School Violence Awareness

How to Stop Bullying?

How to Stop Bullying

The VictimThe BystanderThe Bully

The Victim - Do

Always tell an adult: Hard to talk about serious things with adults Adults can help put a stop to bullying Tell an adult that you trust and can talk to:

• Parents• Teacher• School counselor• Coach• Nneighbor

The Victim - Do

So, you've told a grown-up and they haven't done anything TELL SOMEONE ELSE

Get another person to go with you for support: A friend A sister A brother

The Victim - Do

Tell exactly what has happened: Who did the bullying Where and when it happened How long it's been happening How it's making you feel

The Victim - Do

Ask the adult what they will do to help stop the bullying

It is the adult’s job to help keep you safeMost adults really care about bullyingMost will do everything they can to help

The Victim - Do

Stay in a group Bullies like to pick on kids who are by

themselves a lot It's easier They're more likely to get away it Don’t be an easy "target“ Have others around to help you

The Victim - Do

Stand up to the person who is bullying youHe might back offDon’t fightTell the person bullying you that you don't

like it and that they should stopKeep it simpleThen walk away

The Victim - Do

If you are being bullied online, don't replyThis may actually make the bullying worseTell a family member or another adultBlock any more communicationsOnly to accept messages from people you knowSave evidence of the bullyingPrint out or save a nasty e-mail

The Victim – Don’t

Think it's your fault - nobody deserves to be bullied

Fight back or bully another person backWon't make things any betterMight get you into big troubleYou want to act better than the bully

The Victim – Don’t

Keep it to yourselfHope the bullying will go awayIt's normal to want to ignore bullyingBullying don't stop until adults and other

kids get involved

The Victim – Don’t

Skip school or avoid clubs or sportsMissing out on school or activities that you

enjoy isn't the answerYou have a right to be thereThink that you're a tattle tale if you tellTelling is NOT tattlingIt's the right thing to do

The Victim – Don’t

Hurt yourselfSome kids get so sad and depressed that they may

try to hurt themselvesThey think there is nothing else they can doThis definitely isn't the answerTalk with an adult immediately and tell them how

you are feelingThey can help stop the bullying

The Bystander

Report the bullying to an adultIt's the right thing to do and it's not tattlingWho should you tell?

Teacher School counselor or nurse Parents Coach Any adult you feel comfortable talking with

The Bystander

Ask a friend to go along with youTell the adult exactly what happened

Who was bullied Who did the bullying Where and when it happened

If you're not sure if another kid is being bullied but you think they probably are – it's good to report that, too

The Bystander

Most adults really care about bullying and will be VERY glad that you told them

If you told an adult and you don't think they did anything about the bullying (or if it isn't getting any better), find another adult to tell

The Bystander

Support someone who is being bullied Just be there for him or her and be a friend Walk home after school Sitting together on the bus or at lunch Include him or her in school activities Spend some time with him or her Understand what he or she is going through Show that you care about him or her and the problems he

or she is facing

The Bystander

Stand up to the person doing the bullying: Tell the bully that what he or she is doing is wrong Tell the bully that he or she should stop Keep it simple Get some friends to join you They are more likely to stop if it's not cool Don't bully them back It's not easy to stand up to kids who may be bigger and

stronger than you or really popular Be sure to tell an adult

The Bully

If you are hurting or threatening others in some way

If you are using your size, strength or popularity to do it

If you do it repeatedly and oftenYou're probably bullying someone

The Bully

Hurting and making others feel bad is NEVER cool

Admitting that you are doing things to harm others takes some guts

Trying to find out what you should do to change the way you're acting

That's a step in the right direction

The Bully

Think about what you're doing and how it affects others

You may have forgotten what it feels like to be hurt yourself Calling others names Pushing, hitting or stealing is funny Teasing, hitting, keeping others out of a group

The Bully

So the next time you are about to bully someone: Put yourself in their shoes Think about how it must make them feel And just don't do it

Talk to an adult

Ask the Experts – Web Links

Ask The Experts: Middle and High School Students in Montana

Ask The Experts: Questions About What To Do When You See Bullying

Ask The Experts: Questions From Girls About Bullying

Ask The Experts: Questions From Boys About Bullying

Conclusion/Summary

http://www.stopbullyingnow.hrsa.gov/kids/what-can-you-do.aspx