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Stella Balsamini, 18Jordan Chester, 17David Guirgis, 17Gillian Hatcher, 17Spencer Jovellanos, 17

Adrian Lam, 16Jack McNeilly, 16

Alexis Pawlowski, 17

McKenna Pope, 16Shelsea Rodriguez, 16Michael Rozzelle, 18Svanik Shirodkar, 15

4 Staff TalksWhat’s the Sex, Etc. teen editorial stafftalking about this spring?

5 Web, Etc.Get the latest on Sexetc.org.

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6 News, Etc.News on young women with disabilitiesadvocating for access to reproductivehealth services, a study showing that beingtransgender is not linked to hormonalimbalance and rising rates of sexuallytransmitted diseases (STDs).

7 Sex 411Is it possible to masturbate too much? Howdo you start a conversation with your parentsif you’ve got questions about sex? We’vegot answers to these and other questions.

8 Our HealthAlexis talks with a nurse practitioner aboutvaginal health and what’s normal when itcomes to vaginal discharge.

PERSPECTIVES9 Family MattersYou’ve come out to your parents—now what?Gillian shares how her relationship with hermother changed after she came out.

10 Faces of ChangeMarcella Morales-Lugo is a member ofAdvocates for Youth’s Young Womenof Color Leadership Council. Learn whatinspired Marcella to change sex ed at herschool.

11 The SpectrumWhere do you stand on the importance ofvirginity? David talks to teens about whatvirginity means to them.

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18 #RelationshipsMike hears from teens around the countryabout how their past #relationships affecttheir current ones and whether there arethings they wish they could change aboutthem.

FEATURES 12 Learning From PastRelationshipsDo past romantic relationships affect howyou relate to a new partner? McKennaconsiders what you can learn from your pasrelationships.

14 How Our FamiliesInfluence Our Ideas

About Sex Did your parents steer clear of conversationabout sex and sexuality? Or were they opento talking about it? Adrian considers howyour relationship with your parents and whathey do or don’t say about sex and sexualityaffects you.

16 That’s What Friends Are For Are your friends people you can trust whenit comes to talking honestly about sex? Orare they the people who tease you for howmuch or little sexual experience you have?Jack considers the impact your relationship

with friends can have on your sexual beliefsand behaviors.

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Staff TalksRELATIONSHIPSBy Jordan Chester, 17, Staff Writer, and David Guirgis, 17, Staff Writer

David: For this issue of Sex, Etc. we decided to explore howour relationships with our parents and friends affect our viewson sex as well as how past romantic relationships influencefuture relationships. These are definitely important themes,especially as we start to navigate the relationships we alreadyhave and start new ones!

Jordan: You’re so right! One story that I really enjoyed wasMcKenna’s about romantic relationships. I love that she talksabout how we all deserve to be treated with respect. As shesays, lots of teens feel as if they were deserving of a partner’sless-than-ideal treatment, when that’s not true at all!

David: This feature hit close to home. I’ve definitely felt thatI wasn’t deserving of a good relationship. This mindset hasprobably affected the way I approach all my potential romanticrelationships. It’s so important to remember that we’re worthmore than the way an unhealthy relationship makes us feel.There’s a pretty famous quote by Stephen Chbosky: “Weaccept the love we think we deserve.” And this is definitelyrelated to McKenna’s article and applies to relationships ingeneral!

Jordan: I love that quote! And I’m sorry that you were made tofeel that way, but I’m glad that you now recognize your self-worth!

As I was reading the features, I really identified with Adrian’sstory. He talks about how his parents were very open about

sexual health and sexuality, and my mom has always been thesame way. Growing up, I knew that if I had a question I could goto her, just like Adrian with his family. My mom’s willingness tobe open has made me more comfortable about the topic, andI really appreciate that! I feel as if a lot of parents don’t talk totheir kids about sexuality—but they absolutely need to.

David: You’re so right that a lot of parents don’t really talk totheir kids about sex. My parents are pretty conservative when itcomes to sex. I guess that’s funny because now I’m writing forSex, Etc.! I thought that learning about this stuff was importantso I had to do a lot of my own research. Most of what I learnedabout sex came from the Internet and my friends. This is why Ipersonally identify the most with Jack’s article, which exploresthe way our friends influence our views on sex. I’ve definitely

had to sort out for myself, based on what I’ve learned from myfriends, what I believe. I agree with Jack that friends can be agreat resource for sexual info but that sometimes it’s best totake what they tell you with a grain of salt.

Jordan: I’ve definitely heard some weird “facts” about sex frommy friends. One of the weirdest was that the hymen is insidethe vagina. From my own research I learned that it is actually anelastic membrane that partially covers the vaginal opening. Thatexperience made me realize how many misconceptions peoplehave about sex and anatomy. One of my favorite things that Jack

says is how we need to surround ourselves with friends who willsupport us, whether we choose to have sex or not. It’s importantto let people know that friends are there to support you and makeyou feel good, not ashamed of your sexual history.

David: That part really resonated for me! I’m the virgin of acouple of the friend groups I’m in, and I’ve been lucky enoughthat I don’t feel pressured to do something I’m not yet ready for just because “everyone else is.” If your friends are judging youfor your choices, then you may need to distance yourself fromthem. And this goes both ways—try not to judge your friends fortheir sex lives, too. Sex is a big deal, and it’s important to get thesupport you need and deserve when navigating this stuff.

Jordan: It was really great to read the features stories in thisissue. I definitely gained a lot from it!

David: Same! I loved talking about them with you, and I reallyhope that the readers of this issue gain something just like we didand are inspired to talk openly about these issues with the peoplein their lives!

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