Session 2 speaking the languages of love
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Speaking the
Languages of Love
‘The Five Love Languages’ By Dr Gary Chapman
LOVE
TANK
Full =
Empty =
ضطك٤ چڜڙژچ٤
!ڦڷگۍۓۊ
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1.Words of Affirmation
2.Quality Time
3.Physical Touch
4.Receiving Gifts
5.Acts of Service
1. Words of Affirmation
• You have to HEAR it!
• You need lots of verbal affirmation if you
are going to grow
• Words need to be:
• Strengthening
• Specific
• Supportive
‘I can live for two months on a good compliment’ Mark Twain
You can verbally affirm a
person for:
•Accomplishments
•Character
•Personality
2. Quality Time
• You need undivided attention
• It’s about ‘togetherness’ not just proximity
• Quality conversation is important
For Quality Conversation you need good
listening skills!
• Maintain eye contact
• Concentrate
• Give positive responses
• Ask reflective questions
• Ask clarifying questions
• Don’t interrupt
3. Physical Touch
• You feel loved by physical contact
• Body language speaks loud and clear
• To touch your body
is to touch you
• Must learn
appropriate touch
Some ‘safe’ and affirming ways of
using touch:
• High five
• Hand on shoulder/arm
• Side by side ‘nudge’
• Back ‘slap’ or rub
Guidelines:
• If the person draws away – back off and
give them space
• Leave a way of ‘escape’
• Keep touches brief
• Don’t be rough
• Don’t touch bare skin
4. Receiving Gifts
• Love is felt in the receiving of gifts
• Gifts are visual symbols of love
• Not the intrinsic value that
counts, but the fact that
someone cared enough to
think of you
5. Acts of Service
• ‘Actions speak louder than words’
• You will feel loved when someone
gives you practical help
• It’s the emotional assurance of
being valued that is sought when
you ask for help
Some Cautions:
• Don’t use love languages manipulatively
• Try not to love another person using
YOUR love language rather than THEIRS
• A person will tend to criticize in the area
they have the biggest emotional need
(note: This can be a clue to their love
language)
• If in doubt – ASK!!