Restoring the Foundations Orphan Heart Orphan Lifestyle Chester and Betsy Kylstra.

Restoring the FoundationsOrphan Heart

Orphan Lifestyle


Orphan Lifestyle

Chester and Betsy KylstraChester and Betsy Kylstra

An OrphanAn Orphan

What Is An Orphan?What Is An Orphan?

One who does not have parents. One who believes he is all alone. One who believes he has to take care of

himself;

i.e., his survival depends on his own efforts. He is without help or support.

HE IS ON HIS OWN!

One who does not have parents. One who believes he is all alone. One who believes he has to take care of

himself;

i.e., his survival depends on his own efforts. He is without help or support.

HE IS ON HIS OWN!

Adam and Eve started the process …..

and this Curse of the“Orphan Lifestyle/Heart”continues within the Human Race ….. Even to Today!

Adam and Eve started the process …..

and this Curse of the“Orphan Lifestyle/Heart”continues within the Human Race ….. Even to Today!

Orphan Heart/Lifestyle(Orphan Spirit – Jack Frost)Orphan Heart/Lifestyle(Orphan Spirit – Jack Frost)

Stands on Two PillarsStands on Two Pillars

Neglected Rejected Isolated Victimized Abused

Neglected Rejected Isolated Victimized Abused

Orphan Heart/LSOrphan Heart/LS

RebellionRebellionAbandonmentAbandonment Deception Defiance Reject Parents (fire them)

Independence Self-Sufficiency

Deception Defiance Reject Parents (fire them)

Independence Self-Sufficiency

But Jesus …..But Jesus …..

Galations 4:4-5 4:4 But when the fulness of the time was come, God sent forth his Son, made of a woman, made under the law, 4:5 To redeem them that were under the law, that we might receive the adoption of sons.

Galations 4:4-5 4:4 But when the fulness of the time was come, God sent forth his Son, made of a woman, made under the law, 4:5 To redeem them that were under the law, that we might receive the adoption of sons.

But Jesus:But Jesus:

John 14:18

I will not leave you as orphans; I will come to you.

John 14:18

I will not leave you as orphans; I will come to you.

Father’s Love

Contrasting the Orphan with the Son

Father’s Love

Contrasting the Orphan with the Son

* From Jack Frost’s Teaching on the Father’s Love* From Jack Frost’s Teaching on the Father’s Love

Father’s Love #1*Father’s Love #1*Orphan: Off-Center Father’s Love Sonship: On-Center

Seeing God as Master

IMAGE OF GOD

Seeing God as Loving Father


Image of GodImage of God

Seeing God as Master Seeing God as Loving Father

Seeing God as Master Seeing God as Loving Father



IMAGE OF GOD


Slaves/Servants POSITION Sons & Daughters




IMAGE OF GOD



Independent & Self-Reliant

DEPENDENCY Interdependent & Submissive




IMAGE OF GOD





Love of Law THEOLOGY Law of Love

* From Jack Frost’s Teaching on the Father’s Love



IMAGE OF GOD





Love of Law THEOLOGY Law of Love

Insecure-No peace, Burdens, Anxieties

SECURITY Rest & Peace

* From Jack Frost’s Teaching on the Father’s Love

Father’s Love #2Father’s Love #2Orphan: Off-Center Father’s Love Sonship: On-Center

Seek the Praise of man, which leads to striving and insecurity

NEED FOR APPROVAL

Rest in Father’s acceptance and being justified by grace


Seek the Praise of man, which leads to striving and insecurity

NEED FOR APPROVAL

Rest in Father’s acceptance and being justified by grace

Motivated by a need for personal achievement which leads to a fear of failure in God’s eyes and thus, deserving of rejection

MOTIVE FOR SERVICE

Love precedes service -- Service is motivated by deep gratitude for being loved and accepted unconditionally by the Father


Duty & Burden MOTIVE BEHIND

CHRISTIAN DISCIPLINES

Pleasure & Delight




Pleasure & Delight

“Must” be holy, thus driven by ever-increasing guilt and shame

MOTIVE FOR PURITY

“Want to” be holy; do not want anything to hinder intimate relationship




Pleasure & Delight

“Must” be holy, thus driven by ever-increasing guilt and shame

MOTIVE FOR PURITY

“Want to” be holy; do not want anything to hinder intimate relationship

Compare yourself with others – a form of self-rejection

IMAGE OF YOURSELF

Fully loved and accepted as you are


Seeks counterfeit affections – addictions, compulsions, busyness, escapism, hyper-religious activity

COMFORT Daily seeks rest and comfort in the loving arms of Father


Seeks counterfeit affections – addictions, compulsions, busyness, escapism, hyper-religious activity

COMFORT Daily seeks rest and comfort in the loving arms of Father

Competition, rivalry, and jealous of other’s success and position

RELATIONSHIP WITH OTHERS

Humility & Unity – Valuing others and able to rejoice with other’s successes and grieving with them over their failures


Accusation & Exposure

HANDLING OTHER’S FAULTS

Love covers; seek to restore in a spirit of love & gentleness





Bondage CONDITION Liberty





Bondage CONDITION Liberty

Distant SENSE OF GOD’S

PRESENCE

Close & Intimate


Conditional, guarded, based on other’s performance – seeking to get own love need met in others

EXPRESSION OF LOVE TO

OTHERS

Patient, affectionate, & gentle – laying your life and agendas down in order to meet other’s love need


Orphan Lifestyle

Applying the Four Ministry Areas


Orphan Lifestyle

Applying the Four Ministry Areas

Key Facets of Restoring the Foundations MinistryKey Facets of Restoring the Foundations Ministry Forgiveness Sins of the Fathers and Resulting Curses – Removing Affects of Generational Sins Ungodly Beliefs – Renewing the Mind Soul/Spirit Hurts – Healing the Inner Wounds Demonic Oppression – Deliverance Ongoing Cooperation with the Holy Spirit – “Walking it Out”

Forgiveness Sins of the Fathers and Resulting Curses – Removing Affects of Generational Sins Ungodly Beliefs – Renewing the Mind Soul/Spirit Hurts – Healing the Inner Wounds Demonic Oppression – Deliverance Ongoing Cooperation with the Holy Spirit – “Walking it Out”

Orphan Heart: Core Ungodly BeliefsOrphan Heart: Core Ungodly Beliefs

• I am all alone.• No one cares about me.• I have to take care of myself.• The World is a cold, cruel, dangerous place.

• I am all alone.• No one cares about me.• I have to take care of myself.• The World is a cold, cruel, dangerous place.

• People are dangerous.• I will never trust anyone again.

• It is not safe to be submitted to another.• I will not let anyone control me.

• Other people are incompetent.• I will do “it” my way.

• People are dangerous.• I will never trust anyone again.

• It is not safe to be submitted to another.• I will not let anyone control me.

• Other people are incompetent.• I will do “it” my way.

Typical Judgments and VowsTypical Judgments and Vows

Sonship PrayerSonship Prayer

Key Facets of Restoring the Foundations MinistryKey Facets of Restoring the Foundations Ministry

– Forgiveness Sins of the Fathers and Resulting Curses – Removing Affects of Generational Sins Ungodly Beliefs – Renewing the Mind Soul/Spirit Hurts – Healing the Inner Wounds Demonic Oppression – Deliverance

– Ongoing Cooperation with the Holy Spirit “Walking it Out”

– Forgiveness Sins of the Fathers and Resulting Curses – Removing Affects of Generational Sins Ungodly Beliefs – Renewing the Mind Soul/Spirit Hurts – Healing the Inner Wounds Demonic Oppression – Deliverance

– Ongoing Cooperation with the Holy Spirit “Walking it Out”

Restoring the FoundationsOrphan Heart/Lifestyle

Ministry

Restoring the FoundationsOrphan Heart/Lifestyle

Ministry


Fear Rebellion Abandonment Victim

of Submission Unsubmissiveness Rejection Entrapment

of Authorities Independence Wanderer Slavery

of Man Self-Reliance Fatherless Bondage

of Failure Self-Sufficiency Shame Desolation

of Rejection Stubbornness Slave Mentality

Resistance Poverty Mentality

Control Dishonor Fatherless ness

Manipulation Homelessness Anger

Domination Loss of Inheritance

Resentment

Pride Orphan Unforgiveness

Passivity Illegitimacy Hatred

Orphan Heart: Sins of the Fathers and CursesOrphan Heart: Sins of the Fathers and Curses

UGB: I will always need to be strong, protect, defend and take care of myself because there is no one else to be responsible for me or care for me.

GB: God is my source, my strength, and my defender. I choose to look to Him and trust Him to provide for me in whatever way He chooses. I release the responsibility of my life into the hands of the Lord.

UGB: I will always need to be strong, protect, defend and take care of myself because there is no one else to be responsible for me or care for me.

GB: God is my source, my strength, and my defender. I choose to look to Him and trust Him to provide for me in whatever way He chooses. I release the responsibility of my life into the hands of the Lord.

Orphan Lifestyle: Ungodly Belief #1Orphan Lifestyle: Ungodly Belief #1

UGB: Something is wrong with me. I am not worthy of being protected.

GB: I am accepted in the beloved. I have been made worthy through Jesus and He desires to be my protector and my shield.

UGB: Something is wrong with me. I am not worthy of being protected.

GB: I am accepted in the beloved. I have been made worthy through Jesus and He desires to be my protector and my shield.

Orphan Lifestyle: Ungodly Belief #2Orphan Lifestyle: Ungodly Belief #2

UGB: I'll never be a priority with those in authority over me.

GB: I am a priority with God because of Jesus Christ. I choose to submit to and pray for those in authority that God has placed over me knowing that as I humble myself He will exalt me in due season.

UGB: I'll never be a priority with those in authority over me.

GB: I am a priority with God because of Jesus Christ. I choose to submit to and pray for those in authority that God has placed over me knowing that as I humble myself He will exalt me in due season.

Orphan Heart: Ungodly Belief #3Orphan Heart: Ungodly Belief #3

UGB: No one will ever love me enough to take care of me.

GB: God loves me with an everlasting love and He has drawn me with loving-kindness. He loves me so much that He has a plan and a purpose for my life, a plan to prosper me and to give me hope and a future. He will bring those into my life who will love me and be apart of fulfilling that purpose.

UGB: No one will ever love me enough to take care of me.

GB: God loves me with an everlasting love and He has drawn me with loving-kindness. He loves me so much that He has a plan and a purpose for my life, a plan to prosper me and to give me hope and a future. He will bring those into my life who will love me and be apart of fulfilling that purpose.


UGB: I'm a victim of my circumstances and there is no hope of change.

GB: Jesus is my hope and He is changing me from glory to glory so that I am free and an overcomer no matter what my circumstances.

UGB: I'm a victim of my circumstances and there is no hope of change.

GB: Jesus is my hope and He is changing me from glory to glory so that I am free and an overcomer no matter what my circumstances.


UGB: The significant people in my life are not there for me and will not be there when I need them.

GB: The Lord is always there for me and when I need help He will place the right people in my life at the right time to help meet my needs.

UGB: The significant people in my life are not there for me and will not be there when I need them.

GB: The Lord is always there for me and when I need help He will place the right people in my life at the right time to help meet my needs.


(We want a memory where rebellion and dishonor to your mother or father began. When you judged them, closing off your spirit to them. When you rebelled and made a decision to become independent and said, “I can do it better myself.”

What you are looking for is where did you begin to lack sonship?

Ask this question: “At what moment did I cease being a son or daughter”)

(We want a memory where rebellion and dishonor to your mother or father began. When you judged them, closing off your spirit to them. When you rebelled and made a decision to become independent and said, “I can do it better myself.”

What you are looking for is where did you begin to lack sonship?

Ask this question: “At what moment did I cease being a son or daughter”)

Orphan Heart: Soul/Spirit HurtsOrphan Heart: Soul/Spirit Hurts

Fear Rebellion Abandonment Victim

of Submission Unsubmissiveness

Rejection Entrapment

of Authorities Independence Wanderer Slavery

of Man Self-Reliance Fatherless Bondage

of Failure Self-Sufficiency Shame Desolation

of Rejection Stubbornness Slave Mentality

Resistance Poverty Mentality

Control Dishonor Fatherless ness

Manipulation Homelessness Anger

Domination Loss of Inheritance

Resentment

Pride Orphan Unforgiveness

Passivity Illegitimacy Hatred

Orphan Heart: Demonic OppressionOrphan Heart: Demonic Oppression

Orphan Heart: Demonic Oppression #1Orphan Heart: Demonic Oppression #1REBELLION FEAR ABANDONMENT

Independence of Submission Rejection

Self-Reliance of Authorities Loneliness

Self-Sufficiency of Man Unprotected

Stubbornness of Failure Neglect

Resistance of Rejection Isolation

Mistrust of Losing Control

Withdrawal

Confusion of Punishment Self-Pity

Unsubmissive of Inadequacy Hopelessness

Intimidation Fatherlessness

Shame

Orphan Heart: Demonic Oppression #2Orphan Heart: Demonic Oppression #2ANGER UNFORGIVENESS

Resentment Bitterness

Frustration Accusation

Hatred Critical

Retaliation Judging

Revenge Ridiculing

Strife Murmuring

Mocking Blaming

Destruction Fault Finding

Sarcasm

Orphan Heart: Demonic Oppression #3Orphan Heart: Demonic Oppression #3ORPHAN VICTIM CONTROL

Loss of Inheritance Entrapment Manipulation

Homelessness Slavery Domination

Vagabond (Slave Mentality) Passivity

Wanderer Bondage People Pleasing

Nomad Desolation Pride

Gypsy Poverty Selfishness

Discontent Helplessness Self-Centeredness

Restlessness Suspicion Possessiveness

Fatherlessness

Illegitimacy

Orphan Heart: Demonic Oppression #4Orphan Heart: Demonic Oppression #4

DECEPTION SHAME

Doubt Embarrassment

Unbelief Humiliation

Lying Guilt

Confusion Condemnation

Self-Deception Unworthiness

Delusion Inferiority

Justifying Insecurity


Orphan Lifestyle


Orphan Lifestyle


Restoring the Foundations Orphan Heart Orphan Lifestyle Chester and Betsy Kylstra.

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