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The “E” in EARSWelcome to Week 2
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Agenda
Have you registered?
Review
Activity
The “E” in EARS
Small group
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Carl Rogers’ requirements for a good counselor / therapist:
• Congruence: Genuineness and honesty with the client
• EMPATHY:EMPATHY: Ability to feel Ability to feel what the client feelswhat the client feels
• Respect: unconditional positive regard towards client (meaning, acceptance of client – counselor must remember all people have the ability to grow!)
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Attitudes
UGREEN
• Understanding
• Genuineness
• Respect
• Esteem
• Empathy
• Non-judgmentalness
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Underlying Attitudes
HARP
• Hopefulness
• Attention to strengths
• Resources
• Positive possibilities
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Attending Behaviors
ROLE SET• Relaxed• Open, square position• Lean forward• Eye contact
• Silence• Encouragers• Tone of voice
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Not-Helpful Listening
Has there ever been a time when you told someone something and their
response was not helpful at all?
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• Habit: “You should do…”• Problem: Giving advice
• Habit: “Me too!”• Problem: Switching to your own experiences
• Habit: “You just want to have sex with your mother…”• Problem: Psychoanalyzing
• Habit: “That’s nice but…”• Problem: Disinterested
Not-so-helpful ListeningHabits
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• Habit: “You’re being an idiot.”• Problem: Judgmental, labeling
• Habit: “It’ll be OK.”• Problem: Patronizing, devaluing feelings
• Habit: “What did you say?”• Problem: Distracted, unfocused
• Habit: “I can’t wait to tell…”• Problem: Betraying confidentiality and trust
Not-so-helpful ListeningHabits
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Why is it hard to listen?
•WE THINK FASTER THAN OTHERS SPEAK
•IT DOESN’T FEEL “NATURAL”
•WE “FILTER”
•IT TAKES HARD WORK AND CONCENTRATION
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Why reflect feelings?
• Because when emotions are high we can’t think or solve problems.
• “I’m so upset I can’t think straight!”
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Why reflect feelings?
• When feelings are expressed and understood…
• emotions cool
• THEN problems and issues can be managed
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Word Game
Shout out what comes to mind when you see each word!
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Word Game
snow
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Word Game
pregnancy
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Word Game
eatingalone
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Word Game
divorce
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The E in EARS is for EMPATHY!!!
• What is empathy?• Let’s brainstorm!• What did Google image search come up
with?
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The E in EARS is for EMPATHY!!!
• Dictionary.com
• Part of the process is putting our assumptions aside and stepping into another’s shoes
• The heart of EARS!
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What is Empathy?
A work of the imagination, the
mind and the heart. Putting yourself in another
person’s position to understand what they feel - even when you haven’t had the exact same experience.
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Monkey See, Monkey Do
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What does empathy look like in EARS?
• Reflection of– Feelings
– Content
– Meaning
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A “Formula” to Try
You seem to feel ________ (use a feeling word here)
because _______________ (this is what happened)
and what’s important to you is___________
Now for a Demo from trainers!
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Build your own empathy statement!
“My parents are so controlling – they keep pressuring me about applying to med school.
I’m not even sure I want to go. I’m so confused. The whole process is so overwhelming.
I wish they’d just leave me alone so I could make my own decision.”
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Build your own empathy statement!
“I’m pregnant. My boyfriend just took off and I feel completely alone. I don’t have any idea how I’ll care for my baby. I’m so scared of not doing a good job. I want my baby to have all the opportunities I did.”
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Build your own empathy statement!
“Oh my God! I broke a nail, now my hands look all uneven and gross. This is so totally embarrassing – like, what if someone notices? That’s too scary.”
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Challenges to Successful Empathy
Being Genuine
First time use
Assumptions
Minimizers
Concise
Just as I thought
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The EARS Active Counseling Model
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Break Break Small Small GroupGroup
Last Name Last Name Leaders Leaders SpaceSpace
• GradsGrads Jayasri & LaurenJayasri & Lauren MPR1MPR1
• A -D A -D Alyssa,Joanna,RisaAlyssa,Joanna,Risa MPR 2MPR 2
• E-Le E-Le Saryn &PriscillaSaryn &Priscilla MPR 3MPR 3
• Li-R Li-R Jess & YuliyaJess & Yuliya Conf 220 Conf 220• S-Z S-Z Amanda & EricaAmanda & Erica Wendy Purcell Wendy Purcell
Conf Room Conf Room