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Not enough drops in the bucket!Budget cutsLack of material
resourcesLack of human
resourceAsked to do more
with lessESEA waiverCommon Core
StandardsEvaluation tied to
student progress
What to do about it?Run and hide????? Roll over and play
dead????
Run and Hide? Roll over and Play Dead?
Just ignore it and hope it goes away?
Or deal with it before it blows up in your face?
So Let’s Begin, How do you deal with difficult people?
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Generally, difficult
people will fall into
one or more of these
categories:
Hostile/Aggressive
types
Know it all
Snipers
Complainers
Quiet type
Yes, people
Negaholic
Characteristics
Bullies and
loudmouths
Intimidation
Territorial
Dealing:
Stand up to them Assert yourself
Redirect
Smile
Hostile and Aggressive Types
Characteristics:
I am better than you.
I know more, just ask me.
I am an expert.
Dealing:
Patience
Redirect/include others
Self confidence
Know it All
SnipersCharacteristics:
Sarcasm
Innuendo
Back stabbing
Covert
Dealing:
Overt-get it out in the
open
Confront-don’t let them
get away with it. FACE
to FACE
Be open and honest.
Complainers
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Characteristics:
Whine
Avoid responsibility
Martyr syndrome
Blame others
Tends to cycle
Dealing:
Break the cycle
Don’t agree it only makes them worse
Interrupt if necessary and take control.
Listen, what are they really trying to tell you.
Silent type
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Characteristics:
Avoid risk at all costs
Non-committal
Seek safety by refusing to respond
May respond with “I don’t know” or “I don’t care”
Dealing:
Ask open ended questions
Allow pointed silence
State what you are willing to do.
Tell them if they are not going to respond then you take that as an affirmative for what you want to do.
Agreeable—Yes, yes, yes
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Characteristics:
Always agreeable even when they don’t have all the facts
May be seen as “brown-nosing”
People pleaser
Over-promises and never delivers
Avoids conflicts
Dealing:
Ask for opinions
Make honesty non-threatening
Don’t allow them to over commit
Check progress
Negaholic
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Characteristics:
Often they have been deeply disappointed in life
May not trust
Pessimist
Lost locus of control
Dealing:
Don’t let them get to you.
Be careful it doesn’t become contagious
Give them success
Build trust
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Don't take difficult people's behavior personally. Their behavior is habitual and affects most people with whom they come in contact.
Don't fight back or try to beat them at their own games. They have been practicing their skills for a lifetime, and you're an amateur.
Don't try to appease them. Difficult people have an insatiable appetite for more.
Don't try to change them. You can only change your responses to their behavior.
If you don't observe them, do irritating people disappear?
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matter is actually
99.9999....% empty space
observation affects reality.
if you let someone irritate
you, or you let one
thought dominate your
mind. You continue to
carry something that
should have been set
down a long time ago.
And of course the
frustration you carry
around, the difficult
person probably isn't
thinking twice about. Why
should you be the person
suffering?
So what does this have to do with Special Ed!
You are the
Peacemaker.
We are all in this
together.
IEP at a glance
LRE
In-class vs. direct
service
Difference between
accommodations
and modifications.
Differentiated InstructionTerminology from general education.
AccommodationsTerminology from special education.
Different Terms Same Thing
Be FriendlyHave a little or lot of patienceListenDon’t gossipBe respectfulModel
Getting along with others
Get a Grip!
Try one or more of these
stress relievers
1. Exercise
2. Quiet thoughts
3. Laugh
4. Reach out to others
5. Learn to say no-don’t
overburden yourself.
6. Breathe
7. Get a good nights
sleep
8. Journal
9. Get musical
10. Seek counsel
Its all in your attitude!
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What does it take
to make it in the
educational
workplace?
Be positive
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Optimistic
Find the Good
things in life
Be an Individual
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You are not just
“one of the
crowd”
Stand out and be
proud of it.
Be Adaptable
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Just know that as
soon as you get
your schedule
made some one is
going to want to
change it. And
guess who will
have to be
flexible????
May not have
planned it this way
but work with what
you have.
Be Courageous
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Courage is not
about having no
fears, but the
ability to
overcome fears
and do what you
need to do.
Be confident
Collaborate
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Work together
Talk, talk, talk
Even when you
don’t want to.
Do it FACE to
FACE
Explore
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Explore new
ideas
Try new things
Don’t be afraid of
trial and error.
“If we know exactly where we're going, exactly how to get there, and exactly what we'll see along the way, we won't learn anything. ” M. Scott Peck, The Road Less Traveled
“The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled. For it is only in such moments, propelled by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out of our ruts and start searching for different ways or truer answers.”M. Scott Peck, The Road Less Traveled