The Gift of Resilience ~ Jacquelyn M. Paykel, M.D.
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Transcript of The Gift of Resilience ~ Jacquelyn M. Paykel, M.D.
Resilience
Resilience in people is when individuals exhibit positive behavioral adaptation during
times of significant stress.
Resilience
Internal Factors We create these within us
External Factors We need others to help us create these
Internal factors = Resilience
Relationships that provide care and support, create love & trust and offer encouragement within and outside the family Principle #1 – there are three types of
people in your life
Three types of people in your life(Principle #1)
There are three types of people in your life:
Those who want to help you▪ Assist with your growth
Those who want to hurt you▪ Want you to stay the same
Those who want to leave you alone▪ Don’t have the energy to help you
~ Deepak Chopra
Internal factors = Resilience
Relationships that provide care and support, create love & trust and offer encouragement within and outside the family
The capacity to make realistic plans ▪ Keep calendars, maintain sleep schedules, say “no”
Having self confidence and a positive self image▪ affirmations
Developing communication skills ▪ the art of listening, the art of speaking through kindness
The capacity to manage strong feelings and impulses ▪ mindfulness
External factors = Resilience
External social support Having a close bond with at least
one family member or an emotionally stable parent Principle #2 – when we know better we
do better
When we know better, we do better (Principle #2)
We do the best that we can with the tools available to us at the time;
when we know better, we do better .
~ Maya Angelou
External factors = Resilience
External social support Having a close bond with at least
one family member or an emotionally stable parent
Receiving support or counsel from peers
Contributing to causes outside of one’s self (volunteerism)
Our Parents Teach Us(Principle #3)
There is a reason we were born to the parents we have –
they have life lessons to teach us thatwe needed to know.
“True happiness does not come from a perfect childhood. Happiness comes from claiming our unique childhood and working through the lessons it holds for us.”
~Ann Wilson SchaefMeditations for Women Who Do Too
Much
Pathway to resilience
Childhood – 6 kids and chaos Chile – another world Early adulthood - overwhelming
inadequacy Undergrad – defining happiness Medical school – three children,
military obligations, no support Residency – work hours, stolen
childhoods Sleep = 7 hours per night (2001)
Pathway to Resilience
Military – 9/11, Mitch in WI, depression Counseling and encouraged to restore balance Breathing exercises Painting/drawing as a place to find peace
Board certification = STRESS Spiritual awakening External validation of capabilities
Private practice Defining my own self worth as a physician Environmental changes – calming music,
calming colors
Pathway to Resilience
Integrative Medicine Fellowship Spiritual literature and movies Eliminate broadcast news Aromatherapy – lavender, vanilla, citrus, cinnamon Supplements – Vitamin D, Vitamin B complex Dietary modification – Anti-inflammatory Guided imagery Exercise Yoga, tai chi Affirmations Meditation Tension Tamer tea, Green tea Expressions of creativity Journal writing, Creative writing Mindfulness
Mindfulness
Mindfulness means paying attention in a particular way: On purpose, in the present moment and non-judgmentally…it wakes us up to the fact that our lives unfold only in moments.
Experience each moment, no matter how difficult or intense, with serenity and clarity. (e.g. car accidents)
Gain immediate access to powerful inner resources for healing.
With repeated practice, mindfulness allows you to develop an ability to calmly step back from thoughts and feelings during stressful situations, rather than entering into a cycle of stress reactivity.
As a result, many people renew their enthusiasm for life and are better able to cope with stress.
Three life principles
There are three types of people in your life: Those who want to help you, those who want to hurt you ; those who want to leave you alone ~ Deepak Chopra
We do the best that we can with the tools available to us at the time; when we know better, we do better ~ Maya Angelou
There is a reason we are born to the parents we have – they have lessons to teach us we needed to learn