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i' PHD c n bt camd by any h subjw or multiple The violent, often 'grotesqu Becaust .the abm took:highly traumatic mnt. It is ~ t ~ o n a l i t i e s is: c b ~ p l t x and still nature or ritual smal abu t can a ritualistic stuing, any, i charaClJriud by flashbacks, ~ t g e l Y misundmtobd, There is 'leave the 'survivor with a view or, Of, rituals and cmmonie ~ a I ': i n t r u s i v ~ nightmares, tmotional uth contrmit;., among s e that wavers b t l W e ~ n tefror ' tnggtr flashbacks. No lu ivor ., r. I i I ' I lJ h d\ "i: d u a c h ~ t n t or dillOciation, and, prorl\lona s auout ow to define an, nausea, Some 'survivon i may ,should fom hwtlf to p rticipatts o m e t i 1 t s ~ survivor guilt, Smre Hreat HPD. Some therapim ' n o t ~ n o w what "normal" ' !'in chiJrchactivitiu that rt l IP H iSI ijpical fOr ritual abm do 'not considet this a disorder at (nonviolent) sexual behhior is, . painful. I"" llill not co fohablt

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