Self Esteem, Stress, and Anger Management

Describing PersonalityYour attitudes, behaviors, feelings and ways

of thinking. Psychologists use 5 central traits to describe personality:

ConscientiousnessAgreeablenessEmotional Stability/NeuroticismOpenness to Experiences

Extroversion (McCrae & Costa)

How Does Personality Form?Write some ideas down now….

How Does Personality Form?HeredityEnvironment

Family (modeling)Friends (peer group)Culture

Stages of PersonalityStages of Personality Development (Erikson)

Develop trustLearn to be independent

Take initiative Develop skills

Search for identityEstablish intimacyCreate and nurtureLook back with acceptance

Self-EsteemWhat is self-esteem?How can you develop and improve your self-esteem?

Write some ideas down now…..

Self-EsteemHow much you respect yourself and like

yourselfHow does self-esteem develop?What are the benefits of high self-esteem?What are the risks of low self-esteem?How do you boost your self esteem?

Improving Self-EsteemMaintain a positive attitude (“don’t be too

hard on yourself!”)Focus on your strengths and build on themIdentify areas of weakness but strive to

improve on themRely on your own valuesLearn to accept complimentsLook beyond your own concerns- volunteer!

Improving Self-EsteemForm close relationshipsSet ambitious but realistic goals for

yourselfAvoid risky behaviorsAsk for helpDo not focus too much on appearance

Barbie: Then and Now

If Barbie were a real woman….

Twiggy and the 60’s

How thin is thin enough?

Brittany Murphy

Is our sense of beauty distorted?http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iYhCn0jf46

U“DOVE Evolution” Dove Commercial

Self-Esteem Videospart1 - Self Esteem for Teens - La Belle

Foundation/VisionEars.comhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Godz1G-

SYLM

part2 - Self Esteem for teens http://www.youtube.com/watch?

v=YAlZIuUTrhA&feature=related

Body Image and Self Esteem

Body Image and Self Esteem

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gC9g-1MJdE4&feature=related

11 Facts - Body Image

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=31Ajvix6DXs&feature=fvwrel

You Tube: Keep Her in the Game

Media Effects -Body Imagehttp://www.youtube.com/watch?

v=qLCKJe8KEgY&feature=related http://www.youtube.com/watch?

v=b6XfMtaw8aU&feature=fvw http://www.youtube.com/watch?

v=L_aDpmfAzxI&feature=related DOVE commercial

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3o-fEsTMlq0&feature=related Lindsay Lohan photoshop

Exploring Our EmotionsPrimary Emotions include:HappinessSadnessAngerFearSecondary (Learned) Emotions include:LoveGuild and Shame

Coping with Emotions: Defense MechanismsDenialCompensationRationalizationReaction formationProjectionRegression

Helpful Ways of CopingWrite some ideas down now…

Helpful Ways of CopingConfront the situation head-onRelease build-up energy by exercising

or being active in some other wayTake a break: read a book, listen to

music, etc.Talk through your feelings with a friend,

counselor or other trusted personAvoid harmful ways of coping!

Why Do We Get Angry?What makes you angry? Write down some ideas here….

Why do we get angry?Frustration of our goals Hurt Harassment Personal attack (mental or physical) on ourselves

Threat to people, things or ideas that we hold dear

How Do You Control Your Anger?Write down some ideas here….

Anger ManagementStep 1: Maintain a “Hostility Log”

Step 2: If you do, acknowledge that you have a problem managing anger

Step 3: Use your support network

Step 4: Use Anger Management techniques to interrupt the anger cycle

Pause Take deep breaths Tell your self you can handle the situation Stop the negative thoughts

Anger Management….Step 5: Use empathy

Step 6: Laugh at yourself

Step 7: Relax

Step 8: Build Trust

Step 9: Listen

Anger Management…Step 10: Be Assertive

Step 11: Live each day as if it is your last

Step 12: Forgive

Stress Management Activity:On the paper provided, write something that

“stresses” you.Then crinkle the sheet into a ball and throw it

toward the front of the roomCrinkle another piece of blank paper and

throw it toward the front of the roomOne at a time, each student will come forward

and read one of the papers “anonymously.”What do you think?