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Reviewing Self-Disclosure True/False: Self-Disclosure must involve
intentionality, choice, private information, and risk
Which is more personal/private? History or Story True/False: Self-Disclosure is an objective process How does reciprocity factor into self-disclosure? What are some reasons individuals choose to
self-disclose? What are some reasons individuals decide NOT to
self-disclose? What does the Social Penetration Model/Theory say
about personal information and self-disclosure?
Communicating Conflict
Chapter 9 Recap/Lecture
True or False? Conflict is avoidable Conflict can be productive
Interpersonal Conflict “The interaction of interdependent
people who perceive incompatible goals and interference from each other in achieving those goals” (p. 180)
Elements of Interpersonal Conflict Interaction
Created/sustained through communication Interdependence
Some relationship; need for each other Perceptions
….of incompatible goals Also consider selective perceptions (in
interactions) Conflict as Goal Oriented
Incompatible goals
Dark Side vs. Bright Side
Dark Side of Conflict
Bullying Violence and
Aggression
Bright Side of Conflict
Managing conflict part of being a competent communicator
Productive conflict management promotes physical and mental health
Expressing feelings; learning those of others
Relationship maintenance Increasing confidence Increasing depth
Improves decision making skills
Types of Conflict Image Conflicts
Disagreement about self definition/image Content (Substantive) Conflicts
Public vs. Private Revolves around an issue
Value Conflicts Addresses a question of right or wrong
Relational Conflicts Issues about a relationship
Serial Conflicts Focuses on time frame; not subject (unlike other 4 types) Recur over time; no resolution Serial Conflicts Meta-Conflicts
Overlapping?
Myths about Conflict All conflict is a result of
miscommunication Good communication resolves ALL
conflict Talking about conflict is always the best
strategy Additional:
All conflict is negative Conflict is avoidable
Role of Gender, Sex, and Culture Gender and Sex
Relational life vs. Public life Collaborative vs. Competitive
Culture How we behave in conflict What we have conflict about
Communication Patterns Symmetrical Escalation Symmetrical Withdrawal Pursuit-Withdrawal vs. Withdrawal-
Pursuit Symmetrical Negotiation Which of the patterns are positive?
Negative?
Explaining/Understanding Conflict
The Four-Part Model Interdependence of Four
Parts; happen simultaneously You and Me: Participants Context: Emotional
background Subject: Topic of the argument Ignoring any part; unhealthy
Placating (no “me”) Pouncing (no “you”) Computing (no “context”) Distracting (no “subject”)
The Explanatory Process Model Conflict occurs in
episodes Distal Context Proximal Context Conflict Interaction Proximal Outcomes Distal Outcomes
Background
Power and Conflict How do the two relate? Power = ‘ability to control behavior of others’ Use of Power
Direct application of power (e.g. spanking) Direct and virtual use of power (e.g. threatening to spank) Indirect application of power (e.g. “I’d like to see that room
clean asap”) Relational messages (e.g. “I’m your mother”)
Hidden Power (e.g. Turning down date; mom won’t approve)
Power is relational Most consider responses to power Sex differences? Empowerment
Conflict Management Staying calm (lightening up)
Stay in the present Acknowledge other’s comments Provide nonverbal and verbal feedback Reframing
Presume/express goodwill; don’t expect the worst Ask questions Listen
Consider active listening Practice cultural sensitivity
Application Exercise Create a skit about interpersonal conflict based on the type
of conflict you are assigned Your skit should walk us through the conflict and ways to
mediate the conflict—based on what was learned through the chapter Use an example of a communication pattern and/or the
use of power (as discussed in the chapter) After each skit, groups will have to walk us through how the
skit served as a real life example of interpersonal conflict Using the Four Part Model or the Explanatory Model
(whichever you are assigned) Cannot pull an example from the book; be creative!!!