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Self-ManagementSelf-Management
A Classic TestA Classic Test
Candy tableCandy table
Grabbers Waiters
• Did not handle stress well, • Became more easily irritated• Picked fights more often • Less able to resist temptation
• Better capacity to pursue their goals • Scored significantly higher on key academic tests• Had a more promising future• Better able to develop close relationships, • Were more dependable • Were more responsible • Showed better self-control
• Were less cognitively adept • Strikingly less emotionally competent. • More likely to be loners • Responded to pressure with less flexibility
What is Self-Management?What is Self-Management?
Identifying and understanding my feelings, thoughts and attitudes.
Handling my emotions so that they facilitate rather than interfere with the pursuit of my goals and values.
Being able to delay gratification to achieve meaningful objectives.
Identifying and understanding my feelings, thoughts and attitudes.
Handling my emotions so that they facilitate rather than interfere with the pursuit of my goals and values.
Being able to delay gratification to achieve meaningful objectives.
EQ CompetenciesEQ Competencies
Self-Awareness Self-Managemen
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Social Awareness
Social Skills
Emotional Awareness
Self-Control Empathy Communication
Self-Assessment
Transparency
Understanding Others
Building Bonds
Confidence Adaptability Serving Resolving Conflict
Initiative Developing Others
Influence
Optimism Organizational
Awareness
Teamwork
Leadership
Change Agent
1. Self-Control1. Self-Control
Mike Tyson’s embarrassing moment
Mike Tyson’s embarrassing moment
Self-ControlSelf-Control
The ability to: Resist or delay a
drive or temptation to act
Be composed in emotionally charged situations
Understand what causes aggressive or negative emotions and behavior
Tolerate frustration
The ability to: Resist or delay a
drive or temptation to act
Be composed in emotionally charged situations
Understand what causes aggressive or negative emotions and behavior
Tolerate frustration
Resists: Anger Abusiveness Unpredictable or
explosive behavior
Resists: Anger Abusiveness Unpredictable or
explosive behavior
Self-Control: DiscussionSelf-Control: Discussion
Discuss how you would handle one of the following situations:
While waiting in line to get on a bus, someone accidentally knocks your bag of groceries on the ground.
After being roommates for 7 months, your roommate tells you that she always has thought you are very lazy.
A member of the team for your class project fails to do his part of the project that is due in class the next day.
Discuss how you would handle one of the following situations:
While waiting in line to get on a bus, someone accidentally knocks your bag of groceries on the ground.
After being roommates for 7 months, your roommate tells you that she always has thought you are very lazy.
A member of the team for your class project fails to do his part of the project that is due in class the next day.
2. Transparency and Integrity
2. Transparency and Integrity
Definition:Having the emotional courage (and
freedom) to appropriately share your thoughts, feelings and attitudes with others.
Living out in your words and actions the truth of your inner feelings, thoughts and values.
Definition:Having the emotional courage (and
freedom) to appropriately share your thoughts, feelings and attitudes with others.
Living out in your words and actions the truth of your inner feelings, thoughts and values.
2. Transparency - Integrity2. Transparency - Integrity
Group Discussion:
What does integrity look like?
Group Discussion:
What does integrity look like?
Group Discussion:
What does a lack of integrity look like?
Group Discussion:
What does a lack of integrity look like?
Results of Transparency and Integrity
Results of Transparency and Integrity
Builds trustCreates a sense of inner peace Provides courage to speak out when
you see unethical behavior
Builds trustCreates a sense of inner peace Provides courage to speak out when
you see unethical behavior
3. Adaptability3. Adaptability
Andre Grove, born in Budapest, chairman of Intel
3. Adaptability3. Adaptability
The ability to respond to change:
By assessing difficult situationsBy effectively handling the
emotional situation so that you can focus on solving problems and conflicts
By identifying and implementing effective solutions
The ability to respond to change:
By assessing difficult situationsBy effectively handling the
emotional situation so that you can focus on solving problems and conflicts
By identifying and implementing effective solutions
Adaptability: Self-Reflection
Adaptability: Self-Reflection
Look at the Adaptability Exercise in your notebook.
Answer each question with always, usually, sometimes, infrequently, never.
Look at the Adaptability Exercise in your notebook.
Answer each question with always, usually, sometimes, infrequently, never.
4. Initiative4. Initiative
The ability to:Overcome fear and inertiaStand firm for what is right -
courageTake the first action stepPersevere – to keep on going
The ability to:Overcome fear and inertiaStand firm for what is right -
courageTake the first action stepPersevere – to keep on going
Levi StraussLevi Strauss
5. Optimism5. Optimism
The ability to:Look at the positive side of lifeMaintain hope in the futurePersistence in pursuing goals
despite obstacles and setbacks Seeing setbacks as part of the
learning process rather than a personal flaw
Not an unrealistic world of denial or empty faith
The ability to:Look at the positive side of lifeMaintain hope in the futurePersistence in pursuing goals
despite obstacles and setbacks Seeing setbacks as part of the
learning process rather than a personal flaw
Not an unrealistic world of denial or empty faith
Things to Understand to Succeed in Self-Management
Things to Understand to Succeed in Self-Management
People only change if they want to Change often requires a “wakeup
call” You must first have strong image
of your ideal self or where you’re going (purpose)
People only change if they want to Change often requires a “wakeup
call” You must first have strong image
of your ideal self or where you’re going (purpose)
Self management & Classic stories
Self management & Classic stories