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SISTER ACT: TRAINING TO FACILITATE
SIBLING SURROGACY
August 2014
• Elijah - 24 years old
– Breast cancer
• Eve - 24 years old
– Pregnant
– C-section with 1st offspring
• Acara - 9 years old
– Hand raised 9 months
September 2014
• Elijah-Breast cancer in lymph nodes, lethargic
• Workup within
48 hours
• Large mass in throat
• Unable to maintain airway
Acting Out
• Acara went through a long grieving process
• Fiesty, unpredictable
• Fighting with Eve
Fighting With Eve
Eve’s Pregnancy
• Eve difficult pregnancy
• Constipated, decreased appetite
• Maintained or gained weight
• Not comfortable
• Ultrasounds, urine collection
weights
Roller Coaster
• Tuah was born via C-section November 4
• 24/7 hand raising
• Eve passed away November 30, after intensive treatment
• Systemic infection, multitude of issues, adhesions throughout abdominal cavity
Changing Gears
• 9 year old Acara and new born Tuah remain
• Acara’s emotional needs
• Keeper’s emotional needs
Soaking It Up
• Aware of our behavior
• Allowing hair pulling, fussing, grabbing and biting
• Maternal behaviors
• Cork it
• Fix your hair!
• Where is your…?
• Show me something new
Get Your Baby
Stuffy!
• Get your baby
• Hold on
• Bottle
• Gentle
• Leave it
• Getting bored
Delay
• Everybody needs to be ready
• Risk involved
• Planned for detours
Intros
• Started at 2.5 months
• Initially hours
• Baby dangling
• Not always ideal/perfect
• Worked through issues
• Remained fluid
Day 2, 3, 4…
Go The F*** To Sleep!
• Struggled at nap time
• Needed her to lay down
• Needed caregivers to
move around
• Treats lost value
• Inventive – grains of rice, pomegranate seeds,
caps of juice poured down celery
• Captured “hook him”
• Acara feedback
• Tuah feedback
• Challenge of constant change
• Goal board-small steps
Get Your Real Baby
24/7 @ 4 Months
• Exhausting for all
• Behavior modification
Nap Time
Outside
Q & A