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Tony DovaleResilience Coach & Alchemist
Runningtowards
the Edge of NOTHING
Ouch!
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Resilience
“The inner capacity to
survive & thrive
despite stressfulcircumstances or
Experiences”
The significant problems we facecannot be solved at the same
level of thinking we were at
when we created them.Albert Einstein
Why Resilience?• Almost 50% of USA workers suffer from burnout - stress on the job.
• 50% of 550,000,000 workdays lost annually because of absenteeism/stress– 3-yr study - 60% of absenteeism due to psychological problems - stress.
• more than 2x (1985 to 1990) - reported "feeling highly stressed“
• Job stress est cost US $300 billion annually, – absenteeism, diminished productivity, staff turnover, medical, legal & insurance fees – 60-80% of industrial accidents are due to stress.
• 9/10 job stress law suits are successful
• 1995 - Stress mngt $9.4 billion, 1999 $11.31 billion, 2006 $16 billion+
• 40% of worker turnover is due to job stress
• Workplace violence. Almost 2 million homicide, aggravated assault, rape or sexual assaults.
• Homicide 2nd leading cause of fatal occupational injury and the leading cause of death for working women
• SA – Hijacking, Race, Right-sizing, Violence, Murder, Rape, Rage, Uncertainty
Resilience Blocks• Stuck in Past• Energy Leaks• Low Self Esteem, No Confidence• Low involvement
– Avoid & detach (programs)• Mental Vulnerability • Negative frame gamers• Low Courage• Low Motivation – No Inspiration• Exaggeration / Catastrophising• Victim Perspective• No goals• Mind-lines
How Many Squares?How Many Squares?
“Your mind-lines hold you from success”
What one… internal statementor comment,that if stopped, would irrevocably alteryour Resiliencefor the better?
Your AQ Zone
• Basic Stress-ability
• Chronic Stress –Reality & wants disparity
• Acute Stress – short term
• Max Capacity
• Snap/Challenge Zone
Max Stress
Capacity
ChronicStress
AcuteStress
Snap Zone
AQ
Challenge
•Control
•Ownership
•Reach
•Extent
Adversity Intelligence - AQ
Value of Resilience
• Learning ability
• Greater skill/Talent application
• More productive /More $
• Healthier
• Proactive
• Strong Relationships
• Creative
Results
Actions
Skills
Abilities
Attitudes
Beliefs
Programming
Static”Leaks” = Fear, Resentments, Anger, Loss
Re-Programming yourPersonal Operating System
I have Ability, I am worthy, I can do, It is safe to do, success is achievable
Restrictions“Learned Helplessness”
AQ - Adversity Intelligence & Resiliency
They owe me Watch me do it
”Energy” = Past & Future Success enhance “Now” Focus
Victim/ Do it for meResourceful/CollaborateSupport is OK
Min impact and Use Max Impact and Use
Reactive Proactive
- +Logical Levels of ResultsLogical Levels of Results
Unless the area below the line is clear, all efforts to effectively enhance factors above this line on a long term are WASTED time, money and effort!
Unaware Conscious
Warm
ware
Warm
ware
Self Aware/Self Manage Consciousness / EnergyCORECORE
I have no Ability, I am not worthy, I can’t do, It is not safe to do, success is not achievable
Roots of Resilience• Energy
• Beliefs
• Interest
• Stop emotional spamming
• Broaden Perspective
• Deepen Understanding
• Plan
• Action
• Social Support
AQ Foundation
Energy Identity 0-3/7Progs
PowerPerspectives
& framesCORE
/Expectation
Context, Engagement & Goals/Future
ConfidenceCourage/Hope
Commitment/challenge
Actions
Beliefs/ControlInterest &Ownership
Capacity
Possibility inspiredRejuvenation
AQ Control• 90% of the time we unconsciously
& reactively create states thatwe DO have full control over
• Internal Awareness • Stop Emotional Spamming
– Mean Internal Support
• Meaning has no meaning• Reasons to succeed
Dam Water Before Dam Water After
How Clear Is Your Intention?
You make me sickI’ll Kill You!
Love & Appreciation
Dr Masaru Emoto
Qi EnergyExperiments performed 10 x, 4 x over ultra long
distance (1,900 km) and given the same results.
Limited ZoneLimited Zone
Resilience Upgrade Tools• Stop Thought-Viruses• New thought process • New possibilities • Intentional interpretation/meaning• Self-Manage state /Self Talk• Respond vs React• Control• Response-ability• Commitment• Challenge
• Big Picture – Little picture• Challenge frame - Problem frame• Awareness - Oblivious• Inner Friend – Inner enemy• Friends - Adversaries• Nurturing – Depriving• Generalise – Over personalise• Collaborate - Compete• High Self Esteem – Low self-esteem• Powerful - Powerless• Flexible - Rigid• Courage – Fear• Assertive - Aggressive• Response-able – Blaming• Value alignment – Value conflict
High AQ - Low AQ
Way Forward• Awareness• Energy• Identity • Pattern Break• New Frames• Courage, Passion• Engagement, commitment• Relationships• Align Values• Climate• Meaning
Energy Allocation
“Now”
Your Future
Your Past
You
___% ___%
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EILEAD to build AQ• Energy - What can I do right now to elevate my energy levels?
• Identity - What must shift in me, to enable me to handle this better?
• Listen to your AQ response– Was it a high or low resilience response? Was it constructive or destructive? What can I do
NOW to enhance this?
• Explore origins & ownership of the result– What are the possible origins of the adversity? What portion of this adversity is my
responsibility? What, specifically, could I have done better? What aspects of the results should I own? What can I do NOW to change this?
• Analyze - What evidence is there that I have no control here?– What evidence is there that the adversity has to affect other areas of my life? How can I
contain it? What evidence is there that the adversity must last any longer than necessary?
• Do something - – What can I do NOW to gain a little control over this. What could I do to limit the reach or
duration of this adversity?•
ABC of Needs to support AQ• Accomplishment• Belonging• Comfort• Dependability• Esteem• Finances• Goals• Help/Support• Interesting• Just
T.R.U.S.T.
• Truly
• Resilient
• Using constructive
• Self
• Talk
"To be what we are,and to become
what we are capable of becoming,
is the only end of life"
Robert Louis Stevenson
Whatever has been in your wayto greater RESILIENCE
Make the Decision now 2…
GET OVERIT !!!