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Transcript of Teasing, Bullying & Gossiping Presenters Ralph Whalen, Students & Parents April 15, 2010.
Teasing, Bullying &Gossiping
PresentersRalph Whalen, Students & Parents
April 15, 2010
ScheduleTeasing: Two types
Parent Q: Good T examples?
Classroom: Videos on T
Classroom Bullying & Video
Books Gossiping & Bullying
What we do at TAS when kids TBS. (Mr. Rabon)
What can you do at home to help with TBG.
Kids’ Skits (9:00)
What to do when have a problem with TBG.
General Q’s
Future: Seminars & Book groups
Evaluation
Teasing (a friend)Cheyenne & Rachel
Teasing (Not a friend)Asher & Christine Bullying Maggie, Michelle, Anna, Ella & Anya GossipingJacqueline, Patricia & Charlotte
Student Skits
Teasing- Two TypesTeaser Person teased
Good/Fun
Bad
Good Teasing
Expression of affection
Form of play
Teaches laugh at self
Teaches non literal communication
Round Table DiscussionIntroduce yourself to everyone at the table.
What examples of good teasing can you give?
Bad TeasingAsk: Why is this person teasing me?
If a friend: Ask to stop.
Not a friend: Ignore/Walk away.
Don’t tease back.
Verbally skillful?
Why are these two teasing Frankie Flowers? 2:05 & 3:20
Why is this boy teasing his sister? 4:15 & 6:03
Bullying
Different than teasing
Different types
Solution: Power on your side
80% Solution
“STOP THAT, I DON’T LIKE IT”
80% Solution: Power in Numbers 7:00 & 8:25
Gossiping
Why? Power, Fun.
Gossiping hurts everyone.
If gossiped to…
If gossiped about…
Mr. Peabody’s Apples
Partner DiscussionWhat has worked for you as you deal with TBG?
Positive role models
Create caring environment
Establish limits & explain acceptable behavior
Monitor student behavior
Guidance UnitsGr. 3: TBGGr. 4: Conflict ResolutionGr. 5: Leadership & Friendship
Preventing TBG At TAS
When TBG happens at TASTake it seriously
Encourage students to solve problems if they can.
Have students talk to a school adult.
Complete a Values Learning Plan.
Model, Model, Model
Teach Good TMonitor home TBG
Teach assertiveness
Communicate
Preparing For TBG: Parent Role
What is the father doing correctly?
What could he do differently?
Bullying Video
When Your Child Reports TBGListen
Help problem solve.
Brainstorm support.
Have faith in your child.
Check back.
Should Parents Call the Other Child’s Parents?
NO!Why not?
What if the Problem Persists?
Talk to the classroom teacher.
Talk to the counselor.
Talk to the principal.
What Child Sees TBG?Responsibility VS Safety
If danger is involved, get an adult.
They canListenDiscourage RevengeUse TAS ValuesBefriend
What If Your Child TBG?
Listen
Give appropriate attention & power
Ask for help
Community Center
Handouts
Evaluations
Next Year
Final Steps
ThankYou
Most bullying is just kids being kids. Kids don’t do these sorts of thing intentionally.
FALSE
Most kids don’t bully intentionally, but 5% do.
The majority of bullying involves acts of physical aggression
TRUE
It could however be verbal or social manipulation
Adults are generally unaware of the extent of bullying among children.
TRUE
It usually happens in unsupervised areas and often very quickly.
10-15% who are often bullied don’t tell.
Children who bully others often believe the other child antagonized them and therefore caused the problem.
TRUE
Bullies may suffer physical punishment.
Bullies may have negative or indifferent parenting.
Bullies may have a learning disability.
Some bullies don’t read social situations correctly.
Children who are bullied are usually more sensitive than their peers.
TRUE
They may react more to a bully.
Boys and girls are involved in bullying at about the same rate.
TRUE
Boys are more directopen physical or verbal
Girls are more indirect gossiping social isolationmanipulating friendshipspopular girls often bullies
Bullying: What Kids Should Do
Can’t ignore it because it will get worse.
Loud assertive voice, “Stop that, I don’t like it.”
Get more power on your side.
Get a friend to help.Get an adult to help.
Kids are powerless to stop bullying among peers.
FALSE
The 80% solution
5% are the bullies
15 % are bullied
The 80% can help the 15% by stopping the 5%.
Gossiping: What Kids Should Do
Tell the person to stop. That you don’t want to hear gossip.
Ask, “How do you know that’s true?”
Ask, “How can we help?”
Adults can play only a limited role in preventing bullying. It is up to the children to change.
FALSE
Adults can create a positive atmosphere.
Adults can supervise effectively.
Adults can intervene and stop bullying.
Realize ages 8-12 is the prime time of gossip
Realize kids are trying to fit in
Teach empathy
Preparing For Gossiping: Parent Role
Model Social Skills
Monitor Home Bullying
Monitor Electronics
Model Anger Expression
Connect Your Child
Preparing For Bullying: Parent Role