Social Media is Negatively Affecting our Relationships
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Social Media Is Nega(vely Affec(ng Our Rela(onships
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We live in an age of mul(-‐communica(on, where
“No one person gets personal a2en3on for long.”[7]
Image source: hGp://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:Cuddling_with_mul(ple_devices.jpg
-‐ Leah Eichler
Canadian Social Media Usage Percentages [1]:
59%
30%
25%
16%
Interna(onal Usage:
936 MILLION users Daily 798 MILLION of these are Mobile [8]
Over 47 MILLION users Daily [2]
500 MILLION tweets Daily [16]
2.5 BILLION Likes Daily 70 MILLION photos uploaded Daily [11] All Images via Flickr
Because of this, we have “sacrificed conversa3on for mere
connec3on,” giving us the false sense of closeness with
others that doesn’t actually exist. [15, 4] Image via Flickr
We are able to keep each other at comfortable distances, which known
as the Goldilocks Effect.
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We would rather turn to our devices over our friends for
comfort, advice, and entertainment. [15]
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“We are increasingly drawn to technologies that provide the
illusion of companionship without the demands of a rela(onship.”[15]
-‐ Sherry Turkle
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Social Media can effect roman3c rela3onships as well.
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The American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers stated that 66% of couples going through a divorce cite Facebook as the primary cause for marital issues. 81% of matrimonial lawyers say that in the past five years, they have seen an increase in cases involving social networking. [5]
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Why? • The expecta(on to have constant access
to our partners with smartphones • Frustra(on over not receiving full
aGen(on • Increased envy over Facebook
• Social comparison • Feelings of distrust/being distrusted over
Social Media
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“Partner-‐monitoring is the second most commonly
reported act on Facebook.”[9]
-‐ Rianne Farrugia
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As a result, 57% of users post pictures of themselves with their significant others, trying to add value to the rela(onship by publicizing their affec(on. [9]
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However, “connec(ng in small amounts online does not subs(tute for real conversa3on.” [15] -‐Sherry Turkle
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We “dumb-‐down” our conversa(ons online, even for important issues between our partners and our friends…
We either leave room for misinterpreta(on because we can’t physically read the other person, or we speak more boldly from behind the safety of a screen. [15]
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“We alienate the people who are important to
us.”[10]
-‐ Daniel Gula(
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“Facebook is meant to complement our
rela(onships, not be a subs(tute for them.” [12]
-‐ K. Jason
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on what’s important
is absolutely fundamental to the life you want to live.”[3]
“Your ability to
-‐ Alex Soojung-‐Kim Pang
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“As we know more and more people, [we] know less
and less about each of them.”[4]
-‐ Jay Baer
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Works Cited • [1] "2015 Canadian Social Media Usage Sta(s(cs." Canadians Internet Business RSS. January 12, 2015. Accessed June 12, 2015.
hGp://canadiansinternet.com/2015-‐canadian-‐social-‐media-‐usage-‐sta(s(cs/. • [2] "About Us | LinkedIn Newsroom." LinkedIn Newsroom. Accessed June 12, 2015. hGps://press.linkedin.com/about-‐linkedin. • [3] Anderssen, Erin. "Digital Overload: How We Are Seduced by Distrac(on." The Globe and Mail. March 29, 2014. Accessed June 9,
2015. • [4] Baer, Jay. "Convince and Convert: Social Media Strategy and Content Marke(ng Strategy." Convince and Convert Social Media
Strategy and Content Marke(ng Strategy. Accessed June 11, 2015. hGp://www.convinceandconvert.com/social-‐media-‐tools/social-‐media-‐pretend-‐friends-‐and-‐the-‐lie-‐of-‐false-‐in(macy/.
• [5] "Big Surge in Social Networking Evidence Says Survey of Na(on's Top Divorce Lawyers." American Academy for Matrimonial Lawyers. Accessed June 10, 2015. hGp://www.aaml.org/about-‐the-‐academy/press/press-‐releases/e-‐discovery/big-‐surge-‐social-‐networking-‐evidence-‐says-‐survey-‐.
• [6] "Company Info | Facebook Newsroom." Facebook Newsroom. Accessed June 12, 2015. hGp://newsroom.p.com/company-‐info/. • [7] Eichler, Leah. "Sorry to Be Rude, but My Smartphone Needs My AGen(on." The Globe and Mail. October 4, 2013. Accessed June 7,
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hGp://www.theguardian.com/news/datablog/2014/feb/04/facebook-‐in-‐numbers-‐sta(s(cs. • [9] Farrugia, Rianne C. “Technology and Rela(onships.” In Facebook and Rela-onships: A Study of How Social Media is Affec-ng Long-‐
Term Rela-onships. 7 – 22. Rochester, NY: Rochester Ins(tute of Technology, 2013. • [10] Gula(, Daniel. "Our Dangerous Obsession with External Recogni(on." Harvard Business Review. December 10, 2013. Accessed
June 12, 2015. • [11] "Instagram Press Page." Instagram. Accessed June 12, 2015. hGps://instagram.com/press/. • [12] "Is Technology Helping or Hur(ng Your Friendships?" Canadian Living. November 8, 2012. Accessed June 12, 2015.
hGp://www.canadianliving.com/rela(onships/friends_and_social_life/is_technology_helping_or_hur(ng_your_friendships.php. • [13] Konnikova, Maria. "How Facebook Makes Us Unhappy -‐ The New Yorker." The New Yorker. September 10, 2013. Accessed June
10, 2015. • [14] Smith, Craig. "125 Amazing LinkedIn Sta(s(cs & Facts." DMR. June 6, 2015. Accessed June 12, 2015.
hGp://expandedramblings.com/index.php/by-‐the-‐numbers-‐a-‐few-‐important-‐linkedin-‐stats/4/. • [15] Turkle, Sherry. "The Flight from Conversa(on." The New York Times, April 22, 2012, 1 L sec. Accessed June 10, 2015. hGp://
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