Tracy Thomas – What I lost and how I gained
Transcript of Tracy Thomas – What I lost and how I gained
What I lost and how I gained
The power of shifting perspectives
in life and in coaching
Agenda
• Part 1: The story of the experience
• Part 2: Life Lessons
• Part 3: Discovering the gift
• Part 4: Relevance to coaching
• Questions
Part 1:
The experience
South America Adventure
O.R Tambo 31st March, 2013
Buenos Aires
9 de Julio
Part 2:
Life Lessons
https://blog.focus-mediation.co.uk/2013/12/10/the_grieving_cycle_and_relationship_break_down/
Grief Cycle
Different Forms
• Non-attachment – belief
that everything is transitory
• Less attached to the ego –
you are transitory
Letting Go
“The teacher comes
when the student is
ready.” – Gregory David Roberts (2003), Shantaram
Part 3:
Discovering the gift
Loss versus Gain
http://www.relatably.com/q/quotes-about-life-lessons-pinterest
http://www.spring.org.uk/2015/01/nasal-spray-effective-treatment-for-memory-loss-and-alzheimers-study-finds.php
Becoming More Ourselves
• Pre-planned life
paths
• Crumbling masks
• Discovering our
authentic selves
• Passionately curios
Part 4:
Relevance to coaching
“Of course, the alchemy that transmutes
bad experiences to good ones, emotional
lead to gold, doesn’t happen by default. It
requires a particular kind of magic”
– Martha Beck (2008) Steering by Starlight
I can learn anything I want to.
When I’m frustrated, I persevere.
I want to challenge myself.
When I fail, I learn.
My effort and attitude determine
everything.
I’m either good at it, or I’m not.
When I’m frustrated I give up.
I don’t like to be challenged.
When I fail, I am no good.
If you succeed, I feel threatened.
My perceived abilities & past
determine everything.
Mindset & Thinking ProcessForward ThinkingStuck
Our Lens
•Past experiences
•Fixed assumptions
•Challenge habitual
thinking
•Stretch
Focus
Powerful Questioning1. What have you learnt from this experience?
2. What do you believe the lessons were from this
experience?
3. Is there anything new that you discovered about
yourself that surprised you from this experience?
4. What have been the positive outcomes from this
experience?
5. If anything, what about this experience are you
grateful for?
6. What is the most helpful thing you could do next?
7. What are your key takeaways from this
experience?
8. What parts of your personality will be helpful tools
to help you move forward?
The Future
• Everything happens for a reason
• Acceptance
• Developing insights
• Deeper understanding
• Cultivating gratitude
• Bulking up our tool kits
Questions?