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““Soul Mates”Soul Mates”

• “A couple who encounter their very first sex encounter together, mutually orgasm simultaneously, and their baby is born out of that time are truly “Soul-mates” for life.(a) and,..

• ..if that couple bonds with each other, falls deeply in love,...

• ….and is the happiest they have ever been in their entire lives – just being with each other are “Soul-mates”(b) and,…

• ..if as a couple they are formally ‘married’ and truly “equallyoked” i.e., of the ‘same’ or ‘very similar’ “civil-identities.”..they are life time “Soul-mates.” (a,b,c),

(IBID)

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Social Mores:Social Mores:

• …is a sociology term that has evolved -now-referring to ‘true’ social mores, consisting of:

• values…i.e., moral values expressed out/socially. • good social conduct – out in public –

– proper manners when out and about in society – polite social etiquettes in meetings– Standards/or customs within a neighborhood or public

• any social health habits that comprise behaviors that contribute to living a healthy lifestyle and pursuing happiness and longevity (differing

amongst different groups).(37)Social

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Social Social IdentityIdentity && Civil Identity Civil Identity

“Social Identity”• A person’s sense of belongingness to a

variety of important identified social categories/groups such as;

• Citizenship: a Nation • Residency: Location of home, etc • Property: OWNERship or co-Ownership in

Real estate, e.g., homes, vacation homes, office buildings, land, and may include motor homes, RVs, cars, boats, planes, etc.

• Profession: trade, vocation, skill, craft boards or unions, etc

• Education: Credentials, degrees, diplomas, certifications, and also documentation of registration and licenses, etc.

• Titles: clubs, associations, organizations, etc. • Socio-economic CLASS: Amount of money in

bank, in stocks and bonds investments, in bank notes and certificates, tax classification, etc.1,2,3

“Civil Identity” A term first introduced in Social Psychology

- describing a collective of features concerning an individual’s present

• Ethnicity: Ancestry/Language• Political party: Membership • Race: DNA features • Color: Skin • Religious: Beliefs/Membership • Disability/ Handicap: • Age/ Generation: • Sex/ Gender• Sexual (Pleasure preference)

Orientation:• Marital Status:1

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““Civil Identity”Civil Identity”

• Ethnicity• Disability• Mental• Physical

• Race • Color

• Age• Gender

• Political Party• Familiar Status• Marital Status• Religion• Beliefs• Creed

• Sexual (Pleasure Preference) Orientation

- Components of “CIVIL IDENTITY”

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An Example of “Equallyoked”An Example of “Equallyoked”

• Ethnicity• Political Party• Race• Color• Religion• Age• Sex (Male)• Marital Status

Sexual (pleasure preference) orientation

Civil Identity #1

- Sociology 101: “Civil Identity”

• Ethnicity• Political Party• Race• Color• Religion• Age• Sex (Female)• Marital StatusSexual (pleasure preference) orientation

Civil Identity #2

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Philosophy of EquallyokedtarianismPhilosophy of Equallyokedtarianism

Equal Rights

Separate but

‘Equal’‘True’ Equality

Three Components

Three Premises

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The Philosophies of Equallyokedtarians, 2001

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Beliefs: EquallyokedtarianismBeliefs: Equallyokedtarianism

Premise #1 – ‘Equal’ Rights– Inherently people --- everywhere --- all people are

considered ‘equal’ under and subject to the physical laws, the social laws, and even the spiritual laws.

Premise #2 - Separate and ‘Equal’– Each person is equal as an unique individual with a

distinctly different personal identity and set of beliefs.

Premise #3 - True ‘Equality’– Each set of pairs-pairing off as a couple – truly equal –

according to each individual’s own ‘civil identity’ (20)

Three Premises:

“The Philosophies of Equallyokedtarians”- 2001

Online Survey:Online Survey: Social Issues Social Issues

• Abortion– Medical/surgical killing of fertilized eggs/fetuses

based on unplanned for/unwanted/unloved baby.(4)

• Unequally yoked– Violation of social mores – An indifference to the

family ethics in community – matching by civil identity.• Bullying (public school)

– World majorities using lies and intimidation to racketlunch money of children and young teenagers.

• Disabled US Veterans– Mental and/or physical wounds from war trauma and

injuries unable to provide for family and support home

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(IBID)

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HappinessHappiness

• In a survey of couples – both equally yoked and unequallyoked-happiness ranked up among the most important thing in a coupleship values.

• The equally yoked couple scored better on periods, level, and kinds of happiness then did other types of coupleships.

• Also, noted was that couples who were actually successful at achieving happiness, did so, based upon the selection and choice of their coupleship (whether equally-yoked or unequally-yoked).(8)

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ChangeChange• A field project study of upper division students

on a liberal arts college-campus; inquired into the degree of ‘positive’ changed measured of equally yoked couples and those of unequally yoked couples after one semester.

• Equally yoked couples and unequally yoked were rated end of the semester according to the amount of ‘positive change’ that had occurred.

• The findings were simply that the ‘positive change’ rated significantly higher in the ‘equally yoked’ couples as compared with those in the unequally yoked.(17)

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The Equally YokedThe Equally YokedCoupleshipCoupleship

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Dx: r/t the “Unequally-yoked”

• Impulse control disorders and aggression– examined cases: challenge to sexually conquer a mate.

• ADHD (Attention-deficit/Hyperactivity disorder)– situational evidence: incidences of emotional sexual attraction.

• Brain injury: Major neurocognitive disorders– school age undiagnosed: coupleships formation.

• Anxiety, depressive, and bipolar disorders– adults: college age, & high school graduates pursuing a mate.

• Autism spectrum disorders (ASDs)– jurispurdence/penal authorities: report of gang related activities.

• High risk and self-injury actions– military school/military service: weekend pass/or liberty.

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PMAPMA• The prevalence of a PMA (Positive Mental Attitude)

within volunteer dyads (in the home) was the focus of research studies on one college campus.

• A mutual diary was place in the home of certain married couples – both/either equally yoked and/or unequally yoked and compiled after 100 days.

• The outcome was that more incidences of negative mental attitudes and less positive mental attitudes were recorded by those in unequally yoked dyads. Equally yoked dyads recorded comparatively more PMAs.(24)

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“…“…by a show of hands…”by a show of hands…”

• In a seminar on successful dyadic relationships with a rather mixed audience the presenter simply popped the question-asking, “…by a show of hands, how many here are ‘in’ or would like to be ‘in’ an equally yoked coupleship?”

• Almost all hands in the audience went up (…that was more than 98% of all in attendance), i.e., responding positively with a raise of hands.

• Generally speaking, within the academia community, the equally yoked coupleship has been identified as the preferred one the of choice.(31)

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““Presence”Presence”

• In a clinical dyadic study, emotional presence of equally yoked couples (volunteers) were compared to those unequally yoked.

• The degree to which the different couples felt emotionally connected with one another was measured* by calibrated psychometric testing.

• Both, ‘online’ and ‘face-to-face’ were included in the research. The findings were surprising to the investigators - the equally yoked couples measured only ‘slightly’ - not significantly - more emotionally present than the unequally yoked. More studies were suggested in the future. (15)

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Unequally-yoked Couples

• Reports of 50-70% without any insight, nor personal experience, nor understanding of equallyoked coupling/coupleships.

• Studies: reported individuals’ reading and math skills at about 3rd-6th grade levels-concerning equallyoked coupling and coupleships.

• Recorded: no unusual physical signs and yet seemingly sslower than normal in understanding what comprises an equallyoked coupleship.

• Observations: daily practical social skills in relationships and identifying ‘civil identity.’(4)

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““Love”Love”

• One study of upper division students on a liberal arts college-campus; the ‘depth’ of love was measured of equally yoked couples and those of unequally yoked couples all in only platonic relationships (nonsexual unions).

• Equally yoked couples and unequally yoked were scored at the end of the semester after all relationships had grown and developed.’

• The results were that the ‘depth of love’ rated highest in the ‘equally yoked’ couples when compared with the unequally yoked.(35)

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Is it Love Is it Love oror Lust? Lust?

• Marriage couples: a record was kept one school year (any year) of couple’s incidents of ‘lust’ vs ‘love’ and evaluated in order to investigate ‘lust’.

• Selected couples in study was based upon whether they were Equally yoked or Unequally yoked. The investigators target was ‘lust’.

• Each individual in the coupleship was asked to rate their sexual encounters/or potential incidents either ‘lust’ verses ‘love’ motivated.

• Investigators: Equally yoked couples scored less ‘lust’ events at the end of the study. Researchers plan to look into the ‘love’ more. (5,6)

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Equally Yoked Unequally Yoked

Trusting (hopefulness) Mistrustful of people

Sense of will power Skeptical/doubtful

Self motivated Feelings of Inadequacy

Sense of competence* An inferiority complex

A clear self identity A sense of role confusion

Sexual intimacy achieved Sexually isolated/unhappy

A sense of busy-ness Workaholism(a)

*Also, “Coupleship satisfaction” - The Equally Yoked pair rated the highest level of relationship satisfaction over all. Although both types of coupleships shared in

about the same level of ‘practical wisdom.’

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Therapy: Un/Equallyoked CouplesTherapy: Un/Equallyoked Couples

Coupleships: text assist with daily relationships.• Education: coupleship teaching and training.• Counseling: finding and maintaining suitable

gainful employment and career planning.• Readings/video education: r/t interpersonal

communication and dyadic relationships.• Group Living: an equallyoked savvy mileau. • 12 Step group support to solve dyadic problems.• Risk assessment: suicide ideation & pre-actions.(26)

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An ‘Equally Yoked’ Dyad

• An ‘equally yoked dyad may very well represent a well balanced close relationship architecture, however, investigators are in search of much more...

• Equally yoked couples play a major role in shaping, attitudes, feelings, thoughts, habits and lifestyles. Researchers describe how these close relationships effect one another and just how important are equally yoked coupleships anyway.

• Dyadic psychologists study how these interpersonal relationships affect ‘equally yoked’ and ‘unequally yoked’ people alike - looking at sexual attraction, bonding and attachment, love, marriage, and family life.

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