“THE POWER OF YOUR MIND”

MODULE 01 PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT AS A

TRAINER

BYVINODINI DE SILVA

NDHRM, INSTITUTE OF PERSONNEL MANAGEMENT

I N T R O D U C T I O N

You get the best out of others when you get the best out of yourself. Harvey S. Firestone

If you want to make changes in your life, you must look to the causes - the way you are using your mind — the way you are thinking.

You cannot think both negative and positive thoughts at the same time. One or the other will dominate.

The mind is a creature of habit, so it becomes each individual’s responsibility to make sure that positive emotions and thoughts constitute the dominating influence in their mind.

CHARACTERISTICS OF A GOOD TRAINER

Empathy: This is the ability to put oneself in the shoes of another.

Honesty: This is the courage to recognize personal strengths and weaknesses and to be frank about these aspects to the personnel being trained, for their own benefit.

Patience: This is shown in the willingness to compliment slow progress and refrain from the anger when mistakes are made.

Pace: This is closely integrated with empathy and patience.

Democracy: This refers to the kind of atmosphere created when learning takes place.

Purpose: This emphasizes the element of tenacity in achieving the training goals.

An ability to listen: The trainer must hear questions raised by trainees and understand if the questions reflect other problem, which are not being mentioned. Maintain eye contact and interest.

Respect for experience: Adults will learn more effectively if respect is given to the experience and qualifications they can bring to a situation.

Prestige: A trainer should command the respect of his colleagues in the organization.

Learn to be accepting of others – good interpersonal relations

Stop nit-picking yourself – do not focus too much on your flaws

Be carefree – appreciate and go for anything you never tried

Be kind – be helpful, be nice and smile all the time …

Be yourself – just follow your style

GET THE BEST OUT OF YOU

T I P S

Enjoy life. Enjoy the robustness and look for the spice in life. Experience all that you can, keep in regards that life is short!

Repair old relationships once lost, and make your present ones stronger!

Don't talk behind other people's backs. Remember that everyone was put on this earth for a reason, and everyone has they're own troubles in life - even if it does seem that they have an easier life.

TRAIN YOURSELF TO BE MORE SUCCESSFUL

WITH THE POWER OF MIND

MIND POWER ROLE IN ACHIEVING SUCCESS

The mind plays an important role in achieving every success and goal, minor, everyday goals, or major goals.

To accomplish anything, and to use your mind power, you have to know exactly what it is you want to do.

In order to focus your mind on a goal, you need a clear and well defined goal.

How do you go about achieving your goals ?

1. First, you have to think and find out what is it that you really want to accomplish or gain.

2. Then come up with a plan of action – plan using the power of mind.

3. To hold in your mind a clear mental image of your goal needs to be established using your imagination. You must train your mind to this.

4. Affirmations are another useful mental tool for achieving success. Positive affirmations sinks into the subconscious mind then affects your behavior and actions.

5. You need to be able to transmit your thoughts to other people and persuade them to aid you with your plans.

6. Motivation is another mental and emotional power that you require for achieving success. To achieve this :

• Think often of your goal• About its advantages• About its benefits• How it will change your life

THE POWER OF IMAGINATION

Imagination is the ability to form a mental image of something that is not perceived through the five senses.

It is the ability of the mind to build mental scenes, objects or events that do not exist, are not present, or have happened in the past.

Imagination makes it possible to experience a whole world inside the mind.

It gives the ability to look at any situation from a different point of view, and to mentally explore the past and the future.

A developed and strong imagination does not make you a daydreamer and impractical.

It strengthens your creative abilities, and is a great tool for recreating and remodeling your world and life.

D E V E L O P I N G Y O U R I M A G I N AT I O N

1. Find fifteen minutes every day for the exercises.

2. Visualize something simple that you can believe you can get

3. Visualize your desire clearly, and include in the visualization all the five senses.

4. You might find out it is easier to imagine with some of the senses, and a little difficult to imagine with the others.

5. Do the same exercise everyday, and you will find that it gradually becomes easier.

6. Sometimes you may find that your mind starts to verbalize about what you are imagining. Be careful not to replace the imagination with words. The aim is to use the imagination, not words.

IT CAN LATER HAPPEN IN REAL LIFE – BECAUSE THE POWER OF YOUR MIND IS SO STRONG!

MY LAST IMAGINATION IS ABOUT TO BECOME REAL

Going to Africa on a wildlife safari …

I smelled the earth, I felt the dust, I felt travelling in an open jeep, I smelled jungle, I smelled animal and even animal dung …

I’m on my way to Africa …

COMMON PROBLEMS WE FACE ON A DAILY BASS

Stress – a feature of modern life

Anger – negative emotions causing mental and physical harm

Negative thoughts – more than positive thoughts

Frustration – work-life balance, work issues

All of these bring bad results to our health !

•Pain of any kind•Heart disease•Digestive problems•Sleep problems•Diabetes

•Depression•Weight problems•Auto immune diseases•Skin conditions, such as eczema

Many health problems are caused or made worse by stress, including:

Cognitive Symptoms

•Memory problems•Inability to concentrate•Poor judgment•Seeing only the negative•Anxious or racing thoughts•Constant worrying

Emotional Symptoms

•Moodiness•Irritability or short temper•Agitation, inability to relax•Feeling overwhelmed•Sense of loneliness and isolation•Depression or general unhappiness

Physical Symptoms

•Aches and pains•Diarrhea or constipation•Nausea, dizziness•Chest pain, rapid heartbeat•Loss of sex drive•Frequent colds

Behavioral Symptoms

•Eating more or less•Sleeping too much or too little•Isolating yourself from others•Procrastinating or neglecting responsibilities•Using alcohol, cigarettes, or drugs to relax•Nervous habits (e.g. nail biting, pacing)

You are responsible for your thinking.

Change your thinking and life will improve

But, what thoughts do you change? • Your troublesome thoughts about a

situation can easily be found in your self-talk. Self-talk is that inner running dialogue you have with yourself.

• It is what you tell yourself about life's situations.

YOU ARE WHAT YOU THINK

All of us have an "Inner Observer" who comments on what we do. (negative voice drains energy)Worry can make a small problem big. (change your mind and attitude and look at the problem and make it positive)To change your attitude, change your mind. (what am I thinking, what am I asking myself ?)

DUALITY OF THE HUMAN MIND

Dualism is closely associated with the thought of René Descartes (1641), which holds that the mind is a nonphysical--and therefore, non-spatial--substance.

Descartes clearly identified the mind with consciousness and self-awareness and distinguished this from the brain as the seat of intelligence.

Hence, he was the first to formulate the mind–body problem

in the form in which it exists today.

MIND – BODY CONNECTIONS

Body-mind is an approach to understanding the relationship between the human body and mind in which they are seen as a single integrated unit. It attempts to address the mind-body problem and is in contrast to the traditions of mind-body dualism and dualism.

In the fields of psychology, therapy and alternative medicine body-mind implies that:

The body, mind, emotions, and spirit are dynamically interrelated.

Experience, including physical stress, emotional injury, and pleasures are stored in the body's cells which in turn affects one's reactions to stimuli.

EQUATE OR COMPARE WITH SENSE OF WELL-BEING

Focus on what you have rather than what you do not have

Have choices and options in life rather than one single expectation

THOUGHT DRIVES FEELINGS

Seven Steps to Develop Awareness of Emotions and Thoughts

1. Select a triggering situation to process – make a list of upsetting feelings or anger

2. Centre yourself with slow deep breaths – imagine yourself in a safe place

3. Identify and feel your emotions and feelings – what am I feeling right now ?

4. Feel and notice the location of any sense in the body

5. Accept your feelings and be confident you can handle your emotions

6. Identify what you tell yourself in your mind that is triggering any

painful emotions

7. Connect empathically to understand and validate your emotions

YOUR THOUGHTS ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR

EMOTIONSYour feelings or emotions come from your thinking.

This doesn’t mean that if you tell yourself everything is fine and you have no problems, then you will feel fine and your problems will disappear.

“thinking positively,” telling yourself to cheer up, or fondly dwelling on comfortable images that everything is wonderful.

WE ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR OUR OWN FEELINGS …

LESSONS FOR THE CORPORATE WORLD

Today’s organizations pay more attention on ATTITUDES rather than qualifications and experience when hiring hew staff.

THOUGHTS ARE NOT REAL

Did you ever realize that everything going on in your mind -- every thought, feeling, sensation, everything you are aware of -- is in fact happening only in your private internal world? Your thoughts appear only to you, and are not being heard by anyone else whatsoever.

What makes a thought feel real is the attention we bring to it. We make a thought into a solid object by focusing on it and relating to it as if it is an event happening in the world somewhere.

And so the next time that a thought appears before you, within your awareness, remember that it is not real in the sense that it has some solid form or exists somewhere outside of you.

AVOID NEGATIVE SPIRAL EFFECT AND SELF-TALK

The more the mind focuses on something the more it gets involved – analyzing or justifying.

Just let it go – • do not criticize yourself• Do not doubt your abilities• Do not fear future events• Do not put yourself down• Do not have expectation of failure

DISTORTED THINKING

Distorted thinking is exaggerated or irrational thought patterns.

If you do not check it, it can lead to psychopathological states, especially depression and anxiety.

Cognitive distortions are thoughts that cause individuals to perceive reality inaccurately.

These thinking patterns often reinforce negative thoughts or emotions.

Cognitive distortions tend to interfere with the way a person perceives an event.

• Burns’ 1989 book, The Feeling Good Handbook presented information on these thought patterns along with a proposal of how to eliminate them.

10 DISTORTED THINKING PATTERNS

All-Or-Nothing Thinking – You see things in black-and-white categories. If your performance falls short of perfect, you see yourself as a total failure.

Overgeneralization – You see a single negative event as a never-ending pattern of defeat.

Mental Filter – You pick out a single negative defeat and dwell on it exclusively so that your vision of reality becomes darkened, like the drop of ink that colors the entire beaker of water.

Disqualifying the positive – You dismiss positive experiences by insisting they “don’t count” for some reason or other. In this way you can maintain a

negative belief that is contradicted by your everyday experiences.

Jumping to conclusions – You make a negative interpretation even though there are no definite facts that convincingly support your conclusion.

A. Mind reading. You arbitrarily conclude that someone is reacting negatively to you, and you don’t bother to check this out.

B. The fortune teller error. You anticipate that things will turn out badly, and you feel convinced that your prediction is an already-established fact.

Magnification (Catastrophizing) or Minimization– You exaggerate the importance of things (such as your goof-up or someone else’s achievement), or you inappropriately shrink things until they appear tiny (your own desirable qualities or the other fellow’s imperfections). This is also called the “binocular trick.”

Emotional Reasoning – You assume that your negative emotions necessarily reflect the way things really are: “I feel it, therefore it must be true.

Should Statements – You try to motivate yourself with shoulds and shouldn’ts, as if you had to be whipped and punished before you could be expected to do anything. “Musts” and “oughts” are also offenders. The emotional consequence is guilt. When you direct should statements toward others, you feel anger, frustration, and resentment.

Labeling and Mislabeling – This is an extreme form of overgeneralization. Instead of describing your error, you attach a negative label to yourself: “I’m a loser.” When someone else’s behavior rubs you the wrong way, you attach a negative label to him: “He’s a goddam louse.” Mislabeling involves describing an event with language that is highly colored and emotionally loaded.

Personalization – You see yourself as the cause of some negative external event which in fact you were not primarily responsible for.

The older you are the less creative or innovative you get

Leave innovation and creativity to the young blood and give them the opportunity and empower them

Seniors should act as project mentors nor project leaders

Seniors should not be measured by their success but the success of their second line

MODERN THINKING OF ORGANIZATIONS

MIND CONTROLIdentify your negative thoughts – blaming/shaming yourself

Stop the negative thought immediately – say “this morning is rough but the day will get better”

Pay attention to your vocabulary – I’ll never get this right, I always mess up

Remove only negative words – terrible, disaster

Turn the bad into good – when one

Door closes another opens …

THE POWER OF THE SUBCONSCIOUS MIND

There are two types of people :

• Magnetized – full of confidence and faith – born to succeed and win

• Demagnetized – full of fear and doubt – what if I fail ?

THE DUALITY OF THE MIND

Success in whatever we do requires an understanding of both parts of the mind:

• The conscious mind• The subconscious mind

The conscious mind is what you are using right now, and the part of the mind we use when we are in a fully alert state of consciousness. Activities of the conscious mind are closely correlated with left hemisphere brain functions which include things like:

Critical Thinking Reasoning Analysis Logical Thinking

The subconscious mind is our inborn “bio-computer” that runs the show behind the scenes.

Perhaps the most important thing to understand about the subconscious mind is it operates exactly like a hard drive of a computer.

The computer accepts information non-critically and simply supports the programs found on the hard drive indiscriminately.

If you enter into a computer information like, “the world is flat,” “the sky is green and the grass is blue,” or any other thought like this, the computer simply accepts it and believes it to be true.

THE POWER OF SUGGESTIONS

Make suggestions made to the mind positive and not negative.

Autosuggestion are positive words and sentences used repeatedly to change your perception. It is a self-development method used to create new, positive beliefs about yourself as well as an effective method for ending bad habits. Autosuggestions works by placing ideas into your subconscious and making it believe they are true.

Hetero-suggestion is that which is given by one or more persons to another; it may be given verbally or mentally.

This is simply another way of saying that'' two heads are better than one" or "let us put our heads together."

GET YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS MIND TO WORK FOR YOU

4 steps –

Ask for what you want with no doubt

Have faith and believe that you will get it

Visualize that you have already got it

Now enjoy the feeling of having it