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5/11/2017 1 Sexy New Science on The Art of Loving Relationships Todd B. Kashdan Professor of Psychology Senior Scientist, Center for the Advancement of Well-Being Director, The Well-Being Lab George Mason University Email: [email protected] Web: toddkashdan.com 0 20 40 60 80 100 United States Yes No (Levine, Sato, Hashimoto, & Verma, 1995) If a man (woman) had all the other qualities you desired, would you marry them (commit) if you were not in love? ____ Yes ____ No ____ Undecided 50% 55% 60% 65% 70% 75% %“Very Happy” in the Marriage General Social Survey
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Sexy New Science on The Art of
Loving Relationships
Todd B. Kashdan
Professor of Psychology
Senior Scientist, Center for the Advancement of Well-Being
Director, The Well-Being Lab
George Mason University
Email: [email protected]
Web: toddkashdan.com
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Yes No
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If a man (woman) had all the other qualities you desired,
would you marry them (commit) if you were not in love?
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55%
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%“Very Happy” in the Marriage
General Social Survey
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Sex Partner
Therapist
Nurse/Doctor
Emotional Need Fulfiller
Domestic Laborer
Cheerleader
Teacher/Student
Resource
Provider
Family Coordinator
Best Friend
Pain point
Needs met
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Courage
Good Stuff
What assumptions guide
your thoughts on strengths?0
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Courage
Good Stuff
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Partner Strength
Questionnaire
Appreciation of Partner
Strength Use
Perceived Costs of Partner
Strength Use
Partner Big Five Traits
CapitalizationSupport
Partner VIAstrengths
RelationshipLength
StrengthUse
What are your
goals, dreams,
aspirations?
I will…
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Partner Big Five Traits
CapitalizationSupport
Partner VIAstrengths
RelationshipLength
StrengthUse
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Appreciation of
Partner Strength
Use
Perceived Cost of
Partner Strength Use
• Less accepting of
partner behavior
• Lack of
belonging,
competence, &
autonomy
• Intimacy
• Self-expansion
• Greater goal
support
• Frequency and
acceptability of
partner behavior
A Note on Independence…
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Questions?
Beefs?
Insights?
Email: [email protected]
Twitter: @toddkashdan
Web: toddkashdan.com
