Symbiosis and scriptTransactional Analysis

Prepared By Manu Melwin Joy

Assistant ProfessorIlahia School of Management Studies

Kerala, India.Phone – 9744551114

Mail – manu_melwinjoy@yahoo.com

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Symbiosis and script

Thus in ideal parenting, the

child’s caretaker will be

employing Parent and Adult

resources appropriately, while

still not discounting her own

Child. As the child grows, the

parent will provide him with

what is needed to complete

each stage of development.

Symbiosis and script

At each stage, the child

acquires more and more of his

own resources, and so has less

and less to lean on the parents.

Ideally, the parent encourages

the child in this appropriate

separation, while continuing to

provide support in the areas

where the child still needs it.

Symbiosis and scriptIn this ideal process, the initial intense symbiosis between child and parent is progressively broken. The final result is that by the time the child reaches young adulthood, both parties are relating without symbiosis. Each is able to stand independently, making or breaking contact at will.

Symbiosis and script

The trouble is that there are

no ideal parents. No matter

how good a job Mother and

Father make of parenting,

every child goes through the

process of development

with some needs unmet

along the way.

Symbiosis and script

This fact reveals the script

function of symbiosis in

adult life. Every symbiosis is

an attempt to get

development needs met

which were not met during

the person’s childhood.

Symbiosis and script

As always with scripty

behavior, the person in

symbiosis is using outdate

strategies in his attempt to get

needs met. These strategies

were the best he could work

out as a young child, but are

not longer appropriate in

grown up life.

Symbiosis and script

In symbiosis, the person

is discounting grown up

options. The discounting

is outside his awareness.

Symbiosis and script

Whenever we get into

symbiosis, we are

unwittingly replaying old

childhood situations where

we felt an unmet need.

Symbiosis and script

We once again set up the

relationship that existed in the

past between ourselves and a

parent or parent figure, and re

run the situation in an attempt

to manipulate the other into

satisfying the need which was

not met.

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