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Amplify YourInfluence
DAY 3: HIGH IMPACT COMMUNICATION
Today’s objectives
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Guessing otherpeople’s types
Using type tocommunicate
better
Communicatingwith groups
Using coachingquestions
Exercise
• Based on your type, write down your keystrengths and key weaknesses
• Now try to identify which type or typescould help you cover off thoseweaknesses
• Who might you know that might be ofthose types?
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Typing others
• Working out someone else’s type is noteasy
• Remember that what you are trying toguess is how people prefer to do things
• But this may not be the behaviour thatyou see!
• So, it’s useful to guess MBTI and thenuse temperament to check your guess
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The methodWorking from the outside in and looking for patterns…
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E or I:• does the person get
energised in crowds, orneed to retreat torecharge?
E S T J
I N F PJ or P:• How punctual are they?• How accepting of others
being late are they?
The method cont…Working from the outside in and looking for patterns…
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• Do they prefer real,concrete, & tangible
• OR theoretical, abstract, &conceptual
E S T J
I N F P• Do they focus on the present or
past and favour the tried andtrue
• OR look for future possibilitiesand change
The method cont…Working from the outside in and looking for patterns…
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• Do they decide with theirheart or their head?
• Can they make harddecisions or deliver badnews?
E S T J
I N F P• Do they need to be reminded to
consider people’s feelings
• OR reminded to consider theprecedent they are setting?
So you’ve had a guess…
• Time to check against the temperament
• If you guessed N, are they an idealist ora rational?
• If you guessed S, are they a guardian oran artisan?
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TemperamentsRationals (NT)• Pragmatic, sceptical, self-contained, and focused on
problem-solving and systems analysis.• Pride themselves on being ingenious, independent,
and strong willed.• Make reasonable mates, individualizing parents, and
strategic leaders• Even-tempered, trust logic, yearn for achievement,
seek knowledge, prize technology, and dream ofunderstanding how the world works
Idealists (NF)• Enthusiastic, trust their intuition, yearn for romance,
seek their true self, prize meaningful relationships,and dream of attaining wisdom
• Pride themselves on being loving, kindhearted, andauthentic
• Giving, trusting, spiritual, and they are focused onpersonal journeys and human potentials
• Intense mates, nurturing parents, and inspirationalleaders
Artisans (SP)• Fun-loving, optimistic, realistic, and focused on the
here and now• Pride themselves on being unconventional, bold,
and spontaneous• Make playful mates, creative parents, and
troubleshooting leaders• Excitable, trust their impulses, want to make a
splash, seek stimulation, prize freedom, and dreamof mastering action skills
Guardians (SJ)• Pride themselves on being dependable, helpful, and
hard-working• Loyal mates, responsible parents, and stabilizing
leaders• Dutiful, cautious, humble, and focused on
credentials and traditions• Concerned citizens who trust authority, join groups,
seek security, prize gratitude, and dream of metingout justice
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Last reality check• We all use ourselves as a reference point… so is your
tendency to focus on similarities or differences?
• Are you over-emphasising how different or similar they areto you?
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Rationals (NT)10%
Idealists (NF)17%
Artisans (SP)27%
Guardians (SJ)46%
Frustrations
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Getting specific• When someone is frustrating you, try to determine
what exactly is frustrating:
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E-I
• Too loud/soft• Too slow to
respond• Won’t shut up• Talks too
fast/slow• Gives me
nothing• Doesn’t give
me time tothink
S-N
• Too literal• Not grounded• Scared of
change• Wants to
changeeverything
• Never getsspecific
• Can’t see thebig picture
T-F
• Seems harshor cold
• Seems soft-hearted andweak
• Forgets toconsiderpeople
• Forgets toconsider theprecedent orgroup
J-P
• Unorganised• Too rigid• Messy• Neat freak• Doesn’t get
things done• Takes over
everything• Always late• Too uptight
Adjusting your behaviour
• Once you understand where thefrustration is coming from, you can adjustyour behaviour to overcome it
• Often, all that is required is to allay theperson’s concerns that you have failed toconsider something they think is important
• Guess what? You probably have!
• So use their perspective to help youaddress that aspect and to communicatehow you have done that
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Activity
• Think of someone you have recently disagreedwith
• What was the source of the disagreement?
– Which MBTI letters do you differ on?
– What temperament might they be?
• What do you think their concerns might be?
• How could you adjust your behaviour orcommunication style to help?
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Elements of communication
Listening
Body language
Facial expressions
Tone
Prosody
Words
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Verbal vs. Non-verbal
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BodyLanguage,
55%
Tone, 38%
Words,7%
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The Three C’s
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Context
ClustersCongruence
Aristotle’s art of persuasion
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Ethos(credibility)
Pathos(emotion)
Logos(logic)
Ethos + Logos =True but uninspiring
Ethos + Pathos =Want to believe butdon’t know why
Logos + Pathos = Why should Ibelieve you?
Ethos
• What is your credibility?
– An ongoing process of adding andsubtracting based on your previousbehaviour
– Positional authority
– Different from different people’sperspectives
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Pathos
• What is your passion or emotion?
– Why should we care about what you aresaying?
– Do you care?
– Different people will care for differentreasons
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Logos
• What is your logic or evidence?
– Demonstrate your understanding and howyou know this
– Research, data, logic
– Different types of evidence will bepersuasive to different people
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Persuasion & Temperament
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Ethos(credibility)
Pathos(emotion)
Logos(logic)
Rationals
Guardians Artisans
Idealists
“It is the mark of an educated mind to beable to entertain a thought withoutaccepting it.” - Aristotle
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When you are trying to communicate, donot assume – ask!
Questioning
Find out what the foundation is, so thatyou can build from there.
Quality questions• Open ended
• Judgement free
• Seek to understand, not explain
• Frame positively
• Clarity & brevity
• Partner for solutions
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Exercise
• Pick a scenario out of the bag
• With a partner, work though how youcould communicate effectively to aresolution
• How could you open the conversation?
• What might you want to be careful notto do?
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Next session
Influencing othersTuesday 13 August
9am – 12pmVUSC Deer Park Campus
Coaching sessions22-26 July
19-22 August
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