Tips for Creating a Better Relationship with your Stepchild
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3 Tips to Creating A Better Relationship With
Your Stepchildwww.DavidCJohnstone.comA New Way To Stepparent
What Do You Do If They Don’t Like
You?
Do You Feel Guilty Because You
Haven’t Been Able To Generate Real
Love For Them Yet?
How Do You Improve This
Dynamic?
Start Slowly and Set Achievable Goals
Having A Wonderful Vision
Vs
Being Idealistic
How Possible Is It To Love Instantly?
Not Very…
Imagine telling yourself to love
someone you meet for the first time…
It’s Going To Take A Little Time
It’s Going To Take A Little Patience
What if they
don’t like you?
You can’t blame them
Your Stepchildren’sView Of Things
You are a threat
Your Stepchildren’sView Of Things
You are an invader
Your Stepchildren’sView Of Things
You are trying to take over their
bio parent’s role
Your Stepchildren’sView Of Things
You are preventing their bio parents from falling back in love and getting
back together again.
Your Stepchildren’sView Of Things
You are a threat
Your Stepchildren’sView Of Things
None of the above is likely true, but for
them it is real
How Most Stepparents
Sabotage Their Relationships
Perfection and the Super Stepparent
How Most Stepparents
Sabotage Their Relationships
Striving for thePerfect Family
How Most Stepparents
Sabotage Their Relationships
Perfect Discipline
How Most Stepparents
Sabotage Their Relationships
Perfect Home
How Most Stepparents
Sabotage Their Relationships
Perfect Love
How Most Stepparents
Sabotage Their Relationships
Stop
How Most Stepparents
Sabotage Their Relationships
Relax
How Most Stepparents
Sabotage Their Relationships
Start Slowly
How Most Stepparents
Sabotage Their Relationships
Get To Know Them
Get To Know Them
What are they interested in? How can you support their
interests? How can you develop a
friend/mentor/ally type of relationship with them?
What kind of skillful generosity can you practice with them?
DeepeningYour Relationship
Look For Ways To Have Fun With
Them!
DeepeningYour Relationship
Don’t Go Overboard
DeepeningYour Relationship
Let Them Dictate The Speed Of The
Developing Relationship
DeepeningYour Relationship
Don’t Go Overboard
DeepeningYour Relationship
Let Them Control How Fast Or Slow To
Develop The Relationship
DeepeningYour Relationship
Don’t Be A Threat
Tell Them You Are Not Looking To Replace Their
Bio Parent
How To Discipline
Relax!
DeepeningYour Relationship
Take OnA Supporting Role
DeepeningYour Relationship
Don’t Go Overboard
If You FeelLike An Outsider
Relax
DeepeningYour Relationship
Engage
DeepeningYour Relationship
Be YourNumber One
Supporter
Self Compassion
The Alternative to Beating Yourself Up
Self Compassion
Defined
Self Compassion
Supported by Science Based
Research
Self Compassion
BenefitsIncreases in MotivationImprovement in Happiness
Reductions in Stress
Self Compassion
The EssentialsSelf KindnessAcknowledge/Accept Common Humanity
Mindfulness
For the article this presentation is based on go to:
www.davidcjohnstone.com/stepparent-relationships/