The 4 Deadly Sins of Mentorship

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The 4 Deadly Sins of Mentorship

Chris@na Aldan, TEDx Speaker and Entrepreninja

@luckygirliegirl IAmAGoodMix.com

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My 1st Mentor

BeNy Chavis “Experiences are the sum total of who we are, but not of what we can become.”


So Who Am I?

They call me Luckygirl My job @tle is: Entrepreninja �  Founder LG Designs �  TEDx Speaker �  Chief Marke@ng Officer, PrayerSpark �  Trainer, Team Healthy Life �  Board Member for the Never Give Up Founda@on �  Advisory board member for SWCTA & A-‐Tech High Schools �  2015 Las Vegas Women in Tech Community Service Award �  2015 Dis@nguished Woman of the Year for STEM Educa@on �  Ac@ve member of the VegasTech community �  Former co-‐managing director of Girls in Tech, Las Vegas


What is Mentorship?

A rela@onship in which a more experienced or more knowledgeable person helps to guide a less experienced or less knowledgeable person.


Why is it Important?

•  Legacy •  Staying Relevant •  Avoid Mistakes •  Honest Feedback •  Long-‐las@ng Friendship


Expand Your Views Of Mentorship

� Meet 1-‐on-‐1 once a year for coffee �  Follow their @ps and sugges@ons by regularly following their books, newsleNers, blog and social media

�  Quarterly Skype call �  Different age, industry, gender, religion

Mentors guide you by teaching through their experiences


My Mentors

�  The Astrologer �  The Angel Incarnate �  The Nurturer �  The Genius �  The Writer �  The Lost Japanese Princess �  The One-‐Who-‐Guards-‐the-‐Portal-‐To-‐The-‐Earth �  The Chris@an (actually, I’ve got a few of these trusted teachers in my life.) �  The Yogi �  The Teacher �  The Buddhist �  The Jewish Chinese Medicine Doctor �  The Sicilian Mermaid �  The Businessman �  The Brain-‐Based Guy �  The Beatnik


1 TRYING TO GUILT OR SHAME MENTEES 2 DICTATORSHIP ≠ MENTORSHIP 3 MOTIVATING WITH BRIBES 4 TELLING THEM WHAT THEY WANT TO HEAR

The Four Deadly Sins of Mentorship


1 • Trying to guilt or shame mentees.

In business, It’s important to teach skills for good business acumen. Naviga@ng office poli@cs is not a subject taught in class.

Guilt Free Zone


Instead: Teach it, Don’t preach it!

Source: www.livebinders.com


What is EQ?


4 Components of Emo@onal Intelligence

Source: hNp://[email protected]/eq


1. Mindfulness of Self 2. Mindfulness of Others 3. Self-‐Management 4. Rela@onship Management

a. Build Your Tribe

The 4 components of Emo@onal Intelligence


Ingredients for Implemen@ng EQ

•  A Desire to Improve Rela@onships •  EQ Workshops •  EQ Trainings •  1-‐on-‐1 Coaching •  Prac@ce •  Track Progress


Help Them Build Emo@onal Intelligence (EQ)


2 • Dictatorship ≠ Mentorship


Instead: Mentors are guides


3 • Mo@va@ng with Bribes


Instead: Become a Talent Detec@ve

•  Uncover their best talents. •  Mo@vate using their passions. •  Remember, you are a guide to help them on

their career path.


4 • Telling them what they want to hear

Unicorns!Fun!Magic!Rainbows &stuff!

Help them step outside their comfort zone. That’s where the magic happens.

Our Comfort Zone


Instead: Be Honest, but be Kind

“Tell yourself the truth in the kindest way possible”

~Nancy Gabriel


Mentor Fa@gue

If you are the mentee: •  Be concise •  Be engaged •  Be proac@ve

If you are the mentor: •  Know your boundaries •  Set clear mentor hours •  Communicate clearly


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Overall: Mentors Inspire

A life well-lived is the best gift that you can give.


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