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THEFABLIFE________________________

HOWTOINFLUENCEOTHERS,ACHIEVEFINANCIALGROWTHANDBECOMETHEBEST

VERSIONOFYOURSELFDR.FABRIZIOMANCINI

Copyright©2017byDr.FabrizioManciniAllrightsreserved.No part of this bookmay be reproduced in any form or by any electronic ormechanicalmeans, including information storage and retrieval systems, without written permissionfromtheauthor,exceptfortheuseofbriefquotationsinabookreview.

This book is dedicated to my mom, Gladys Mancini. You have inspired me to become the best version of myself.

CONTENTS

Acknowledgments viiIntroduction ix1.TheFabFiveRules 12.UnderstandingYourWhy 233.BeingClearonYourValue 294.NetworkingYourRelationships 375.WritingaBookforCredibility 476.SpeakingtoMany 597.BecomingaMediaExpertfortheMasses 718.StayingHumble 819.BuildingyourBusinessModel 89Fab’sTakeaways 97Bibliography 101

ONETHEFABFIVERULES

When you choose your behaviors, you choose your

consequences. -Dr.PhilMcGraw

Soit’ssettled--youwanttoliveTheFabLife!Youwanttobreakfreefromthemundanecareer thatenslavesyou - thecareerwhichyouchosebecauseyou feltyouhadtoandnotbecauseyouwantedto.Youwant the freedom to travel theworldandexperiencedifferentpeople and different cultures, all while doing what you love. Youwant to follow your passion and feel alive again. The path you’recurrentlyonisnotfulfilling.Youfeelstuck,andyouneedhelp.Well,you’reingoodhands,friend.I’mheretotellyouthereishope.Yourcurrentcircumstancesdonotdefineyou;infact,yourcircumstanceshaveneverdefinedyou.Whoyou are and what you love has always been constant; you justhaven’t allowed it to surface and grow to its truepotential. You’venevernurturedyourpassionandallowedittomanifestintomassivesuccess, but that’s about to change. I’m going to present my "FabFiveRules to LiveBy" to allowyourpassionandmessage to thrive.You can learn to live a life you can’t wait to wake up to everymorning.GetreadytoliveTheFabLife!

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Rule1.LiveEveryDayLikeIt’sYourLast.

If you are not living this moment, you are not really living.

-EckhartTolleDoyourememberwhenIsharedwithyouthatmyfamilydecidedtomovefromColombia,SouthAmerica,toMiami,Florida,whenIwasthirteenyearsold?Threeyears later,myparentsaskeduswhatwewanted forChristmas.MybrotherAldoand Iwanted togoback to

our hometown of Barranquilla to visit our friends and familymembers. We had been homesick; at that age, friends areeverything. My parents surprised us with two plane tickets toColombia.Wewoulddepart theday followingChristmasandwouldspend timewith our friends and family in Colombia until after thenewyear.Weweresoexcited!Ifeltsolucky,loved,andspoiledthatmyparentshaddonethisforus.Iwasgoingtohavetheopportunityto see my friends and family after having been without them forthreeyears.Wepackedthatnightandwerereadytogothenextday.Duringtheflight, we couldn’t stop smiling; it was as if we had just won thelottery.Whenwelanded,myauntandherhusbandwerewaitingforusandinvitedustostayattheirbeautifulhome.Weweresohappyandthelovewaspalpable.Muchtooursurpriseaswepulledintothedriveway,wenoticedalotofcars.Myauntandunclehadinvitedourfamily and friends fromschoolover for abig surpriseparty just forus!Theyhadcookeddeliciousfood,hadlivemusicasentertainment,andover200ofourfriendsandfamilyweretheretogreetus.Itwasthebestnightofmylife.Aftereveryoneleftandwewenttobed,Iwasawakenedbythebackofagunhittingmyheadandavoiceaskingmewherethesafewas.Iwaspleadingandcrying,“Pleasedon’thurtme.Idon'tknowwherethe safe is. I don't live here.” They tied my hands and feet andcontinuedhittingmeontheheadwiththebackof thegun,repeat-edlyaskingme,“Whereisthesafe?”WhentheyrealizedIdidn’thavetheinformationtheywerelookingfor,theyaskedmewhowasintheroomnextdoor-itwasmybrother.Theylefttheroom,andIheardmybrotherAldoscreamveryloudly.Themencameback,theirhandscoveredinblood.Theytoldmetheyhadkilledmybrother,andthatifIdidn’ttellthemwherethesafewas,I’dmeetasimilardemise.AllIcoulddowaskeeptellingthemIdidnotknowwherethesafewas.Ifeltsohelpless.BywhatIcanonlydescribeasamiracle,thepeoplenextdoorheardsomethingornoticedsomethingwasn’tright.Theycalledthepolice,and as the sirens drew closer to the house, the men fled. The

ambulance came, andmuch tomy relief,my brotherwas alive.Herecoveredafterreceivingjustafewstitches;Iwasbruisedandbadlyshakenup.Thatmorningatthehospital,IthoughtabouthowcloseIhadcomethepreviousnighttohavingmylastdayonEarth.Itwasinthat moment I realized life cannot be taken for granted. I made apromise tomyself. Idecided that fromthatmoment forward, Iwasgoingtolivemylifeasiftherewerenotomorrow,becausetomorrowisneverpromised.Can you imagine what your life could be like if you adopted thisbelief?Only24hours,1day, today...What if thatwasall youwereguaranteed? For me, the experience that I endured, both theintrospectionandthetraumathatprecipitatedit,servedasahugelydefiningmoment inmy life thathadabig impactonmy journey tocreatingTheFabLife. It is thisexperience that inspiresme to sharethelessonsI’velearned.Fromthismomenton, Iwantyoutolive in24hourcycles.Iwantyoutostopprocrastinating.Stopwastingyourtime doing things you hate. Stop harboring resentment towardothers.Thisrulehasthepotentialtocompletelytransformyourlife.Stopmakingexcusesandstartlivingasthoughtodayisyourlast.Imagine for a moment how differently you would approach youreverydayinteractionsifyouadoptedthismindsetoflivinglikeeverydaywasyour last. IwantyoutogetoutapenandpaperandwritedowntheanswerstothequestionsIampresentinghere.Thiswillbeagreatvisualreminderforhowyouwanttoapproacheveryday.• Howwouldyouwakeupinthemorning?Wouldyousleepinor

wakeupearly?• Wouldyoutakesometimetoshowyouraffectiontowardyour

partner,orwouldyourushoutofbed?• Would you get up early enough to wake your children,make

them their favorite breakfast, and give them an extra hug, orwould you yell at them as you hurry them out the door forschool?

• Wouldyougotowork,orwouldyoutellthemyou’renotgoingtocomein?

• Wouldyoubepresentinyourinteractionswitheverycustomerandco-workerwhocrossedyourpath?

• Whowouldyoucall?• Whatwouldyousay?• Would you give thanks to those who have helped and loved

you?• Wouldyousaythethingsyouhaveheldback?• Wouldyouforgivethoseyouharborresentmentagainst?• Wherewouldyougo?• Whowouldyouvisit?

I'm going to take a shot in the dark here and assume that youranswerstothequestionsabovediffergreatlyfromyourtypicaldailyroutine.Fortunately, youaregoing to implement thesepractices tomakethemostofyourdayandyourinteractions.Iguaranteeyouwillsee a profound difference in your mindset as well as the positiveimpact these changes will make in your personal and professionallife.

Fab Tips for Living in the Moment

• Turnoffelectronicdevices, likecellphones, computers, iPods,and televisions. Focus on the people in front of you or theexperiencesyouarehaving.

• Trydoingoneactivityatatimeinsteadofmultitasking.Putyourenergywholeheartedlyintheactivitythatmattersthemost.

• Don’tworrysomuch.Thiswillkeepyourfocusinthemoment.• Listenmorethanyoutalk.• Forgive any past wrongdoing. Anger and resentment are very

distracting.• Takedeepbreaths.• Eatslowlyandenjoyeverybite.Don'tforgettochewyourfood

well.• Don’tover-scheduleyourself.Makesureyouhavetimeforthe

thingsandthepeoplethatmatter,especiallyyourself!

• Don’tprocrastinate.Doitnow.• Beacceptingofothersandtheircircumstances.

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Rule2.FocusonServiceOverSurvival.

You must develop a compassion to serve rather than the

compulsion to survive. -Dr.JamesW.Parker

EverywhereIturn,Ikeephearingabout"survival."WhenIaskpeoplehow they are, they're "surviving!" When I ask businesses how theyear is going, they say, “we're surviving!”When I askpeople abouttheir marriage or financial status, they let me know that it's"surviving."Haveyoueverwonderedwhenyoulearnedtosettleforsimplysurviving?Somemightarguethatashumanspecies, it isourinstincttosurvive,buttheneedforsurvivalinstinctwasprominentintheearlierstagesofourdevelopmentanddefinitelydoesn’tapplytotheworldinwhichwelivecurrently.Thisworldhasseenabundance,but I have come to realize the concept of abundance is foreign toover90percentofthepopulation.TheconceptofsurvivalisonethatI’dlikeyoutoreflectupon.Doyoufeelasthoughyou’rejustsurviving,maybeevenbarelysurviving?Payattention.Areyousurroundingyourselfwithothersurvivors?Oneofmymentors,Dr.JamesW.Parker,taughtmethatyoumustdevelopthecompassiontoserveratherthanthecompulsiontosurvive.As Istudied the lives of some of themost influential people across theworld, I realized they all seemed to have prioritized service oversurvival. They spent over eighty percent of their time working onsolutions to theneedsofothers,asopposedtospendingtheir timethinkingselfishlyabouttheirownneeds. Itbecamecleartomethatwealthwas abyproductof service, and if Iwanted tohave amoreabundantlife,Ineededtodirectmyfocustowardservingmore.I began to recognize that my greatest worth came from helpingothers,creatingvalue,andinventingsolutionsfortheirneeds.WhenI assumed responsibility as president of Parker University, I was in

wayovermyhead.TheboardfeltIwastherightpersonforthejob,but the university had lost its founder and had been run formorethanayearbyapresidentwhoover-promisedandunder-delivered,showing little to no leadership ability. The faculty, administrators,and studentswere just surviving; spiritwas low, and transfer rateswere high. There wasn’t a qualified leader to make the toughdecisions that had needed to be made. The university needed aleaderwillingtodowhatneededtobedone.IdecidedasthepresidentoftheuniversitythatIneededtofocusonservice. I knew the best way to assess service was to ask yourcustomersabouttheirsatisfactionwiththeservicetheyreceived,sothat’sexactlywhatIdid.Isentalettertothealumnioftheuniversityandaskedthemwhattheywishedwewouldhavedonedifferentlyinpreparing themfor real life. Iwrote the letter inaverysincereandheartfeltmanner. Iwanted them to know Iwas new in the role ofpresidentandthatmygoalwastoensureweweredoingeverythingwecould tohelpourstudents.Wereceived thehighestpercentageofreturnfromanymailerwehadeversenttoalumni.Theresponseswere brutally honest, but you could tell they appreciated thesincerity of our effort. The alumni feedback enlightened us aboutthreespecificareasweneededtoimprove:themannerinwhichwetaughtthebasicsciences,thelackofbusinessclassesweoered,andthelackoftimespentinclinicalpractice.Withthevaluableinputofthealumniinhand,thefacultysenateandI went to work. We prioritized improving those three areas. Wedidn’tmakeanypromises;wejustimplementedchanges.Theresultswereamazing.Thealumni referred somany students toour schoolthatwebecamethemostfinanciallystablechiropracticschoolintheworldinthematterofjustacoupleofyears.Youcantransformyourlifefromchaostosuccessinashortamountoftimebyfocusingallofyourenergy toward servicing your clients. Put all of your creativity,resources, and time into bringing greater value to those you’reserving.Here are four things you can implement right now to better serveyourclientsandmakeanimpactonyoursuccess:

1. Reach out to them and ask what you can do to improve yourservice. They will tell you what they want and need; make thosechangesasbestyoucan.2. Provide time to connect with you and make yourself moreaccessible.3. Focus more attention on making your target audience feelappreciated,eitherbydoingsomethingspecialforthemorrewardingtheirloyalty.4.Committoimprovingthecommunitywhereyouliveandworkandscheduletimetodoit.By showing how much you care for clients, they will see yourinvestmentintheirwell-beingandbecomemoreagreeabletostayingwithyouandreferringyoutoothers.Caringforothersisamazingforthesoul.

Fab Tips for Service

• Figureoutnotonlywhatotherpeoplewant,butalsowhattheyneed.

• Communicateclearly.• Bepositiveatalltimes.• Acknowledge when someone does something right. Thank

everyonethatdoesanythingforyou.• Askothershowyoucanhelpandwhatyoucancontribute.• Admitwhenyouarewrong,andbesuretooffertocorrectthe

situation.• Givemorethanwhatisexpected.

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Rule3.DoWhatYouLoveandFindSomeoneWhoWillPayYoutoDoIt.

If you do what you love, you'll never work a day in your life.

-MarcAnthony

Growing up, I noticedmy fatherwas not happy. On the surface, itlooked like he had it all. He ran a huge company my grandfatherfounded.Wehadnicecars,anicehome,plentyofmoney,andhighstatus in our community, but things at home were shaky. As timepassed,myfatherdrankmoreandmore.WhenwemovedtoMiami,mydadretiredataveryyoungageanddecidedtoattendtreatmenttohelpwithhisalcoholism.Thankfullythetreatmentworked.Ineversawmy dad drink again.One day,my dad and Iwere alone in thehouse,andIwasfortunateenoughtohaveaveryauthenticmomentwith him. I was trying to decide what I wanted to study after Igraduatedfromhighschool.Iwasincrediblyexcitedaboutwhatwastocome,butInoticedthisseemedtomakemydadveryemotional.Iaskedhimwhatwaswrong,andmuchtomysurprise,heopeneduplike never before. He told me that growing up, he loved to playsoccer. He said he dreamt one day he’d play professionally andrepresentColombiaintheWorldCup,thebiggestsoccereventintheworld.Whenhe toldhis father, a businessmanwhohad foundedaverysuccessfuloliveoilandpastacompany,hisdadtoldhimno.My Italiangrandfather toldhimthatsincehewasoneof theoldestboys,heneededtocontinuethelegacyofthecompanyandworkforhim after he completed his studies. My father was crushed, hisdreamsofbecomingaprofessionalsoccerplayergone.Hewassenttobusinessschool.Oncehegraduated,hetookoverthecompanyformy grandfather. To make matters worse, my grandfather passedawayatanearlyage,leavingthepressuretosustainthebusinessonmyfather'sshoulders.MyfatherexplainedtomethatmovingtotheUnitedStateswasawayformymotherandhimtosetthestageformybrothersandmetostudyanythingwewanted.Theywantedustobe able to live our dreams, whatever theymight be. Hemademepromise Iwouldneverchooseacareerbecauseofsomeoneelseorbecause ofmy need formoney. Hewas adamant that I needed tochooseacareerIloved!My dad toldme, “All themoney in theworldwill nevermake youhappy.Whatmakes you happy is doingwhat you love every day!”

That moment was defining for me, bringing so much clarity. Fromthatpointon,Isawmycareerthroughthelensoflove;thatis,whatIampassionateabout,whatIfeelIwasborntodo,andwhereIfeelIcontributethemosttoothers.This, inessence, iswhatTheFabLife isallabout.TheFabLife isthelife you create based on your values and desires. Following myconversation with my dad, I had a dream that I would become adoctor.Inspired,IenrolledattheprestigiousUniversityofDallasandlater,atParkerUniversity.Ibecameadoctorofchiropractic.Successfollowedme,becauseIhavelovedeverydayofmycareer.Whenyoulove what you do, it never feels like work. The time flies and thesatisfactionalwaysoutweighsanystruggleyoumightencounter.Take amoment now to evaluate how your career alignswith yourpassions:• Areyoudoingwhatyoulove?• Did you decide on your career because someone told you it

madethemostsensefinancially?• Didyouallowotherstodecideyourcareerpathforyou,instead

oflisteningtotheinnervoicethathasalwaysknownwhatyoushouldbe?

A Gallup study showed that over 70% of Americans are doingsomething they don't love, and often, something they didn’t go toschoolfor.Why?Whendidwebecomepeoplewhoblindlyfollowtheempty advice of others? Perhaps this contributes to why so manypeople struggle with addiction from self-medicating, as society hasbecomeplaguedwiththeepidemicofdepression.Thisdoesn’thaveto be you. You can begin by reflecting on who you are anddiscovering what you truly love.Whenmy oldest son, Gianni, wasgettingreadytoselecthismajoratuniversity,wehadaverycandidconversation. I toldhimmycareerdidnotmakemesuccessful; it isthe depth of love I have for what I do that has brought me greatsuccess.Itoldhimthestoryofwhatmydadhadsaidtome,butthis

time I added another component. I told him he needed to choosesomethingheloved,thenndsomeonewillingtopayhimtodoit.Myprofessionallifehastaughtmethatasolidbusinessmodelfindsa way to monetize what we love. I have seen artists love theirvocationbutstruggletopaytheirbills.Ihaveseensocialworkersandteachers be happy with their chosen profession but unable to livecomfortably.Nomatterwhatprofessionyouchoose,therearewaysto monetize your success. Never compromise your self worth orwhat’svaluable toyou fora substantivesalary.Figureoutaway tocreateenoughvalueindoingwhatyoulovethatotherswillpayyouwell forwhat you’re passionate about. Happiness is not somethingwe acquire without effort; it is generated from our ability torecognizewhatinspiresusandtheconsciousdecisiontonurturethatpassion.Dowhatyou love.Make it serviceable toothersandsharewhatyoulovewiththeworld.Self-esteemisdevelopedthroughtheexchangeofvaluewithothers.I remember hearing the story ofH.WayneHuizenga, a youngmanwho found his love and passion in hauling garbage. Yes, he was agarbage collector. As he became successful, he bought other smallwaste management businesses, going on to build the largestcompany in the United States, Waste Management, Inc. He laterfounded Blockbuster and AutoNation. He became one of thewealthiest people in the world, just by doing what he loved andnding someone topayhim todo it.Andwhathewas interested inwas trash. Literally, other people's garbage, but he found away tomakeitprotableandhissuccesswasdue,inlargepart,tohispassionfor thebusiness. It’s time foryou todo thesame.Stop letting timepass.TheFabLifeiswaitingforyou,andyoudeserveit.Wheredoyoucurrentlystandwiththisrule?Arelovingwhatyoudo,but notmaking themoney you had hoped? Or is it the other wayaround? I want you to think about your current status ofemployment, and reflect onwhether your job is bringing you bothpeace of mind and financial wellness. My guess is you are fallingshortonatleastoneofthem.

Askyourself:• What are three career paths youwould love to pursue? (You

canincludeyourcurrentpositionifitisrelevant).• Whatdoeseachofthesefieldspay?• Isittheincomeyouwanttoearn?• If not,what paths could you take tomake your passionmore

profitable?• Howwouldyougoaboutpursuingthesegoals?• Willyouneedextraeducationandtraining?Howlongwillthese

take?It’simportanttodevotefocusedtimeandenergytoyourdreams,sothey don’t remain in the back of your mind. We all want to besuccessful and happy. Staying where you are and hoping for thewinds to bring change is not going tomake it happen.Write downyouranswers.Compareeachgoalandthenotesyouhavewrittenforthem. These are just a few general questions to get you thinkingabout what it will take; I want you to come up with your ownquestions and answer them honestly. You’re taking vital steps tobuildingyourFabLife.

FabTipsforGettingPaidtoDoWhatYouLove• Dosomesoulsearchingandlistentoyourinnerwisdom.• Findmentorstoguideyou.• Haveasupportsystemfilledwithpeoplewhobelieveinyou.• Identifyyourpassion.• Figureoutwhereyouwanttoendupinthelong-run.• Doitnow.Stopdelaying.Whatstepscanyoutaketodaytoward

yourgoals?• Keeplearningfromothers.• Bepatientwithyourself.• Bringvaluetoothers.• Inviteeveryonetobeapartofwhatyoudo.

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Rule4.LoveYourselfandOthersUnconditionally.

If you judge people, you have no time to love them.

-MotherTeresa

While in graduate school, I attendeda success seminar. I hadbeenworking on personal development and consideredmyself a spongewhenitcametotheteachingsofthegreats.Iwassoinspiredbyhowthese people created such a stable future and how they nurturedtheir passion and influenced the world. During this event, thespeaker emphasized the value of determining your life’s missionstatement, and I was taken aback. I understood the importance ofhavingaclearmissionstatementformybusiness,butformylife?Our businesses are extensions of ourselves, and it’s easy to findyourself living in disequilibriumwhen youdon't align your businesswith your life values. Before the event concluded, the speakerchallenged the audience to write our mission statement thatweekend.Iwassotouchedandinspiredbythewisdomimpartedonmethatday.Ichosetoacceptthechallenge-itwastimetodiscovermylife’smissionstatement.Whatwasmylife’sintent?Whatwasmymission?Iwenttomyroom,changedintomybathingsuit,grabbedalegalpad,andheadedtothebeachtostartdraftingmystatement.Weweregivenaseriesofquestionstoaskourselvesaswewroteourmissionforlife:• WhatdoIlovetodo?• WhydoIloveit?• WheredoIloseallsenseoftime?• Inwhatmattersdopeopleaskmeforadvice?WhodoIadmire?• Whataremydreams?• WhatdoIdobetterthanmost?

These were deep questions, most of which we have never askedourselves, let alone given enough thought to create a missionstatement. Most of us live our lives on autopilot, like a sail boatdriftingwhereverthewindblows.Weallowcircumstancestohappentous,never trying to change thehandwe’redealt. To liveTheFabLife, to truly change your life and regain control over your destiny,youmustfirstexplorewhoyouareandfigureoutwhatyouwanttobecome.I remember writing page after page on that legal pad. It was achallengetotakeallthatIwroteandputitintoasinglesentencethatwould define my life’s purpose. Imagine creating one sentence todescribeallthatyouareandallthatyouwanttobecome.Iwrotesomuch I had nearly filled the entire legal pad. Three hours later, Ibegan theprocessofeliminating repeated thoughtsandconnectingvariousstatements intoasinglesentence.Theprocessofnarrowingmythoughtstowardacomprehensivemissionstatementwasintensebut rewarding.Afteralmost fourhourson thebeach, Ihaddecidedonamissionstatementformylife:“tolearntounconditionally lovemyself, so Imay unconditionally love others.” Of all the thoughts Ihadscribbledonmy legalpad, thiswas thepurposethatcontinuedtospeaktome.Itwasasimplesentence,butthatisallitneededtobe.ItdenedthefoundationofwhatTheFabLifewouldcometobe.Ihad come to understand themost powerful emotion to raise ourself-esteem, the one responsible for building our confidence andallowingustotakerisks,makingusmagnetic,attractingabundance,andprovidingasenseofbelonging...isLOVE.This simple word, love, is one that has been familiar to us sincebeforewecouldevenexpress itverbally. Itsmeaning isunderstoodfromtheverybeginningofourcommunication.Loveisever-presentthroughout the Bible, and more songs have been written about itthananyother subject.Weunderstand the impact lovehasonourlives,butwhatmostofusfailtorecognizeisthatwemustfirstloveourselves with a love that is patient, nurturing, accepting, andunconditional. If you’re unable to love yourself, it is impossible totruly share it with others. I’m only human; I know that I am not

perfect.Nooneis.Yetsadly,manyofusbeatourselvesupforeverypoor decision and mistake and even the qualities which make usunique.Mostofusloveourselvesbasedonothers'evaluationofus,asthoughitisavalidmetricforourself-worth.Ifyouwerebornintoahouseholdinwhichyoudidnotfeellovedbyyourparents,it’slikelyyou’vegonethroughlifewithawholedifferentfeelingaboutyourselfandanunsavoryviewofwhoyouareandtheloveyou’reworthyof.Your perception of yourself will often be much different thansomeonewhogrewupinahomewherelovewaspalpable.Ifyou’vehadtostruggletoobtaineverythingyou’veeverhadandhaveneverbeenthepersonwhohasthingshandedtothemonasilverplatter,yourperceptionofyourselfmaybeskewed.Yourcircumstances,nomatterhowdiffcult,donotdefineyouortheloveyoushouldhaveforyourself.Itmaybehardtobelieve,butthemost loving people are often those who have endured the mostsuffering.Youhavethepowertotransformyourpainandturnitintocompassion. You have the power to help others surpass theirchallenges and become free of the negative attachments thatprevent self-love. Your life is an extensionof the love youhave foryourself; it determines your self worth. Your self worth is whatattractsallthatyouwantoutof life.Knowthatyouareworthyofagood relationship, not an abusive one. Know that you deserveabundanceratherthanscarcity.Knowthatyoudeserveacareerthatisthrivingratherthanstruggling.YourabilitytoloveyourselfiswhatdeterminesyourpotentialforattainingTheFabLife.Love for others is not sustainable if you’re not actively andconsistently loving yourself. Allow no conditions or expectations tolimit your self-love. I have spent every day of my life since thatmoment on the beach working toward loving myself moreprofoundly every day. I’ll be honest; it’s not always easy, but it isalwaysworthit.Whenyoubegintofeelapowerfulloveforyourself,youwillbegintoattractthegoodtheworldhastooffer.Iwantyouto take a vow, right now, to love yourself. Be gentlewith yourself.Learning to loveyourself is aprocess,but it isone challengeworthtakingon.You’regoingtoexperienceyourlife’shighestpotential.

We all endure challenges throughout life. Recognize and accept it.Showcompassionandlovetothosearoundyou;you’reneveralonein times of trial. No matter the circumstance, a kind word andcompassionate gesture will always bring light and positivity tosomeone’sday.Be thegood in theworld!When I firstbeganreallyworkingonlovingmyself,Istartedwithafirmations.WhenIdothese,I am invigorated with positive energy and intent that focuses mymindon lovingmyself aswell asothers. They remindmeofwhat Iwant to accomplish and that I am capable of achieving anything.Choose ten afirmations that speak to you and practice them firstthing in themorning. Bybeginning your daywith this practice, youwillfocusyourmindonyourintentandsetyourselfupforapositiveday.Lookatyourselfinthemirrorandbeauthenticwithyourwords.Itwillseemawkwardatfirstbutgiveitagenuineshot,andyouwillseejusthoweffectivethispracticecanbe.Herearesomeafirmationstogetyoustarted:• Iamagoodperson.• Iamworthyoflove.• Iamcapableofachievingmygoals.• Iamgratefulforanotherdaytoshowandgivelove.• Ideservethebest.• ThepeopleIlovedeservetobeshownlove.• Iambeautifulinsideandout.• Iamsmart.• I am an unstoppable force with unlimited love to give and

receive.Remember, these are just some general afirmations to give you anideaof how tophrase yourown.Use theseor comeupwith somethat are more specific to your passion and how you want to loveyourself. Just be positive and give yourself the love you wish toreceiveandprovideforothers.

FabTipsforLovingUnconditionally• Lovepeople,regardlessoftheircircumstancesorresults.• Beawareofthegoodandbadconditionsaffectingyourlove.• Focus more on the act of love (service) rather than feelings,

whicharetemporary.• Bemorepatientandacceptingofyourselfandothers.• Beforgiving.• Liveinastateofgratitudeforeverythingandeveryone.• Don’tfeedyourego.• Bewillingtosacrificeforthoseyoulove.• Lovetheunlovable.Peoplewhoneedthemostlovewillaskfor

itinthemostunlovableways.• Be compassionate and kind topeoplewhoare struggling, and

remember that everyone is confronting personal battles youknownothingabout.

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Rule5.PrioritizePhysical,MentalandSpiritualHealth.

Health is a state of complete physical, mental, and social well-being

and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity. -WorldHealthOrganization

SinceIwasayoungman,healthhasalwaysbeenatoppriorityinmylife. Interestingly, many people define health solely on a physicallevel(admittedly,whenIbeganmyhealthjourney,sodidI).Thereisa common understanding of the importance of consumingnutritional,well-balancedmealsthroughouttheday.Weunderstandthe importance of engaging in regular exercise daily. These are thetypical, but basic, recommendations regarding what it takes to behealthy, but the de nition should extend beyond the limitations ofthephysical.

Healthisnotonlyphysical;itiscomprisedofemotionalandspiritualcomponents. In my internationally bestselling book, The Power ofSelf-Healing, I wrote about the science that supports the ideologythathealth isdeterminedbymore than just thephysical.This freshperspective resonated with millions. It gave people the ability tooverhaul their health in more depth than they had realized waspossible. It allowed people to address components of their healththathadpreviouslybeenneglected.WhenIwasinpracticefull-time,Iwouldmakeitapointtoaskeverynewpatient to sharewithme the three things theyvaluedmost intheir lives.Lessthantenpercentofpeopleeverlistedhealthasoneof themost valued elements of their life.What three elements ofyourlifearemostvaluabletoyou?Haveyouprioritizedyourhealth,or do you allow yourself to prioritize everything else above yourhealth?Inmythirtyyearsofpractice,Ihavelearnedthathealthisthemost valuable thingwehave. Somemayargue thatmoney ismorevaluable, but I have interviewed millionaires and billionaires, andeventheywilltellyouthereisnouseinhavingmoneyifyou’renotingood health to enjoy it. Even the love of your spouse is not asvaluable as health. I’ve hadmany patients tellme having a spousewhoissickisoneoftheworstfeelingsintheworld;tofeelsomuchfor someone andnot be able to celebrate that love canbe a livinghell. Othersmight argue that your spiritual life and faith holds themost value, but no matter how deep your faith is, without yourhealth,you’llgrowtoquestionitaftersometime.Healthimpactseveryareaofourlives,anditshouldnotbetakenforgranted. When you reflect, I want you to question your currentbeliefs about what defines health. How do you think health isacquired?Doyoufeelasifyourbodywasdesignedtobehealthyorsick?Areyoulikemostpeople,thinkingofhealthasthemanagementof symptoms, or would you prefer to look for the root cause ofinstabilityorpreventitaltogether?For the first time in recorded history, we have a generation ofchildren not expected to have lifespans greater than the previousgenerationduetoobesityandotherrelatedillnesses.Thisisnotonly

sad,butcompletelyunacceptable.InmypursuittoliveTheFabLife,Ilearned I needed to prioritize my health. I needed to place anemphasisonahealthy lifestyleeveryday.Weknowweneedtoeatwell and exercise daily, but beyond forming habits,wemust adoptprioritized health as a lifestyle. Maintain an open mind. Explorenatural healing alternatives, like chiropractic, acupuncture,naturopathy, homeopathy, etc. There may be superior options todrugs and invasive treatments like surgery. While traditionalmedicinecertainlyservesitspurpose,somethingmoreconservative,lesstoxic,and lessriskymayprovideyououtstandingresultswithalowerliability.Have you neglected your emotional health? Do you find yourselffeelingdepressedoranxious?Doesyouremotionalstressmakeyouphysically sick? Do you feel angry and resentful toward those whohavehurtyou?Areyougratefulforwhatyouhave,orareyoualwaysyearning formore? Do you sleepwell? These factors can alter thechemistryofthebody,andbasedonnewscience,cancausemanyofthechronicillnessesthatrunrampanttoday.How would you describe your spiritual life? Do you believe inanythingbiggerthanyourself?Doyoupracticeyourreligionfully,ordoyouclaimaspiritualinvolvementonthesurfaceforappearances’sake? Do you feel your purpose? Do you spend time with nature?Nurturing a spiritual life will greatly enhance your physical andoverallhealth.WakeForestBaptistUniversityresearchersfoundthatmeditationreducespainintensityby40percent,whichissignificantlyhigher than morphine’s pain reduction rate of 25 percent, asreportedbyForbes.Inthe15-personstudy,participants’weretestedfortheirreactiontopainbeforeandaftermeditationsessions;everyparticipantsawadecreaseinsensedpainafterthesessions.You have the opportunity to shift everything in your life byestablishing health as your main priority. In order to work on allaspectsofyourhealth, Iwantyou to takesteps to improve ineacharea of health I’ve discussed in rule five. Carving out time andschedulingaheadprioritizesyourhealthandmakes iteasierforyoutocompleteyourgoals.

When you give yourself the gift of health, you will see unlimitedenergyandcreativity. Youwillnotonly feel good,butyouwill lookgood.Youwillbeabletoenjoyyoursuccessandwillbeinspiredtodomore. It’s time to liveThe Fab Life. It’s time to thrive. Choose onething from each of these three areas (physical, emotional, andspiritualhealth)tobeginexperiencingvitalitylikeneverbefore.

FabTipsForTakingControlofYourHealth• Walk1mileeveryday.• Workout3timesperweek.• Attendanaerobicsclassyouare interested inandstickwith it

foramonth.• Hireapersonaltrainer.• Meditatefor10minuteseachmorningtofocusandcenter.• Scheduleanactivityyouenjoydoingandsticktoit.• Plananeveningoutwithfriendstocatchup.• Investintherapy.• Attendareligiousserviceofchoice.• Readareligiousorspiritualbook.• Getinvolvedwithvolunteerworkinyourcommunity.• Takeahikeandsoakupsometimeinnature.

FinalThoughtsRule1.Liveeverydaylikeit'syourlast.Imaginelivingeverydaylikeit is your last day on earth. Your intentions, your actions, and yourinteractions would be a lot different. That is how you should beliving.Giveeverydaythepurposeitdeserves;youhaveonly24hourstomakethebestofit.Thisfocusesyourmindonachievingthemostinadayandgivingeverythingyouhavetothepresent.Rule 2. Focus on Service Over Survival. The key to living a moreabundant life is to focus your energy on serving. Money is a

byproduct of service.Work to serve others, not your selfish wantsand needs. This will provide satisfaction to your clients and showthem you care more about their well-being than the money theyoffer.Rule3.DoWhatYouLoveandFindSomeoneWhoWillPayYoutoDo It. Followingyourowndream is theonlywayyouwillbehappyandsuccessful.Youmustdecidewhatitisthatdrivesyou,whatyouenjoydoingthatyouwoulddoevenifyouweren’tbeingpaid.Ifthispassion does not provide substantial income, brainstormopportunitiestomakeyourpassionmoreprofitable.Rule4.LoveYourselfandOthersUnconditionally. It’s important tolove yourself. Themost powerful emotion to raise our self-esteem,the one responsible for building our confidence and allowing us totakerisks,makingusmagnetic,attractingabundance,andprovidingasenseofbelonging, is love.Wemustfirst loveourselveswitha lovethat is patient, nurturing, accepting, and unconditional. If you’reunabletoloveyourself,itisimpossibletotrulyshareitwithothers.Rule5.PrioritizePhysical,MentalandSpiritualHealth. Inorder toliveTheFabLife,youmustprioritizeyourhealth.Healthismorethanjust diet and exercise; however, those are major keys to overallhealth.Youmustalsogivetimeandenergytoimprovingyourmentaland spiritual health aswell. Schedule these areas into yourweeklyitinerarysoyouhavemadetimeandwillgivegreaterefforttothem.Without overall health, you will not last long enough to achievesuccessandhappiness.