Transactional Analysis

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Transactional Analysis Games People Play

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A presentation that captures the basic tenets of transactional analysis...

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Transactional Analysis Games People Play

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Ego StatesParental

Adult

Child

“Do as I say!”

“I’ll be frank with you..”

“What shall I do?”

Ego States in Man

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Strokes – the result of hunger

People ‘hunger’ for recognition

Stimulus Hunger

Position Hunger

Structure Hunger

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Strokes

Recognition | Attention | Responsiveness

“Warm fuzzies” “Cold pricklies”

Positive Negative

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Theories governing behaviour

Gene theory – I am made that way

Make me feel theory – You make me feel

You-owe me theory – If only you change

Subconscious theory – Suddenly you got hold of me and I could do nothing.

The fate theory – It was willed by Him

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Types of Strokes

Conditional

Unconditional

Positive – “You’ve made a fantastic presentation!”

Negative – “That was the worst report I ever read.”

Positive – “You’re a nice guy!”

Negative – “I’ve never seen anyone as arrogant as you.”

Seek out ways to give more unconditional positive responses. Listen carefully to positive strokes from others.

Everyone occupies a preferred basic life position (BLP).

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The Power of Scripts

“I won't amount to anything and I deserved to be locked up in a prison”

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Life Scripts – Traps Abandonment

“I get desperate when someone I love moves away”

Mistrust“I’m angry about what people have done to me”

Emotional deprivation“I feel disconnected, even from people closest to me”

Dependence“I find everyday life overwhelming”

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Life Scripts – Traps Vulnerability

“Something bad is about to happen”

Defectiveness“I’m inherently flawed”

Subjugation“If I don’t give in to others, they will reject me”

Failure“I don’t have any special talents”

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How Scripts Shape Life

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How Scripts Shape Life

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‘Scripting’ your own life

Alfred Nobel

Helen Keller

Armstrong

Harbhajan

Eminem

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Games People PlayGreeting

“Hello, how are you?”“I’m good, what about you?”

Meeting“Oh, so pleased to meet you!”

CornerDamned if you do, damned if you don’t

CamouflageIndirect hints – barely perceptible

“Wow, Bill lost 20 pounds. He looks great!”

Wooden Leg Eliciting sympathy – using excuses

“How can I be patient with kids? I am short-tempered!!”

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Games People Play

Switch – reversal in roles/positionsThe victim-persecutor role reversal

Cross – disorientation between the two when switch happens

Payoff – person getting justification for inaction and attention

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One life – that’s all we have. What do you want to do with yours?