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Transcript of Self-Confidence T@7Packet
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A warm welcome from us!
From the quietly confident doctor whose advice we rely on to the captivating
confidence of an inspiring speaker, self-confident people have qualities that everyone
admires.
Your level of self-confidence manifests in many different ways through behavior, body
language, the way you speak and/or what you say, and so on …
Self-confidence is important in almost every facet of life and thus, people who lack
self-confidence may struggle in their career and personal life.
The good news is that self-confidence can be learned and built on. So whether you’re
working on your own confidence or building the confidence of people around you, it’s
well-worth the effort!
… and if self-confidence is what you are willing to learn and/or
build, we welcome you to our Tuesday-@-7 Workshop!
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What does self-confidence mean?
First, how about you come up with your definition first?
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Are there any common themes between you and friends around you? Any connections?
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Our personal shield
The Knights and Warriors are those who would carry their shield to battle with them,
as a means of defending themselves against different forms of enemy attack. Often
the shape, style, and what it was made of, defined the origins of its owner. They were
then personalized further with coats of arms and pictures depicting their
identity. Analogously, the way that we are about to use the personal shield is all about
discovering and portraying our real identity.
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Now after choosing your favorite shield, we would like you to answer all of these
questions in each of those sections of your shield …
My greatest achievement
My greatest character strength
The worst put-down I have ever gotten
Three words/phrases I wouldn’t want my friends to say about me
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Before we give away our 1st gift to you …
If you don’t mind, may you please share with us who is the most special person in this
whole world to you?
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Well, we have a gift with us today and you can look at it to discover the most special
person in the world. After that, would you like to share with us who is it this time?
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Why is it never a case where we see ourselves as the most important in the world?
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How is it possible to “love the small child inside” each of us?
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Our final gift for you :)
1. Make three lists: (1) your strengths, (2) your achievements, and (3) the things that you admire
about yourself. Try to get a friend or relative to help you with these lists. Keep the lists in a safe
place and read through them regularly.
2. Think positively about yourself. Remind yourself that, despite your problems, you are a unique,
special, and valuable person, and that you deserve to feel good about yourself. Identify and
challenge any negative thoughts that you may have about yourself, such as ‘I am a loser’, ‘I never
do anything right’, or ‘No one really likes me’.
3. Pay special attention to your personal hygiene: for example, style your hair, trim your nails, floss
your teeth.
4. Dress in clothes that make you feel good about yourself.
5. Eat good food as part of a healthy, balanced diet. Make meal times a special time, even if you
are eating alone. Turn off the TV or radio, set the table, and arrange your food so that it looks
attractive on your plate.
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6. Exercise regularly: go out for a brisk walk every day, and take more vigorous exercise (exercise
that makes you break into a sweat) three times a week.
7. Ensure that you are getting enough sleep.
8. Manage your stress levels. If possible, agree with a close friend or relative that you will take
turns to massage each other on a regular basis.
9. Make your living space clean, comfortable, and attractive. Display items that remind you of your
achievements or of the special times and people in your life.
10. Do more of the things that you enjoy doing. Do at least one thing that you enjoy every day, and
remind yourself that you deserve it.
11. Get involved in activities such as painting, music, poetry, and dance. Such artistic activities
enable you to express yourself, acquire a sense of mastery, and interact positively with others.
Find a class through your local adult education service or community center.
12. Set yourself a challenge that you can realistically achieve, and then go for it! For example, take
up yoga, learn to sing, or cook for a small dinner party at your apartment or house.
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13. Do some of the things that you have been putting off, such as clearing out the garden, washing
the windows, or filing the paperwork.
14. Do something nice for others. For example, strike up a conversation with the person at the till,
visit a friend who is sick, or get involved with a local charity.
15. Get others involved: tell your friends and relatives what you are going through and enlist their
advice and support. Perhaps they have similar problems too, in which case you might be able to
band up and form a support group.
16. Try to spend more time with those you hold near and dear. At the same time, try to enlarge
your social circle by making an effort to meet people.
17. On the other hand, avoid people, places, and institutions that treat you badly or that make you
feel bad about yourself. This could mean being more assertive. If assertiveness is a problem for
you, ask a healthcare professional about assertiveness training.
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Coming to a close …
Confidence is a feeling.
It's stemmed from thinking.
It's not static.
It's never fixed.
The levels of confidence we have at
different times can go up and down.
Look at how your confidence was created,
how it may have got lost, and what you can start doing to reclaim it back, and build it
for real!
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Where can I find more help?
The Counseling Center 610 E John St
Champaign, IL 61820 (217) 333-3704
http://www.counselingcenter.uiuc.edu/
McKinley Health Center 1109 S Lincoln
Ave, Urbana, IL 61820 (217) 333-2701
http://www.mckinley.illinois.edu/
Wellness Center 201 E Peabody Drive,
Champaign, IL 61820 (217) 265-9355
http://www.campusrec.illinois.edu/wellne
sscenter/
Leadership Center 1401 W Green St
#290, Urbana, IL 61801 (217) 333-0604
http://www.illinoisleadership.uiuc.edu/
Office of Inclusion & Intercultural
Relations 120 Swanlund Administration
Building - 601 E John Street Champaign,
IL 61820 Tel: (217) 333-1300
http://www.oiir.illinois.edu
Office for Student Conflict Resolution
300 Turner Student Services Building,
Champaign, IL 61820 (217) 333-3680
http://www.conflictresolution.illinois.edu
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Women’s Resources Center 703 S.
Wright St., 2nd Floor, Champaign, IL
61820 Tel: (217) 333-3137
http://oiir.illinois.edu/womens-center
LGBT Resources Center 616 E Green
Street, Ste. 212 (temporary location),
Urbana, IL 61820 Tel: (217) 244-8863
http://oiir.illinois.edu/lgbt-resource-
center
Asian American Cultural Center 1210
West Nevada Street, Urbana, IL 61801
Tel: (217) 333-9300
http://oiir.illinois.edu/aacc
Bruce D. Nesbitt African American
Cultural Center 708 S Matthews St.
Urbana, IL 61801 Tel: (217) 333-2092
http://go.illinois.edu/BNAACC
La Casa Cultural Latina 1203 West
Nevada Street, Urbana, IL 61801
Tel: (217/) 244-4513
http://oiir.illinois.edu/la-casa-cultural-
latina
Native American House 1206 West
Nevada Street Urbana, IL 61801
Tel: (217) 265-0632
http://oiir.illinois.edu/native-american-
house
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