Supporting Yourself Though Change

with Reb Veale

Dealing with Change Positively

Defining Change & Transition

Change = the stuff that happens (new boss, re‐organisation, new job etc)

Transition = our psychological adaptation to the change (or lack of it)

3 Stages of Transition (William Bridges)

Endings Dealing with LossAnxiety, Blame, Fear,

Shock

Neutral Zone Transitional PeriodAnxiety, Confusion,

Uncertainty

Beginnings Setting New GoalsIntegration, Reinventing

Yourself

The Modified Change Curve

Circles of Influence

CONCERN

INFLUENCE

CONTROL

Stephen Covey

Defining Resilience“Resilience is the process of, capacity for, or outcome of successful adaption despite challenging or threatening circumstances.” (Masten, Best & Garmezy 1990)

“Resilience is predicated on exposure to significant threat or adversity, and on the attainment of good outcomes despite this exposure.” (Luthar, Cicchetti, & Becker 2000)

The Seven ‘Learnable’ Skills of Resilience

1. Emotion awareness or regulation2. Impulse control3. Optimism4. Causal analysis 5. Empathy6. Self‐efficacy7. Reaching out.

What do you need during change?

A Lethal Cocktail

DHEA cortisol

relaxation

adrenalinefreeze, flight, fight

Resilience – some questionsBenefits How might this experience benefit you in future?Choices What possibilities and choices can you see?Changes What will you stop / start / continue?Action Plan What do you want to take forwards from this

experience? Why? How? When?Learning Plan What do you want to explore further? Why? How?

When?Predictions What are your optimistic predictions about the

longer term value of this event?Priorities I will be disappointed, pleased, delighted if ...Re‐Awakening

This event has renewed my ...

Mind & Body = Same System

Thinking

Doing

Feeling

Cognitive(internal representations ‐processing)

Affective(internal

emotions ‐state)

Somatic (external behaviour)

Who pushes your buttons?

“The notion that others can make us feel good or bad is untrue. Consciously, or more frequently unconsciously, we are choosing how we feel at

every single moment”Candice Pert

Cause & Effect: C > ECauseAchieve Results

• Choice• Responsibility• ‘I Can...’• ‘I chose to...’• ‘I will...’• Can/Want to• Possibility

EffectExcuses & Blame

• Reasons• Justification• ‘Yes, but...’• Problems• ‘I have to...’• Must/Ought/Got to• Obligations

Cause & Effect: C > ECauseAchieve Results

Hold the Power

EffectExcuses & Blame

Give the Power Away

‘I’ve got to get this report done because…’

‘I want to make this report clear and persuasive’

Change and Me – Understanding My Impact

• Self awareness• Other awareness• Self management• Relationship management

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