjtuni crhwtg nma nwnrbmbss dnm sbt yhu

hm n pntg th `jma jmmbr pbndb, pgysjdni nma fbmtni gbnijmc, nma

pbrshmni `ui`jiifbmt.

ZhurTpjrjtunijty Tdhrbjs onsba hm ghw fnmy qubstjhms h` tgbthtni `hr wgjdg yhu dnm prhvjab n dhm`jabmt nmswbr, rntgbr tgnm

snyjmc, J ahmt lmhw. _bsphmsbs dnm ob wrjttbm, vbroni, hr

fbmtni, out wrjttbm fny ob obmb`jdjni `hr fhst pbhpib.

>. Sgnt js yhur ncb, cbmabr, nma btgmjd/rndb hrjcjm8

?. Sgnt wbrb tgb spjrjtuni/rbijcjhus vjbws h` yhur `ntgbr8 Zhur

fhtgbr8

4. Ghw gns yhur spjrjtunijty dgnmcba `rhf yhur dgjiaghha umtji

mhw8

1. Js tgbrb nmytgjmc fhrb tgnm tgb fntbrjni umjvbrsb8 Ah yhu

obijbvb nmytgjmc js trub tgnt yhu dnmmht pbrshmniiy nma ajrbdtiy

pbrdbjvb wjtg yhur `jvb sbmsbs8 Bxpinjm.

2. Ah yhu obijbvb jmtbiijcbmdb nma drbntjvjty bxjst jm tgb

umjvbrsb8 Bxpinjm.

0. Ah yhu obijbvb jm tgb bxjstbmdb h` n trnmsdbmabmt

jmtbiijcbmdb hr supbrjhr rbnshmjmc phwbr8 Bxpinjm wgy hr wgy

mht.

3. Ah yhu sbb bvjabmdb h` drbntjvb jmtbiijcbmdb jm tgb absjcm

nma dhfpibxjty h` tgb umjvbrsb hr ah yhu ibnm thwnra n fntbrjni

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7. Ah yhu obijbvb nii gufnm objmcs gnvb bquni whrtg nma

vniub8 Bxpinjm wgy hr wgy mht8 Sgnt nrb tgb jfpijdntjhms8

:. Ah yhu obijbvb tgb gufnm spbdjbs gns crbntbr hr supbrjhr

vniub hr crbntbr jfphrtnmdb hr fhrb rbsphmsjojijty dhfpnrba th

htgbr ij`b `hrfs8 Sgy hr wgy mht8 Sgnt nrb tgb jfpijdntjhms8

>;. Sgnt js tgb fbnmjmc hr purphsb h` gufnm bxjstbmdb8

>>. Ghw ah yhu lmhw wgnt js rjcgt nma wrhmc8

>?. Sgnt js tgb fhst jfphrtnmt tgjmc yhu dnm ah wjtg yhur ij`b8

>4. Js ghpb jfphrtnmt8 Bxpinjm.

>1. Sgnt gnppbms n`tbr yhu ajb8 Ahbs yhur jmajvjauni jabmtjty

hr dhmsdjhusmbss dhmtjmub th bxjst8 Sgnt nrb tgb jfpijdntjhms8

>2. Js tgb jabn h` tgb fbnmjmc h` gufnm ij`b bssbmtjni th tgb

jabn h` ghpb8 Bxpinjm.

>0. Js tgb jabn h` rjcgt nma wrhmc bssbmtjni th tgb jabn h`

fbnmjmc8 Bxpinjm.

>3. Sgnt gnvb obbm shfb h` tgb fhst jfphrtnmt jm`iubmdbs hm

yhu `hr wgnt yhu vniub nma obijbvb8

>7. Sgnt spjrjtuni prndtjdbs ah yhu gnvb8 [rnybr, dbmtbrjmc

prnybr, fbajtntjhm, sdrjpturb rbnajmc, whrsgjp, sjmcjmc, htgbr.

>:. Ahbs fhrni nddhumtnojijty hmiy gnppbm wjtgjm tgb ibcni

systbfs h` mntjhms8 Js tgbrb uitjfntb nddhumtnojijty jm n vbmub

n`tbr abntg8 Sgnt nrb tgb jfpijdntjhms8

?;. J` pbhpib nrb rbohrm jmth mbw ijvbs, wgnt j` nmytgjmc

abtbrfjmbs tgb mnturb hr qunijty h` tgbjr bxjstbmdb8 Sgnt nrb

tgb jfpijdntjhms8

?>. Dhffbmt hm tgjs stntbfbmt5 Fnmy pbhpib tgjml hmiy

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tgjmcs nrb fhst jfphrtnmt5 ihvb, dhfpnssjhm, bfpntgy, eustjdb,

fhrnijty, dhmsdjhusmbss, wjsahf, gufnm vniub, fbnmjmc h` ij`b,

nma btbrmjty... `hr wjtghut tgbsb, ij`b js vhja nma vnjm, nma

nspjrntjhms fbrb jiiusjhms.

??. Gnvb yhu bvbr bxpbrjbmdba wgnt yhu obijbvb th ob n sjcm hr

dhffumjdntjhm `rhf Cha hr htgbr spjrjtuni objmc8

?4. Sgnt js yhur vjbw h` tgjs stntbfbmt8 Gufnms nrb spjrjtuni

objmcs bxjstjmc jm pgysjdni ohajbs.

?1. Ah yhu obijbvb yhu gnvb dhmvjmdjmc bvjabmdb h` spjrjtuni

rbnijty8

?2. Sgnt js yhur jabn h` nm jabni shdjbty8 Shria8 Ij`b8

?0. Sgbm ahbs nm jmajvjauni gufnm ij`b obcjm8

?3. Sgnt js tgb bssbmdb h` tgb sbi`8

?7. Ah yhu obijbvb nmcbis nma abfhms bxjst8

?:. Ah yhu obijbvb bvbryhmb n`tbr abntg chbs th gbnvbm hr th

gbii8

4;. Ah yhu obijbvb tgb supbrjhr rbnshmjmc phwbr gns bvbr

dhffumjdntba wjtg gufnmjty8

4>. Ghw hpbm nrb yhu th bxpihrjmc aj``brbmt nspbdts h`spjrjtunijty8

4?. J` yhu snw shfbhmb rnjsb tgb abna, wgnt whuia yhu tgjml hr

ah8

44. J` yhu snw n pbrshm ajb nma tgbm yhu snw gjf nijvb ncnjm n

`bw anys intbr, wgnt whuia yhu tgjml hr ah8

41. Dhffbmt hm tgb stntbfbmt5 Gufnms nrb n pnrnsjtb

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42. Ghw dnm yhu prhvb th nmyhmb bisb tgnt yhu nrb nwnrb h`

yhursbi`, yhur hwm dhmsdjhusmbss8

40. Absdrjob n gbnitgy rbintjhmsgjp.

43. Ghw jfphrtnmt js yhur spjrjtunijty th yhur ij`b8 Nma ah yhuwnmt yhur spjrjtunijty th jmdrbnsb hr abdrbnsb8

47. J` wb nrb fnab jm tgb jfncb h` Cha, wgnt qunijtjbs ah wb

sgnrb wjtg Cha8

4:. _bnaJsnjng, dgnptbr 24,wrjttbm jm 3;; OD. Sgh js objmc

absdrjoba8 Tbb htgbr nfnzjmc bxnfpibs h` `uturb-tbiijmcgbrbhrgttp5//chh.ci/uF>b3p

1;. Ah yhu mhw obihmc th hr gnvb yhu tghucgt h` ehjmjmc n

spjrjtuni dhffumjty th strbmctgbm yhur vniubs nma obijb`s `hr

fnljmc gbnitgy dghjdbs, th ndqujrb n `humantjhm h` ghpb nma

fbnmjmc `hr ajrbdtjhm nma hptjfjsf, nma th rbdbjvb supphrt nma

bmdhurncbfbmt th `ndb fnehr ij`b aj``jduitjbs8

1>. Ghw gns tgjs qubstjhmmnjrb n``bdtba yhur nwnrbmbss h` yhur

obijb` jm mhm-fntbrjni tgjmcs8

@jmni jmstrudtjhms5Dhumt tgb mufobr h` qubstjhms `hr wgjdg

yhu strucciba th cjvb n sjmdbrb nmswbr, nma tgbm suotrndt tgb

mufobr `rhf tgb mufobr 1>. Qgb nmswbr js yhur Tpjrjtunijty

Tdhrb.

Ghw th usb tgjs nssbssfbmt5Sgntbvbr yhur sdhrb fny ob,

cjvb `urtgbr dhmsjabrntjhm th qubstjhms yhu nrb umsurb nohut hr

`hr wgjdg yhu gnvb aj``jduity cjvjmc n rbsphmsb.
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Dniduintjmc Zhur Tpjrjtunijty Tdhrb

>. Fnlb n fnrl jmajdntjmc nmy qubstjhm `hr wgjdg yhu `bbi

umnoib th cjvb n sntjs`ndthry nmswbr hr tgnt yhu `jma

bspbdjniiy dgniibmcjmc.

?. Naa tgb mufobr h` fnrls jm #> nma suotrndt tgjs

mufobr `rhf 1>.

4. Qgb nmswbr th #? js yhur Tpjrjtunijty Tdhrb.

MHQB5 Qgjs sdhrb nma yhur nmswbrs th qubstjhms nrbth ob usba hmiy oy yhu nma nmyhmb th wghf yhu crnmt

pbrfjssjhm.

Qhtni mufobr h` qubstjhms 1>

Mufobr h` aj``jduit qubstjhms

Zhur Tpjrjtunijty Tdhrb

@hr nssjstnmdb th bxpihrb hr ajsduss yhur sdhrb, bfnji

dhiibcbfgdKcfnji.dhf
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Dhumsbijmc `hr Abprbssjhm

Abprbssjhm dnm ob dnusba oy dgbfjdni dgnmcbs jm tgb ohay,pgysjdni jiimbss, nma aj``brbmt typbs h` ihss. Pbry h`tbm,

abprbssjhm nma nmxjbty nrb tgb rbsuit h` sbi`-ab`bntjmc ij`bpnttbrms `hrfjmc umgbnitgy mburni pntgwnys tgnt dnm ob gbnibaoy jmdhrphrntjmc dnrjmc sbi`-tnil nma oy supphrtjmc sbi`-whrtgnma nssbrtjvbmbss. Sb tbma th ah th hursbivbs nma th htgbrstgnt wgjdg wns ahmb th us jm dgjiaghha. Mhw ns nauits wb fustcjvb th hursbivbs nii tgb gbnitgy tgjmcs wb mbbaba `rhf gbnitgypnrbmts. Gbrb nrb shfb tgjmcs th ah th dgnmcb tgb jmmbr-ajnihcub `humantjhms h` abprbssjhm nma nmxjbty5

Ttbp >. Srjtb ahwm tgb mbcntjvb tgjmcs yhu tgjml nohutyhursbi`, htgbrs, nma yhur djrdufstnmdbs.

Qgjs ndtjvjty wjii orjmc th yhur dhmsdjhus nwnrbmbss tgbmbcntjvb tgjmljmc nma sbi`-tnil tgnt js dhffhm th fnmy ljmas h`abprbssjhm nma nmxjbty. Qgb mbcntjvb nma sbi`-drjtjdni sbi`-tnil

abfhrnijzbs tgb bch nma fnmj`bsts ns `bbijmc ahwm, oiub, sna,nmxjhus, `bnr`ui nma sbi`-ahuotjmc. Qgjs ihw fhha nma nmxjbtytgbm n``bdt sibbpjmc, bntjmc, nma ihw bmbrcy. Dhffhmbxnfpibs h` mbcntjvb sbi`-tnil nrb5 J nf jmdnpnoib, J dnm't ah jt, Jnf umihvnoib, J nf n `njiurb, J `njiba ncnjm, J dnm't ah jt, Mh hmbwnmts th tnil th fb, Mh hmb dnrbs nohut fb, btd.

Ttbp ?. Srjtb ahwm stntbfbmts tgnt nrb sbi`-dnrjmc,

murturjmc, rbnssurjmc, supphrtjvb, nma vnijantjmc.

Qgjs bxbrdjsb gbips th jabmtj`y tgb hpphsjtbs h` tgb mbcntjvbsbi`-tnil5 J dnm ah jt, J gnvb strbmctgs nma nojijtjbs, J nf dnrjmcnma ljma, J dnm cbt wgnt J mbba nma wnmt, J absbrvb th obgnppy, J dnm suddbba, J nf eust ns jfphrtnmt nma vniunoib nsnmyhmb bisb, Fy pnjm js mhrfni `hr wgnt J gnvb obbm tgrhucg,btd.


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Ttbp 4. Srjtb ahwm mbcntjvb tgjmcs pnrbmts snja hrdhffumjdntba th yhu wgbm yhu wbrb crhwjmc up.

Gbrb yhu dnm wrjtb ahwm wgnt yhu tghucgt pnrbmts `bit nohutyhu oy wgnt tgby snja hr aja sudg ns5 J wjsg yhu wbrb mbvbr

ohrm, J ah mht ijlb yhu, J ah mht dnrb nohut yhu, J dnrb nohutnidhghi fhrb tgnm J dnrb nohut yhu, J ah mht wnmt th ob nrhumayhu, Zhu nrb jm tgb wny, Zhu nrb n ohtgbr, Zhu sghuia ob sbbmout mht gbnra, Zhu dnmt ah tgnt, Zhu dhuia gnvb ahmb obttbr,Zhu wjii mbvbr nfhumt th nmytgjmc, Ahmt dry, btd.

Ttbp 1. Srjtb ahwm tgjmcs yhu mbbaba hr wnmtba pnrbmts thsny th yhu ns n dgjia.

Gbrb yhu dnm wrjtb tgb tgjmcs yhu wnmtba hr mbbaba pnrbmts thsny hr ah sudg ns5 J ihvb yhu mh fnttbr wgnt gnppbms, J nf shcina yhu nrb jm fy ij`b, Zhu dnm suddbba, Jt's HL th dry wgbmyhu'rb gurt, Bvbrytgjmc wjii ob HL, J `bit tgb snfb ns yhushfbtjfbs, Jfncjmb tgb phssjojijtjbs. Zhu nrb chha nt tgnt, Zhunrb sh gbip`ui, Zhu nrb sh ljma nma dnrjmc, btd.

Ttbp 2. Srjtb ahwm wgnt yhu whuia ah hr sny j` yhu snwnmhtgbr dgjia objmc trbntba tgb wny yhu wbrb trbntba jm #4.

J` yhu gbnra shfbhmb sny fbnm tgjmcs th n dgjia hr sinp ndgjia, wgnt whuia yhu sny8 Fnyob yhu whuia sny tgjmcs ijlb5Zhu gnvb mh rjcgt th sny tgnt, Ob mjdb th tgb dgjia, Qgb dgjiambbas yhur ihvb, Zhu mbba th supphrt yhur dgjia nma ob

rbnssurjmc nma dnrjmc nma ihvjmc nma n``bdtjhmntb, Zhu mbba thob bmdhurncjmc, btd.

Ttbp 0. J` yhu gna nii tgb phsjtjvb tgjmcs ns n dgjia tgnt yhumbbaba `rhf gbnitgy pnrbmts, ghw ah yhu jfncjmb yhur ij`bfjcgt ob aj``brbmt thany8

J` yhur pnrbmts gna snja bmdhurncjmc, dnrjmc, nma supphrtjvb

tgjmcs th yhu ns n dgjia, ghw ah yhu jfncjmb yhur ij`b fjcgt obaj``brbmt thany8 Qgjs stbp gbips yhu `hrfuintb nma drbntb nvjsjhm `hr ghw yhur ij`b dnm ob aj``brbmt jm n gbnitgy wny.Abprbssjhm tgnt dhfbs `rhf mbcntjvb sbi`-tnil js n `hrf h` sbi`-


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nonmahmfbmt nma sbi`-nousb. Qgb uitjfntb sbi`-nousb nma sbi`-nonmahmfbmt js sbi`-gnrf nma sujdjani tgjmljmc. Dhmvbrsbiy,ghpb, hptjfjsf, sbi`-whrtg, nma sbi`-dhm`jabmdb `hrf tgb onsjsh` n stnoib fhha nma sbmsb h` sbdurjty, sn`bty, dhm`jabmdb,wbii-objmc, jmmbr pbndb, pbrshmni phwbr, nma gnppjmbss.

Ttbp 3. Mhw yhu fust ob `hr yhursbi` nii tgb tgjmcs tgntyhu mbbaba yhur pnrbmts th ob `hr yhu5 bmdhurncjmc,murturjmc, ihvjmc, dnrjmc, supphrtjvb, nma rbnssurjmc.

Qgjs fbnms yhu mbba th sny th yhursbi` nma ob `hr yhursbi` niitgb phsjtjvb tgjmcs yhu mbbaba `rhf gbnitgy pnrbmts. J` mh hmbbisb dnm cjvb yhu tgb dnrjmc tgnt yhu mbba, wgh ahbs tgntibnvb8 Ritjfntbiy, yhu nrb tgb hmb wgh fust dnrb `hr yhu. Thtgjs fbnms yhu fust dghhsb gbnitgy pbhpib th ob jm yhur ij`b,nma yhu fust ob supphrtjvb h` yhursbi` nma h` tgnt htgbrgbnitgy dnrjmc pbrshm yhu gnvb dghsbm th ob jm yhur ij`b. Jm tgjswny yhu wjii ob dnrjmc h` yhursbi`. Nmhtgbr jfphrtnmt pjbdb js thstnma up `hr yhursbi` nma supphrt yhursbi` wgbm yhu nrb trbntbaonaiy oy htgbrs.

Ttbp 7. Zhu fust ob nssbrtjvb.

Ttnma up `hr yhursbi` oy snyjmc tgjmcs ijlb5 J ahm't ijlb yhur

thmb, J absbrvb fhrb rbspbdt tgnm tgnt, J absbrvb n rnjsb jm

sninry, J `bbi nmmhyba wgbm...., btd. Qnlb dnrb h` tgnt ijttib ohy

hr cjri wgh wns nousba nma fjstrbntba. Qgnt ijttib ohy hr cjri js

stjii jmsjab yhu nma mbbas yhur prhtbdtjhm. Ob `hr yhursbi` mhw

wgnt yhu mbbaba tgbm ns n dgjia. Sjii yhu stnma up `hr gjf hr

gbr8 Sgbm wjii yhu stnrt8

Qgb Nmcbi Pjbw

Sgbm abprbssba shfb ybnrs nch obdnusb h` n pnjm`ui ihss, J

wns sjmljmc nma studl jm abspnjr. Qgbm J tghucgt tgnt tgb nmcbis

nrb wntdgjmc, ihhljmc ahwm `rhf nohvb, nma noib th sbb fy ij`b`rhf obcjmmjmc th bma. Qgby dnm sbb tgb vniibys nma fhumtnjms

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dgniibmcb. Sjii J ob sthppba nma cjvb up, ab`bntba8 Hr wjii J

fhvb `hrwnra nma hm th tgb mbxt dgniibmcb8

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