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STRENGTH BASED RECOVERY OnePage Weekly Support & Downloadable Resources for Adult Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse One of the most powerful assets a Survivor has in recovery is a healthy self-worth. Unfortunately, this is something that our abuse and grooming often shreds into non-existence. Using a Strength Based Model in our recovery not only helps us build up our self-esteem by identifying our strengths, but enables us to utilize them to “supercharge” our recovery. Our innate and learned strengths are our “superpowers” during our recovery from child abuse. One of the key strategies an abuser uses in grooming their victim is to annihilate their self-worth. It’s difficult to control a victim who knows they are worth being treated well. When the abuser tears down their victim’s self- esteem they create an individual who not only doesn’t believe they deserve to be treated well, but perhaps also someone who believes they deserve to be abused. Often Survivors enter recovery feeling very badly about themselves. They often have a hard time believing they both deserve to recover and are capable of recovering. The beauty of a Strength Based Recovery Model is that it not only helps a Survivor recognize that they have strengths but that they have value and self-worth as well. Once a Survivor has identified their strengths they can then build on them in recovery. Remember, it is so much easier to build on innate and learned strengths than it is to eradicate unhealthy behaviors. Note: some unhealthy behaviors and coping strategies still need to be stopped, such as alcohol or drug abuse, but building on our strengths has a natural side effect of starving out unhealthy behaviors. (Building up the “good” instead of deleting the bad) An example of a strength in a Survivor would be showing compassion for others. Once that strength has been identified the Survivor can begin showing that to themselves, which they have likely not done as they didn’t feel they deserved it. But self-compassion can be very transformative, even if it feels foreign and a bit “false” at first. To utilize a Strength Based model in your recovery, follow these tips and strategies: n Identify your strengths, ask a safe friend or support person for help if you need it. n Identify ways you can use these strengths to help you in your recovery. n Practice using these strengths in ways that support your recovery. Build up those particular strength muscles over time and with increasing use. “Muscle Memory” applies to recovery as much as it applies to working out. n When your weaknesses or ways of being “less than” come into your mind, practice “shifting” your thinking back to your strengths. Do your very best to NOT beat yourself up or put yourself down for losing your focus, just gently redirect your thinking. Note: this gets easier over time. n Utilize your involvement in a safe community to encourage and reinforce the use of your strengths, both with them and with yourself. Remember, Bobbi & I are always here with you—cheering you on! This OnePage is a downloadable resource provided by Athena Moberg and Bobbi Parish of One Million Survivors, a future 501(c)(3) entity. Its contents are protected by © 2014-2016 Copyright Laws. Unauthorized reproduction is strictly prohibited. This resource has been made available in conjunction with Athena and Bobbi’s Weekly Live Q&A Podcast, which may be found on YouTube, RokuTV & other podcast platforms by searching for “Trauma Recovery University”. All entities mentioned, as well as The #NoMoreShame Project entities of One Million Survivors. Please see website for Terms & Conditions.
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STRENGTH BASED RECOVERY OnePage
Weekly Support & Downloadable Resources for Adult Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse
One of the most powerful assets a Survivor has in recovery is a healthy self-worth. Unfortunately, this is something that our abuse and grooming often shreds into non-existence. Using a Strength Based Model in our recovery not only helps us build up our self-esteem by identifying our strengths, but enables us to utilize them to “supercharge” our recovery. Our innate and learned strengths are our “superpowers” during our recovery from child abuse.
One of the key strategies an abuser uses in grooming their victim is to annihilate their self-worth. It’s difficult to control a victim who knows they are worth being treated well. When the abuser tears down their victim’s self-esteem they create an individual who not only doesn’t believe they deserve to be treated well, but perhaps also someone who believes they deserve to be abused.
Often Survivors enter recovery feeling very badly about themselves. They often have a hard time believing they both deserve to recover and are capable of recovering. The beauty of a Strength Based Recovery Model is that it not only helps a Survivor recognize that they have strengths but that they have value and self-worth as well.
Once a Survivor has identified their strengths they can then build on them in recovery. Remember, it is so much easier to build on innate and learned strengths than it is to eradicate unhealthy behaviors. Note: some unhealthy behaviors and coping strategies still need to be stopped, such as alcohol or drug abuse, but building on our strengths has a natural side effect of starving out unhealthy behaviors. (Building up the “good” instead of deleting the bad)
An example of a strength in a Survivor would be showing compassion for others. Once that strength has been identified the Survivor can begin showing that to themselves, which they have likely not done as they didn’t feel they deserved it. But self-compassion can be very transformative, even if it feels foreign and a bit “false” at first.
To utilize a Strength Based model in your recovery, follow these tips and strategies: n Identify your strengths, ask a safe friend or support person for help if you need it.
n Identify ways you can use these strengths to help you in your recovery.
n Practice using these strengths in ways that support your recovery. Build up those particular strength muscles over time and with increasing use. “Muscle Memory” applies to recovery as much as it applies to working out.
n When your weaknesses or ways of being “less than” come into your mind, practice “shifting” your thinking back to your strengths. Do your very best to NOT beat yourself up or put yourself down for losing your focus, just gently redirect your thinking. Note: this gets easier over time.
n Utilize your involvement in a safe community to encourage and reinforce the use of your strengths, both with them and with yourself. Remember, Bobbi & I are always here with you—cheering you on!
This OnePage is a downloadable resource provided by Athena Moberg and Bobbi Parish of One Million Survivors, a future 501(c)(3) entity. Its contents are protected by © 2014-2016 Copyright Laws. Unauthorized reproduction is strictly prohibited.This resource has been made available in conjunction with Athena and Bobbi’s Weekly Live Q&A Podcast, which may be found on YouTube, RokuTV & other podcast platforms by searching for “Trauma Recovery University”. All entities mentioned, as well as The #NoMoreShame Project entities of One Million Survivors. Please see website for Terms & Conditions.
