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SIBLING RIVALRY

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What is sibling rivalry ???Antagonism between brothers and/or sisters - physical fighting, verbal hostility, teasing, or bullying. Child psychologist, Syllvia Rimms sibling rivalry is particularly intense when children are very close in age and of the same gender, or where one child is intellectually gifted .

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CAUSES

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EVIDENCES

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Advantages of Sibling Rivalry

Improves academic/ work performanceCOMPETESERIOUSSUCCESS

1. SIBLINGS2. PARENTSPROUDSAVE MONEY&3. EVIDENCES:

SERENA AND VENUS WILLIAMSStefan C. Wolter/ Maja Coradi Vellacott ( Sibling Rivalry: A look at Switzerland & PISA Data)-Oldest sibling always being better in achievement than the rest of the family

Teaches them conflict resolutionTrain themselves to figure out the problem solving Negotiable & rationalExposure to conflicts-needed during in marriage2. Learn to accept win and lost3. EvidencesHow to Deal with Sibling Rivalry by Anthony Kane, MD -Sibling rivalry provides a safe and supervised space for children to learn how to resolve their disagreements with others.

A better communicator1. Sensitive to be on top2. Gain benefits from the parents/ outsidersDesire for extra attention

Strong individual characters

Bribe the parents with sweet words3. Evidences

MIKAIL AND JANET JACKSON

Disadvantages

Individual - High tendency to have serious emotional problem

Too much rivalry at the continual dominance of one child can result bitterness, fighting, refusal to share, toy stealing, and other exhibitions of anger and frustration.Alfred Adler suggested in 1959, the dethronement of the eldest child by the birth of a sibling is a trauma that initiates all sibling rivalry

Family break the relationship among membersSerious competition might result in bad relationship between sibling.frequent arguments and quarrelling in family. (Malcolm and Reese Wilkerson in Malcolm in the Middle;

Society - Psychological transference

the emotional response of the individual caused by one person is transferred to an apparently unrelated person.Example, a girl child who hates her new sibling is likely to feel the same way when she has her own child.David Levy introduced the term "sibling rivalry" in 1941, claiming that for an older sibling "the aggressive response to the new baby is so typical

last longer may exist for many years

Sibling rivalry has important effect with respect to behavior of a person in future.These destructive schemas and effects are passed on from generation to generation.When it continue into adulthood, there are increasing of ambivalence, competition, and jealousy.Example, in english comedy ; Everybody Loves Raymond adult sibling rivalry.

How to Solve Siblings Rivalry??

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SIBLINGS ROLES

PARENTS ROLES TO ENCOUNTER SIBLINGS RIVALRYGive space to the children.Be fair with every child even they have low capability in many aspectCoz,every human in this world need a care and love from their parentShare the problemm.Do not compare the achievement or ability among siblings but in the other wise they should be given their own goals.Iits mean, evry people have their own strength and ability. So, parent need to find it and set for their goal according to their capability.Plans family activities (e.g. holidays and games) to tighten and strengthen the bonds.Leave a work for a several time to spend time with family. Other than strengthen the bond between the children and parent, we also can dicuss and share about the problem in the family member.By this way, it also can reduce the sibling rivalry(www.thesiblingsolution.com )

SIBLINGS ROLES Learn to accept the specialties that the other siblings have.Try to accept other sibling specilities. However, every people have their own specialities. So, try to find it and prove it to our parent that we also have own specialities to be proud,kah4.. Improve the communicationTry to talk with your parent if there are problem occur in the family.It can avoid from sibling rivalry to occur.Be more loving and caring to each other.(www.indiaparenting.com/raisingchild/data/raisingchild367)Movie Cheaper By The Dozen