This first half Starters brief overview self-esteem & leadership Then 3 Options
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This first half
Startersbrief overview self-esteem & leadership
Then 3 Options 1. Remain in here - Self –skills & facilitative
leadership , Servant leadership
2. Facilitated discussion with Rick on self-esteem issues in Noble Firs
3. Self-directed discussion in groups (cafe style)
10.40 Everyone – back here for feedback
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Which self-
skills?
Generic traits (self-skills) for
leadership
Traits needed in
our changing cultural
landscape
Traits needed for leading in this ‘spiritual season‘
Summary of previous session
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We ended with...The link between unity, mission & the character traits (self-skills) this landscape of the Spirit requires
...with all humility and gentleness,with patience, bearing with one another in love, making every effort to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.
The unity of the Spirit
HumilityServant
attitude, etc
‘...that the world might
know...’
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Particular character traits needed particularly in our cultural landscape
Handling power
Desiring to serve
Handling criticism
Recovering from failure
Being vulnerable and
accountable
Poor self-image
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Leadership & self-esteem
What are the relevant issues to consider here?
Any thoughts or observations?
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Leadership & self-esteem
Related themes
Shame (felt in relation to others)
Skem
Adam and Eve
‘Narcissistic wound’Secondary narcissism- older children and adults seek personal gratification over the achievement of social goals and conformance to social values.
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RELEVANT FACTORS
OUR PAST •UNRESOLVED ISSUES•PRAISE --- CRITICISM
CHURCH LEADERSHIP
•FEW MEASURABLE GOALS•UNDER-RESOURCED BUT HIGH EXPECTATIONS•THE UNENDING NATURE OF THE ROLE•CYCLICAL NATURE OF SUCCESS•CONFLICT USUALLY PRESENT SOMEWHERE
SOURCES OF OK-NESS
•GOD AS FATHER•RELATIONSHIPS (FAMILY & FRIENDS)•HOBBIES / STUDY ETC
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RELEVANT FACTORS
OUR PAST •UNRESOLVED ISSUES•PRAISE --- CRITICISM
CHURCH LEADERSHIP
•FEW MEASURABLE GOALS•UNDER-RESOURCED BUT HIGH EXPECTATIONS•THE UNENDING NATURE OF THE ROLE•CYCLICAL NATURE OF SUCCESS•CONFLICT USUALLY PRESENT SOMEWHERE
SOURCES OF OK-NESS
•GOD AS FATHER•RELATIONSHIPS (FAMILY & FRIENDS)•HOBBIES / STUDY ETC
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RELEVANT FACTORS
OUR PAST •UNRESOLVED ISSUES•PRAISE --- CRITICISM
CHURCH LEADERSHIP
•FEW MEASURABLE GOALS•UNDER-RESOURCED BUT HIGH EXPECTATIONS•THE UNENDING NATURE OF THE ROLE•CYCLICAL NATURE OF SUCCESS•CONFLICT USUALLY PRESENT SOMEWHERE
SOURCES OF OK-NESS
•GOD LOVE IS NOT PERFORMANCE RELATED•RELATIONSHIPS (FAMILY & FRIENDS)•HOBBIES / STUDY ETC
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How might we help ourselves and our co-leaders?
What practical steps can we take?
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STEPS TO TAKE
SELF AWARENESS
ACKNOWLEDGE
PRAYER“SOAKING”
CONTEMPLATIVE
ACT DIFFERENTLY
IN YOURROLE
MAKE ALLOWANCES
& ADJUSTMENTS
IN OTHER AREAS
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Covered more in other units on leadership formation:
Become aware of your dysfunctional tendencies
Grow in those practices which help you be grounded in GodKnow your personality type
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Finally...Do accept praise graciously but don’t become
addicted to it:
‘Applause: enjoy every moment of it, but never believe it.’
Oscar Wilde
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Session 2
a) Poor self-esteem
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SOME KEY IDEAS ABOUT LEADERSHIP
Leadership is relational
Leadership is keeping in step
with the unpredictable
Spirit
Leadership is being open to
the whole body of Christ as the
place where missional
imagination is cultivated
Self–skills & facilitative/empowering leadership
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Self–skills & facilitative/empowering leadership
Past models (pre-modernity)
Settled pastor/priest
Teacher (Reformation)
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Self–skills & facilitative/empowering leadership
current models (emerged in modernity)
The ideal leader = good at one of the above + has a demonstrable devotional life
Manager- effectiveness
Technician- programmes
Teacher- content
Therapist- health
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THE FOCUS OF LEADERSHIP
Current leadership paradigm
Is there a different paradigm?
Pastor
cares
for:Church members, who in turn help run:
Church projects
Focuses on church questions
THE MINISTER(S)
NOT QUITE SO IMPORTANT PEOPLE
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Engage with the community
People and systems
Leaders for
m
Puts mission questions at the apex
THE MINISTERS
Still important because they equip church members to ‘do the work of ministry’ Eph 4: 11-16
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Engage with the community
People and systems
Leaders for
mPope John Paul II identified two fundamental priorities of evangelization - “solid and deep formation” and a “strong testimony.”
A Catholic Perspective
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Engage with the community
People and systems
Leaders form
Pastor cares
for:Church members, who
in turn help run:
Church projects
WHICH MODEL DOES YOUR CHURCH OR ORGANISATION EXPECT?
WHAT ARE THE CHALLENGES FOR YOU?
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Does facilitative leadership have a theological rationale, apart from Eph 4 (which can be used as a proof text)?
The day of Pentecost
50 days after deliverance / the exodus (parallels with Calvary) they came to Sinai.
Sinai - The giving of the Law – which then made them a kingdom of priests (intermediaries)
Sinai - Fire (lightning) and noise (thunder)
Pentecost - Tongues of fire and mighty wind
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...Pentecost
The Spirit given to all
The Law written within each person through the Spirit
Each person now a priest (standing between God and others)
What are the implications of this for leadership?
Any thoughts?
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The Spirit •Anointing is corporate •Leaders are not privileged
•Leaders are there to bring out what God has put within people
Ministry •Ministry (priesthood) is the calling of the whole church
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FACILITATIVE (EMPOWERING)LEADERSHIPnegatively...
Is not about having all the answers which may frustrate people (the drive to appear omniscient)
Is not about doing what people want us to do, which also might frustrate people (avoiding the drive to be popular)
But neither is it about denying our knowledge, expertise etc (false humility)
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FACILITATIVE (EMPOWERING)LEADERSHIPpositively...
It is about doing what we believe will facilitate discipleship – i.e. formation of people both spiritually and in terms of personal maturity.
It is about helping people develop and express their charisms (helps, prophecy, mercy etc).
It is about helping others to become servants in the way their exercise their charisms.
It is about shaping systems (groups etc) which will facilitate community formation, create alliances between people etc...
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FACILITATIVE (EMPOWERING)LEADERSHIP
Two questions:
Is empowering leadership the same as delegation, or is it different?
How to do it in practice?
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FACILITATIVE (EMPOWERING)LEADERSHIP
How to... Deal with: ‘What if they are better than me?’
Get to know people – gifts, capacity, aspirations
Learn to ask the ‘impossible dream’ question
Begin to differentiate between pipe dreams & people who are willing to make a difference
Don’t feel responsible for entitled demanders
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FACILITATIVE (EMPOWERING)LEADERSHIP
Concentrate on people who are joined to the church community (somewhere)
Don’t discount people who might not look like leadership material (example – P S)
Take the risk
Pray for them, give them a book, equip them in some way that does not make you too prominent
Don’t try to realise people’s visions for them
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FACILITATIVE (EMPOWERING)LEADERSHIP
A leader is best when people barely know he exists, when his work is done, his aim fulfilled, they will say: we did it ourselves.
Lao-Tsu
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You know that the rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their high officials exercise authority over them. Not so with you. Instead whoever wants to become great amongst you must be your servant, and whosever wants to be first must be your slave. (Matthew 20:25-26).
Servant Leadership
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Points to note:
1. This is in response to their experience of leadership in their own culture, where Rome ruled over a slave economy with a rod of iron.
2. Would Jesus say something different in a culture where leaders were often treated as existing purely to meet the demands of their followers?
3. All Christians are called to be servants, not just leaders. The servanthood of leaders should never be seen as a special level of discipleship – this would denigrate those who serve in other ways.
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Which comes firstLeadership or servanthood?
NOT:
MORE LIKE THIS:
Appointed as Leader
Learn to be a servant
Effective leadership
Leadership Servanthood as a self-skill
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Christ as the source of servant leadership
‘Just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve
and to give his life as a ransom for many’ (Matthew 20:28)
‘I am among you as one who serves’
(Luke 22:27)
‘Your attitude should be the same as that of
Christ Jesus… taking the nature of a servant…’ (Philippians 2:5-
7)
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Marks of Servant Leadership
Menial tasks ---------- A here-for-others focus
We primarily express servanthood through leading well We lead with the attitude that status is unimportantThose we serve are not our masters Openness to others doesn’t mean we will inevitably do what they suggest we should do (doorkeeper vs doormat)
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The Status Syndrome‘Everyone who exalts himself will be humbled and he
who humbles himself will be exalted’ (Luke 14:11)
The Basin and The Towel
What are the status symbols used in your church to identify leaders (you may think there are none – but think carefully)? What effect have they had on you and how do you deal with their potential to separate you from those you lead?