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Social Cognition
How important are first impressions? Do expectations guide behavior? Just how well can we expect to know
our partners?
First Impressions
We start judging people even before we meet them
Preconceptions Stereotypes
Male/Female Beautiful/Plain Young/Old Urban/Country
Primacy Effect – tendency for the first information we receive about others to carry special weight in our impressions of them
Initial judgments influence our interpretations of later information
“Hanna” experiment (Darley & Gross, 1983)
What about face-to-face interactions? Confirmatory Bias – we are more likely to seek
new information about people that confirm what we already think
Participants were asked to find out in the person they were paired with were introverted or extraverted (Snyder, 1981)
Participants asked questions to get the responses they desired (e.g. What do you dislike about loud parties?)
Participants did this even when offered $25 to be as accurate as possible
This leads people to feel overconfident in their beliefs about others
The Power of Perceptions
We often search for the ideal romantic relationship but ultimately end up with something less.
How do we stay satisfied?
Positive Illusions One simply considers his or her partner’s
faults as less significant than others might see them
This carries the risk of disillusionment But if we acknowledge faults and merely interpret
them benevolently, we may more willing to commit to the relationship (Murray, Holmes, & Griffin, 1996b)
Idealized images are associated with greater satisfaction
We may also revise our ideas of the “ideal” partner
Attributions The explanations we give for why
things do or do not happen
internal vs. external global vs. specific stable vs. unstable
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State of the Couple’s Relationship
Attributional Pattern
Partner’s Behavior
Attributions Made
Happy
Unhappy
Relationship Enhancing
Positive
Negative
Internal Stable Global
External Unstable Specific
Distress-Maintaining
Positive
Negative
External Unstable SpecificInternal Stable Global
Actor/Observer Effects We tend to offer different explanations
for our own behavior than we do for our partner’s behavior
Fundamental attribution error – people are aware of the external causes of their own circumstances but make internal attributions about others’ behavior
Self-serving biases People take credit for their successes
while avoiding blame for their failures People expect others to be self-serving but
do not see themselves as such
People usually think arguments are their partner’s faults
People who cheat tend to see their own affairs as less damaging than their partner’s infidelity
Other Relationship Beliefs Romanticism – the belief that love should be
the most important basis for choosing a mate
Individuals who score high on romantic beliefs tend to experience more love, satisfaction, and commitment in their relationships (Sprecher & Metts, 1999)
Many of the questions seem idealistic – positive illusions?
Disadvantageous Beliefs Disagreements are destructive “Mindreading” is essential Partners cannot change Sex should be perfect every time Men and women are different Great relationships just happen
(Epstein & Eidelson, 1981)
Expectations
Self-fulfilling prophecies – false predictions that become true because they lead people to behave in ways that make the erroneous expectations come true
Dave forms an expectancy about Caroline.
Dave acts.Caroline interprets Dave’s behavior.
Caroline responds, usually in reciprocal fashion.
Dave interprets Caroline’s response.
Snyder et al. (1977), U. of Minnesota study
Curtis & Miller, (1986), Liked and disliked strangers
Impression Management We try to control the information others
receive about us
Women will eat less on a date with an attractive man than they would with their girlfriends
Men and women will edit what they say about themselves to appear compatible with attractive members of the opposite sex
e.g. There’s Something About Mary
Four strategies of impression management:
1. ingratiation – we do favors, pay compliments, mention areas of agreement
2. self-promotion – we recount our accomplishments
3. intimidation – portraying oneself as ruthless or dangerous to get others to do our bidding
4. supplication – presenting oneself as inept or infirm to avoid obligations
Impression management in close relationships
We tend to go through less trouble to maintain favorable images for our partners over time
We know they love us, so there is less motivation to win their approval
We also just get lazy – it takes work to manage impressions and we relax among those we know well
How well can we expect to know our partners?
Married partners perceive each other more accurately than dating partners or friends
People who are highly motivated to understand each other perceive each other more accurately
Extraverted and more sociable partners are easier to be accurately perceived than introverted partners
People who are intelligent and open-minded are better judges of others
People may be inaccurate on purpose when faced with threatening information
People may try to change their partners to fit their own perceptions